I mean I am 22, and I think I am a nice enough person. But as soon as a guy learns about my illness, he runs for the hills. Why wont anyone give me a chance and get to know me for who I am as a whole not just my illness.

your very pretty and guys can be jackass's and just find some one who would want u and your heart in life and just be there for u

some guys think that an illness is a sign of weakness. They may not want to take a chance their loss. Someday the right man will step in and it won't matter what illness you have be patient.

Because I think people are afraid of that sort of commitment. And I think moreover...people are afraid that they can't be everything that you need. Whether or not you've expressed a need from them at all...

I have MS. I don't disclose that to people because I've run into issues with people thinking that they need to be around to push my wheelchair one day. Well Im' 28...relatively healthy...and I don't need their pity or their help.

I wish you the best of luck with your health as well as with your search for someone who can look past your diagnosis.

People are afraid of stuff like that, when they don't already know the person.

good luck

Well thank you for the compliment. I guess it just bothers me how guys judge me because of an illness I had no control over getting. Its not like I asked to be sick. Its just something that happened.

Just a little thought, I don't know much about you or your illness but wouldn't be a better idea if you kept your illness to your self at first if it has scared so many guys away. I mean let them get to know you and when the time is right and you feel the need to let the guy know more about your illness then let it out by all means.

I'm not saying hinde it or anything, just wait until you feel it's the right timem unless you have been doing that and it's not working out.

Then I don't know what to say.

Maybe there scared, who knows.

John...It seems like a good idea...however...people sometimes thing that when you omit details like that and then spring it on them later...that it's just like lying.

And sometimes people feel trapped by that. They feel guilty that if it's too much for them to handle that if they step back from it they might hurt you...and honestly...that's not really a position anyone needs to be in. The hurtee or the hurter.

I don't know what to say. They need to know fairly early I think...but you shouldn't have to advertise it.

Ps to fingerpaintbynumber I know someone who has MS and I wish you luck and good health.

To JohnCenaWLife I like to be straight forward, I have tried telling them after we get to know eachother but some of them feel like I was keeping it from them, so now I just tell them straight out. Its a part of who I am.

Thanks Stephy...you're in my thoughts and prayers as well.

Well said Finger..the only thing I can add is someday that special person will give you a "chance" and it will be worth the wait

fingerpaintbynumber I get what your saying.

Well if anything after all and no body can handle somebody having an illness then it's there lost I guess.

Stephycats,I get what your saying. You got to do what you have to do.

It sounds like a tough situation to be in. I hope you find a good guy. Ever been to a support group?? There may be people more open there...never know.

I live in a small town in Maine and they dont have any support groups for what I have. They have some downstate but I would have to travel like 8 hours.

Whoa Stephy....Washburn, Maine....girl...we're neighbors...well almost....Belfast, Maine here...*waves to Washburn*

You might be suprised. Check local churches and places like that.
Even AA or Alanon

There a lot of people who aren't alcoholics at AA..you'd be suprised.

I had a girlfriend once, who used to go just cause she like how it made her feel....She barely even drank.....I used to say that was some real fight club stuff

Wow your from Belfast? Excellent, I havent met anyone who was from Maine on here! How are you doing? Its great to meet another mainer lol

Yeah BR77R...I was about to say...Whoa...you were dating Marla?!?!! LOL I love Chuck Palahniuk...

And yeah Stephy...that's awesome...I met a guy who's in VA right now but is from Winter Harbor...but thats about it for Mainers...Other than sick of rain and fog...I'm great!

I think Marla might've had less issues.


whats the best line from fight club???