I think it's because of the economy and people are just trying to survive.

But I do have to say this if one happens to come along that's worth a second look I sho won't pass it up. I'm willing to date a little just to see what's out there but if it doesn't work that doesn't mean you can't be friends

not really hard to find > like myself most of the Ladies I like don't want anything to do with me > most people look at someone looks or body tpye

hi.am honest man.my job as enginer and my hobbiz am songs writer and good singer am 40y old.chack my profail and tell me do you like friendship with me.

here's some honesty for you ladies, i spent too many years trying to be what i thought women want because it payed good "dividens" then i woke up and and now have found who i am and what i want. which has led me to a great relationship and happiness. enjoyed reading all your post thank you. ps i'm a 46 year old male and not gay!!!!! nor do i live with my mommy!!

Most women still want the man to pursue her, just the type of man she wants to pursue her. As a guy I don't believe in hitting my head against a brick wall. All I have heard in my life is the complaints of so many women who have had men pursue them that they were not interested in. So I figure if a women is not interested in me because I don't match her check off list (height, weight, etc) I don't pursue her. That leaves me in the friend zone more often than not, regardless of how I may feel about her. Because I would rather have her in my life as a friend than not at all.

Is it so difficult to get decent honest gals over 40?

I am 39, been married twice, and divorced AGAIN... not becouse i have done anything wrong, both times my wife(S) cheated on me. I am a nice guy, the one that holds the door open, pulls a chair out for you, calls you and asks how your day went, listens to you when you cry, or laugh,I bring flowers home on random days, and when i do come home i always walk upto you and give you a kiss and hug and tell you i missed you during the day.. and they still cheated on me... my 2nd wife i forgave the first time she did, and i even forgave her the 2nd time, but the third time i told her to leave and never come back. that was 2 years ago.. this year i tryed dating again, after being single for a time... i found someoen i "THOUGHT" we were perfect for each other, i started to really care for this woman. she had 3 kids, i do not have a problem with getting involved with a woman who has kids, hell that usally shows she has settled down a little.. she was also marired twice,, to bad boys... go figure.. but she chose me to start something with. it was going well i though for about 5 months, then all of a sudden i got laid off from work, and had to find a new job, she stopped calling me, or wanting me to come over, would not answer my emails anymore,, all of a sudden for no reason,, poof i am out in the cold.. when i finally talked to her, she said shes jsut gotten to busy to continue being with me, and that becouse i have a new job not making the money i once was, i can no longer "SUPPORT" her the way she want to be,,. after 7 months dating.... I am considring not being so,,,,"NICE" anymore,, i am also considering staying single, but i figured, once more kick at the can, and if i can not find someone to love me for whats INSIDE my skin, not my bank account or by what i drive, and how many dinners and dancing/movies i can take them too, or bars.... sorry kind of going on a rant here, but you really want to know where all the nice guys are, I USED TO BE ONE,, we will see if i continue to be so nice anymore.....

Alan

Im 45 and been married to the same woman for 27 years ! I realized early on that she had a rough life growing up and did not make the best choices sometimes like bought something instead of paying bills ! So hey no power or no heat or no phone but we had a son and i loved her and knew her up bringing wasnt good so i stuck by her and this went on for 10 years there!Then we had a daughter and she began lying to me about things like where she was or what she spent money on and managed to lose our home to the bank just as were about to have our second daughter but i loved her and been together for 20 yr so we worked though it and i stood by her!I started having problems with my joints and it made it hard to work but i did until my plant closed ! While i was off work on unemployment my sleep habits changed so i woke up in the middle of the night to find my wife having cyber sex with dozens of men online very detailed and that just broke my heart ! But at 23 years and 3 kids she tells me she was molested several times as a kid and would not do it again so we worked though it!And things go on and im paying the bills now everythings going good!We go to Gatlinburg Tn for our 25 th and buy her a new car had great time! Then 1 yr later she cheats on me with 30 yr old that was a foster boy who lived with us at 15 !Now im really crushed my whole world crumbled but i love her so much that at 26 yrs i cant imagine her not being in my life! !Well at 27yrs she walked out on me and the 2 girls because she has not loved me for over 15 yrs and i dont trust her anymore !With in 3 wks had new boy friend and acts like we never had anything between us !Where did the good guys go well after all this i dont know if i could ever really give a woman a fair chance !Sorry new to this and i guess just venting ! Anybody know when the pain goes away ?I hope soon

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DEAR TECH SUPPORT:

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that the new program began making unexpected changes to the accounting modules, limiting access to flower and jewellery applications that had operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.9 but installed undesirable programs such as NFL 5.0 and NBA 3.0. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs and HouseCleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system. I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.
--Desperate***

Dear Desperate,
Keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an entertainment package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system. Try to enter the command: C:/ I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME and install Tears 6.2. Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications: Guilty 3.0 and Flowers 7.0. But remember, overuse can cause Husband 1.0 to default to GrumpySilence 2.5, Happyhour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will create "Snoring Loudly" wave files. DO NOT install MotherInLaw 1.0 or reinstall another Boyfriend program. These are not supported applications and will crash Husband 1.0

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. Consider buying additional software to improve performance. I personally recommend HotFood 3.0 and Lingerie 5.3.

Good Luck! Tech Support