Six years ago, I was back on the singles scene following the break up of a long term relationship. Although I have had relationships since then, I’m still single and I sometimes wonder what if I’m still single in my (insert number here).

Knowing me as well as I do, I don’t think it would bother me too much but I don’t know… would I get lonely and I settle? Or would I keep looking for that special someone?

Do you have a cut off age? Or will you keep searching?

I'm not really looking anymore. If someone comes along, and can somehow convince me that she's not going to try to change me into Ward Cleaver, then, fine, let's take a shot at it. But, realistically, I don't see that happening. They don't want the same things I want in life.

And, while I think it's important to remain flexible overall in your standards, I've got a couple of no-wiggle-room deal-breakers that seem to effectively eliminate 112% of the female population of the earth.

Having read quite a few posts whereby you have stated that being asked to change (too much)is a deal breaker. Do you have set parameters whereby you put the breaks on? Is asking you to put the toilet seat down is ok but asking you to cook a sunday roast and you're out the door. How do you communicate this to the person that you’re hoping to meet? I'm just curious..

Okay there is a difference from openly looking, to being open if someone comes along, to not being open to a relationship period. In my twenties I was openly looking. Now I am open to someone coming along that I am compatible with. I doubt that I will ever completely shut off the openness to a relationship. Even though I am completely comfortable with myself and my life the way it is now, I would like the companionship of a partner to do all the things in life together.

I am young and nowhere near an age I'd even consider giving up.

I don't believe age plays any part in the
search for a connection with affection.

You make a very good point Dragoness..but in my mind, there are two different forms of companionship. One is settling. The other is different. Don’t know if I can explain it but there is a difference.

Age doesn't matter when it comes to settling. It happens to both young and old.

I don't know how old you are Singme but what if you were still single 20 years from now.

Then I'd see how I felt then. As of now, I wouldn't give up.

Everyone has a different take on things but for me when love turns into affection...it's too different emotions in my mind.

negative one hundred.

I'm sorry bhernandez, I don't get your comment.

i mean i don't date.
i won't date.
i don't see the point of dating.
that's pessimistic me though.

Nothing wrong with a healthy dose of pessimism

√2750²

No, I don't care about any of that stuff. (Well, no one in their right mind would ask me to cook anything unless they were a pyromaniac, but let's not dwell on that one.)

My deal-breakers are pretty simple: No kids, no alcohol, no drugs. Problem is, it's practically impossible to find anyone on dating sites who doesn't have kids and/or who doesn't drink. But those are the things I refuse to budge on.

The other stuff is all just preferences. Yes, it would be nice to meet a girl with a 160 IQ who was into m-theory and sahelanthropus tchadensis and Dr. Who. That is probably not going to happen, though, and it's not an absolute requirement.

Yes, it would be nice to meet a girl who was involved in creative endeavors, as we would have some common ground there. Unfortunately, the most creative thing a lot of people have done is opening a box of cereal.

But it never really even gets to the point where the preferences come into play, because nobody gets past the deal-breakers.

2750

Ok..I see your dilemma..I don't know what m-theory, sahelanthropus or tchademis is (and too lazy to look up) but I absolutely love Dr Who (and Torchwood)

Hummmm was not looking when I found the one I just did. And if it happens it does not last, my age has nothing to do with whether I will date again or not..


SHshhshsh as long as I can still see I will keep on looking...