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Topic: Breaking Up
oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 01/09/12 06:03 PM
I just flat out and out tell them it is going nowhere and I won't be dating her anymore. I assume no intimacy has occurred?

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Mon 01/09/12 06:03 PM
I know a guy who knows a guy whose cousins uncle had a twin brother that sent a strip-o-gram to his future ex then accused her of cheating on him! I worked with a girl when I was young who the stripper sent to her bridal shower ended up being her ex-boyfriend. He had no idea where he was being sent. It did not go over well.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/09/12 06:06 PM
How do you break up with someone you've been dating for less than 6 months? I was thinking of this because of the "stood up" thread. And, being stood up is basically a way of breaking something off right as it gets started. I dated a guy once for a couple of months and I realized he was losing interest or changing his mind or something.... So, I texted him and asked him what was wrong. He texted back and said that we would talk when we met the following week. I said I didn't need to talk about it if he was breaking up with me. He seemed genuinely surprised that I didn't want a long, drawn out face to face conversation. (Although I do give him credit for being willing to have a sit down conversation with me about it). I know when I have broken up with guys I've only been seeing briefly and I break up with them, I just do it. No long explanation. Maybe that's not fair, I'm not sure. What do you do and what do you expect from a break up of a short relationship? You have to give the guy closure or he'll end up like Keanu after you guys broke up. OMG I'd be happy to comfort him....

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Mon 01/09/12 06:09 PM
How do you break up with someone you've been dating for less than 6 months? I was thinking of this because of the "stood up" thread. And, being stood up is basically a way of breaking something off right as it gets started. I dated a guy once for a couple of months and I realized he was losing interest or changing his mind or something.... So, I texted him and asked him what was wrong. He texted back and said that we would talk when we met the following week. I said I didn't need to talk about it if he was breaking up with me. He seemed genuinely surprised that I didn't want a long, drawn out face to face conversation. (Although I do give him credit for being willing to have a sit down conversation with me about it). I know when I have broken up with guys I've only been seeing briefly and I break up with them, I just do it. No long explanation. Maybe that's not fair, I'm not sure. What do you do and what do you expect from a break up of a short relationship? You have to give the guy closure or he'll end up like Keanu after you guys broke up. ...guys are not the only ones whom need closure....after 3 1/2 years the joker "boxerpup" I met on here in 08 remembered I said something about hating goodbyes in the beginning & so I didn't get one....he just moved in with the ex girlfriend (((Debbie Schmuck whata name ))) not everyone needs closure but next time it's going into the 1st serious conversation as a prerequisite.... ~wicked~

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/09/12 06:11 PM
I ALWAYs let them believe it was their idea. It just goes easier after, the ego thing you know. And, they are happy with me, in retrospect :-) So, to answer your query, I never have to break up, I let them do it. One way or another hahaha I am sooooooooooooooo with you on this one Soufie. My recent ex got back together with me, well he tried, I never officially accepted, so he could break up with me. It was somehow important that he be the breaker upper so I let him have that even though we had never officially gotten back together. When I turned down his proposal, he just couldn't live with that until he came back in his own way and felt like he was the dumper. Everyone thinks girls are so fragile, guys are more fragile it seems. I think they just have bigger egos around their guy friends (who often as not cause a good percentage of break ups)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/09/12 06:13 PM
I just flat out and out tell them it is going nowhere and I won't be dating her anymore. I assume no intimacy has occurred? would that matter? If no intimacy had occurred or it hadn't?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 01/09/12 06:34 PM
I'm thinking I need to see some action again...been way toooo long since I have. This is necessary for a break up to occure. So I will postpone my commentary unitl I have at least5 one instance in the past year to refer to. If you have to have at least one instance in the last year then I couldn't even make this thread. That was just my own personal guid line not for everyone to follow. ..Give us thye gory details of when you dump someone Ruth Okay, I think the statute of limitations is up....

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 01/09/12 06:35 PM
I know a guy who knows a guy whose cousins uncle had a twin brother that sent a strip-o-gram to his future ex then accused her of cheating on him! OMG! I know that guy!

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 01/09/12 06:37 PM
after 3 1/2 years the joker "boxerpup" I met on here in 08 remembered I said something about hating goodbyes in the beginning & so I didn't get one.... See now that's the problem with posting in these damn forums. Your words are immortalized for every guy you may ever possibly want to date to come back and haunt you.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Mon 01/09/12 06:42 PM
I dig your new pic BabyRuth.... immortalize THAT! hehehehehehe

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 01/09/12 06:45 PM
I dig your new pic BabyRuth.... immortalize THAT! hehehehehehe Better than the Go-Go's pic?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/09/12 06:46 PM
I dig your new pic BabyRuth.... immortalize THAT! hehehehehehe

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 01/09/12 06:46 PM
I just flat out and out tell them it is going nowhere and I won't be dating her anymore. I assume no intimacy has occurred? would that matter? If no intimacy had occurred or it hadn't? Yes it would matter a lot (to me and probably to her).

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Mon 01/09/12 06:51 PM
I just broke up with a woman I was with for the last year. It is not fun, not pretty, and not any details I want to talk about in here. But all I will say is be honest, be straight forward and move through it as soon as you can. And if you are very, very lucky you can still have a friend at the end. And Ruth, you look MAHVAHLUSS. Krupaaaaa, wassup??

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 01/09/12 06:54 PM
I just broke up with a woman I was with for the last year. It is not fun, not pretty, and not any details I want to talk about in here. So, what happened? Good to see you back here, Phuque.

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Mon 01/09/12 06:58 PM
I just broke up with a woman I was with for the last year. It is not fun, not pretty, and not any details I want to talk about in here. So, what happened? Good to see you back here, Phuque. I ain't tellin . And it is nice to be back in the land of the living...

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Mon 01/09/12 07:02 PM
after 3 1/2 years the joker "boxerpup" I met on here in 08 remembered I said something about hating goodbyes in the beginning & so I didn't get one.... See now that's the problem with posting in these damn forums. Your words are immortalized for every guy you may ever possibly want to date to come back and haunt you. OR worse... Hell I didnt even post it... ..I just said it on the phone....cautionary tail my sweeys...

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Mon 01/09/12 07:19 PM
I tell a guy face to face that its not working between us and we should end it. Mind you; I have never been one to tiptoe around and I am quite direct. I wish that others were direct. I never understood not being direct. Maybe someone who is not/cannot be/doesn't want to be direct can explain it to me? There is no flame suit tough enough for me to attempt that.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/09/12 07:22 PM
I just flat out and out tell them it is going nowhere and I won't be dating her anymore. I assume no intimacy has occurred? would that matter? If no intimacy had occurred or it hadn't? Yes it would matter a lot (to me and probably to her). would that matter in how you handle the break up? Would you be less cut & dried had you been intimate? I think I would be - I think it's harder to let go...

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 01/09/12 07:25 PM
I just flat out and out tell them it is going nowhere and I won't be dating her anymore. I assume no intimacy has occurred? would that matter? If no intimacy had occurred or it hadn't? Yes it would matter a lot (to me and probably to her). would that matter in how you handle the break up? Would you be less cut & dried had you been intimate? I think I would be - I think it's harder to let go... That is why you need to be careful who you are intimate with. I don't want to "use" anybody so if we were not working out I would have to gently break it to her. And re-examine my motives as to why we were intimate in the first place.