You know, or maybe not, that I am not completely chat room stupid. Yet, I am frustrated at this moment.

Some of you know that my fiance passed away 5 weeks ago. Knowing how wonderful the mingle community has been, I had this cooky idea that I could reach out and chat with others that have been in my situation. With respect to mingle members, there are not many here that want to chat about death. I do not blame them. I wish with all my might that I did not have to either. Yet the time has come where I could use some help.

So part of this silly notion of mine is that I could find a community on line, (similar to mingle, with real time chat) that I could join to talk with others about what I am going through, maybe even get some insight that could help. Well guess what? Either I am stupid or have lost the ability to find ONE on line, real time, chat group.

Google search has lead me in a wicked circle.

If anyone here knows of any such groups I would be thankfull. Or any suggested search methods that would be better than google, please, please inlighten me. Message me direct if you are uncomfortable posting here.

Thanks.
Robin

I am so sorry to learn of your loss

Thank you.

Help guide. org

Oh, thank you.

I am so very sorry for your loss....

Hi Robin

We're here for you. It's probably better your right to talk to someone more real time as you go through this but maybe we can check in on you and you us on this thread or another. It's a very weird thing to go through this and everyone does it differently but your with a lot of people who can love you.

if you need to talk we're right here

Love & light

So sorry for your loss.....

Strength .....

Thanks Doll.

You need an ear or shoulder, you know where I am...

Thank you. Part of the problem is that I know me, I can talk, but I am having a hard time expressing what I am feeling. It is so jumbled up right now, every emotion that I am feeling right now is so polar opposite and screaming for attention. I figured that if I could hear others and what they did to deal with this, it might help me figure out where and what to do next.

Thank you sweety.

sorry for your loss.. everything happens for a reason whether its a good or bad, we just need to accept and moved on..
"Trust me in your times of trouble, and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory" Psalm 50:15

Robin

Your doing good by talking a little. I didn't talk about it for years. I think you need to go with the flow and just let it undo itself as you go.

My sister lost her husband about 2 weeks ago and we just kinda take it as it comes. She goes through every detail with me and that's her way. For you your going to find the way that is best, but what ever you do don't judge yourself for not doing something right about dealing with it cause there is no right. It goes from numb to all out and back again. Very natural to experience a wide range.

II cor 1:3-4 God comforts us so we can in turn comfort those who vgo thru the things we do. God wouldn't let it happen to you if you weren't able to bear it. Someone will come ur way that will need the benefit of ur experience thru t65his heartache

ohhhhhhhhhh sweetie.. still taking it all in.. loss is different for everyone... scream if you have to .. right a journal and get out all the mumbo jumbo that is filling your mind... cry.. just stop ,, sit and let your body breathe... exhale and start again....

Meditation .. long walks and yes taling out loud.. hearing your own voice... saying whatever it needs to release at the moment

there is no right or wrong...

much love to you...

Robin I was and am so sorry this happen..Its not that we all think we shall always be here, but its sad when we do go..For us,, we want to STAY,,for those around us and close inside our hearts,,Its so bitterly angry and at the same time so ever sad as we know we can't be here for them..And their love for us is so greatly felt,,that we have nothing to put real words into a sentence that helps our loved ones caring on,,except to know we loved them,,and we shall meet again,,on the other-side, in Heaven..
I'm 54,,so I have lost MORE life long friends,,than I have left here to still share with..
Nothing gets us over their leaving,,NOTHING!
But we do learn to live WITH THEIR VOID of not sharing with us anymore.
We pass our days miserably, at the beginning,,and as each new day comes,,we lose time of their present..and everyday their in our thoughts and even unrelaxed silly things,,like a phone ringing,,and that OH,,ITS THEM?,,Then reality hits us in the face as we relize,,no it can't be,,they died..then WE HAVE TO DWELL ON THAT for a bit more,,and the one who IS calling as we answer,,its all SAD and wrong in our shakened thoughts at that moment...THEN,,their asking IF WE'RE OK?,,lol and it gets better Robin....
You will never find another him,,but thats how life is..we're not suppose to,,we can only find someone who makes us feel good about US,,and about life..
God gave us memories so we will ALWAYS have them still with us,,in our hearts, minds, and the very special ways they lived life in our presents..
My Mother just turned 87 and she lost her man thirty years ago,,then she went on to live longer than any of her siblings,,her best friends gone to,,,but she still has her jest for laughter and her strong will to worry about others,,she amazes me sometimes...
And in THAT,,I think WE amaze our selves as e get through some of what looks like and seems to be,,the worst times we could ever be put through...But we do it..
And thats just the way we were made inside to do,,to go forward,,and get through difficulty and to over-come...
It does come at many bad struggles,,and many tearful days and nights.
And what your looking for is the compassions of others suffering this loss,,for you to have as a helping push for your recovery to re-enter a willingness to go on...
Personally to me,,there is no greater Harmony to help,,than a local Church to give you a very personal environment to over-come his leaving you....If you don't have one where you have gone to it,,seek out any friends Church to attend with them,,or go alone there,,but trust me,,,when it comes to death,,,the only Keys to be found to open the doors of escape and feeling them with you,,,is through God and Church.
Talking about it is fine,,don't get me wrong here,,but w/o a KNOWING HE'S WITH CHRIST,,inside all of your being,,,you will have unanswered questions that leave you searching....
I hope and Pray you shall find all that you need to help you get through this,,,and your be in my Prayers for your healing,,hugs and much love to you I am always an email away,,,,

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Heres a few I 've heard of
http://www.groww.org/chat/gr.htm
http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html
http://www.google.com/search?q=grief+chat+rooms&hl=en&safe=strict&noj=1&prmd=ivns&ei=F0D0TaTFAsKWtwfzyrCdBw&start=10&sa=N&biw=1003&bih=596

((((((((((((((ROBIN))))))))))) u know ur friends are always around if u need to chat bout anything i always told you that im almost always near not too far for an email either.

{{{{{{{Kerry}}}}}}