Just because he sees you that way does not mean other men see you the same way..

There are plenty of men out there that knows a good woman when they see one and he just has not come your way yet...

Words of truth, Kristi.....

Great post! Great song!

Yeah, my behind is not movin' again. It costs too much emotionally and financially. No matter what happens down the road, I'm keeping my own place, my own space.

I am beyond looking and choosing women because they are sexy.

That's part of the problem, men and women seeking partners based on their sex appeal and all too often end up discovering they weren't much of a partner outside of the bedroom. Sex is the easy part. What's hard is stickin' around for the tough stuff...that's when you separate substance from BS.

You are adorable, a real a doll and a lot men find cute sexy as heck. You're friend is absolutely wrong. It may be how he feels, but I guarantee he doesn't speak for all men.

Wise words Lilbug about what you said to Machug said about her friend. Its interesting how others, especially our friends see us. I wear a sci fi costumes; and I am a playful nerd. I wear my fitness outfits and I am seen as a fitness nut. I wear my dress and I am seen as a girly girl. I wear my uniform and I am seen as disciplined military person. So, all my friends see a different side of me and of course everyone will have a different opinion of me. I would think the same of strangers as not everyone will see the same things in you. Am I making any sense or just rambling?

Ha! Yep, perfect sense!

I'll tell ya somethin else.....just 'cause folks don't wear their sexuality all up in your face doesn't mean they ain't got it goin' on. That's another thing folks do, place too much emphasis on the packaging, when some of those plain wrapper folks will rock your world...know what I'm sayin ;)

That is so true. A friend of mine who is just an average looking, balding man has the most fantastic charisma I have ever seen. He just wears blue jeans and a t-shirt; and captures the attention of every woman in a room. Funny thing is he was completely unaware of it.

I get friend zoned too and I think it is partly that the internet has a high percentage of peeps looking for casual sex

since that's not what I'm into I get friend zoned

but ya, I understand cuz I'm also the one they complain to after their little chickerita has cheated on them for the 3 time with 3 different guys.....eventually I suppose someone with a man brain will email me...just for lil ole ....me

That happens to guys as well. Find myself there all the time.

yup I guess it's just a matter of being in the right place at the right time or something. people keep saying things like I gotta kiss a lotta frogs before I find my handsome prince

so I guess y'all gotta kiss a bunch of frogettes

That's even better!

Yep, sometimes exactly what you're lookin' for has been right under your nose the whole time. Gotta take the blinders off, stop viewing folks with tunnel vision, think outside of the box.

I was thinking ahout this...sometimes we feed into these folks by playing the role they have selected for us in their lives, because, hey, at least it's some kind of relationship with them, right? If we want them to see us differently, we need to break that cycle. Make them see you in a different light, maybe it'll get you out of the friend zone. For instace, if you are use to sharing experiences that require you to only wear sweats and jeans, plan an event/activity that requires both of you to dress more formally..this does not mean renting a tux and buying a gown! If you're stuck in a rut of the same kind of activities, plan something that you are good at it and makes you shine.