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Topic: When will I ever learn?
RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 08/28/11 06:47 PM

To everyone who responded I want to thank you for your honest replies, yes even Mr.Biscuit. laugh When it comes to matters of the heart and you're looking from the outside looking in it is easy to give advice because you're looking at how you would deal with the situation. But when you're the one on the inside it can be a challenge.

After meeting with him I don't know why I came here first to the forum to vent. I guess I've read enough positive responses to others that I felt comfortable posting what happened. At my age one would think I'd be pass stupid relationship problems like this but I am human. I make mistakes, I fall but I get right back up until I get it right. And that's what I intend on doing.

And you're right krupa, I met him here on Mingle2 but I shouldn't look at the site or any other men on the site in a negative way. I'm feeling good now, I'm not sad or upset. Thank you all for letting me vent, and I hope this thread will help someone else stand up and take control. I want you guys to know, I think you are awesome!!!


At least you didn't marry the same person twice like I did. You were smart enough to quit while you were ahead.:smile:

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Mon 08/29/11 02:36 AM
I suppose you have to get to the stage where you get so fed up of his behaviour, that you just won't want to be around him anymore. I only finally walked away from an ex, when i realised he'd only keep on doing the same things to me, over and over. I partly blame his upbringing. He always reflects his mothers behaviour, which hmmm, isn't good in many ways. I can see why his dad wanted to divorce her. Jmo. Hopefully you're ALREADY sick of the game, and have reached "No Return" ;)

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Mon 08/29/11 02:37 AM
Edited by Shy_Emo_chick on Mon 08/29/11 03:05 AM

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Mon 08/29/11 03:41 PM

Ok, the last time I wrote about this subject I receive some very good advice, but being stupid I didn't follow it guys. I met my ex today and it didn't go so well. I ended up leaving fighting back tears so I wouldn't look so stupid in front of people at Starbucks. Honestly I know it won't work, and I've accepted that as much as I still care for him.

And as to not keep putting the both of us through any more drama I ended the almost 3 year relationship explaining why and that we both need to look for someone who is truly right for us. I stopped calling and,emailing him. For awhile I ignored his contacts all together. Today I broke down and agreed to meet him for coffee. He feel like I'm calling all the shots, and he feels used. Used he says. What is freakin wrong with this man? How long will it really take me to just stop going thur this? Is there something wrong with me? Has anyone ever gone thur this before? I'm almost afraid to meet anyone online again, or at least on Mingles.
i had arelationship with a guy for 8 years.we were engaged. I stopd contact withimore than 10yrs ago.because i wanted to endit. Yes there were many times iwas hoping nextime it will be betr. When he promisd he wil treatme betr iwantd to believ him. He had 8yrs to showme how he would treat me and hes time was up. Iwas not happy inthat relationship.so i ended it. And ididlove him. I know how you feel and its not easy to end a relationship. Ithink its time you decide what you want. Ifyouwantyour ex,gofor it!and make changes inthe relationship.gofor mariage counceling.set bounderies.tel him ifyou slap me once its over4good. Treatme like a lady or get lost. And ifyou dont want your ex anymore.go ondates with new people..you cant realy stop loving people you will just start loving some1new2 and onedayou wilove himore than you lov your ex,cuz your new man treats you with compasion understanding and love you unconditioly.keep searching you wil find mr right unles your mr wrong wants to turn into mr right. Good luck. Its human to love. We wil suport you regardles your choices.dont lower your standards on how aman should treat you.if he doesnt measure up move on.

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Mon 08/29/11 05:28 PM
Okay...u really do need to come down to Florida...I'll take you party all night long at South Beach areas...or we can just stay bar hopping closer to my place...till they close at 6am...yay!!! bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile drinker drinker drinker drinker drinker drinker drinks drinks drinks drinks; thought I cheer u up....just let go..let go..let go..let go....and let go.......let go...unless you wanna be your own worst enemy....drinker drinker drinker drinker

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