You can't believe everything you read. When it comes to dating, too many dating tips, tricks, and other such information can be a bad thing. I think that's one of the problems with a lot of people, they follow bad advice and information and it ends up leading them to failure. I've seen it happen in my own relationships where women would try to play games such as the hard to get one because of bad advice and misinformation, in the end things didn't work out.

Same here. I'm no good at reading "signals" or flirting or whatever else it is they're doing these days. If she wants to play hard to get, somebody else is going to have to get her, I don't have the time or the attention span for that sort of thing.

I think the real question should be why exhaust prolonging the mystery? Id say if you're interested then it should flow especially if he holds the same but maybe just afraid of rejection.

I feel the opposite about shy guys because it can be very hard to get them to say what they mean and know what they are thinking.

I agree. Perhaps it's fear of rejection, but I would think if you're truly interested in someone you would be willing to risk rejection. Maybe it's the deer caught in the headlights type of thing though. IDK

Well shy guys are my weakness.

Initially, that can be an issue but once they are comfortable with you then that's less likely to happen.

I also have a hard time with signals I suppose. And I flirt poorly so tend not to do it, despite some of my goofing around with people being mistaken for it.

As for playing hard to get, I am of some mixed thoughts. I understand you may like the chase and want the guy to put some effort into winning your heart/attention, but there has to be a line in my opinion. I don't see why if you find a great guy who interests you, who you feel is someone you would love to date or spend time with, that you would make him (or her) keep jumping through hoops to do what you claim to enjoy. I don't mind a little playing hard to get, but I am not interested in chasing after someone who really has no interest in being caught.

Yes, but getting to that point can take quite a while. I've dealt with shy guys. Just not my preference.

playing hard to get is like teasing, no?
seems much more sexual to me.

IMO, no because you're making the assumption that the other person's receptive in that way. In my mind, that's different from flirtatious conversation.

Ah, but teasing is fun. I don't see it as being the same thing.

what's the difference then?

I don't play hard to get, I play hard to want.

I see playing hard to get as silly games. Flirting with others to make him jealous, waiting a day/days to return calls, not returning texts/emails to keep them waiting.. things like that. That doesn't seem like teasing to me.

In my mind flirting is usually a subconscious agreement between both parties and it's fun. Whereas playing hard to get IMO, is one sided.

meh.
i've never come across anyone who does this.
i only see it in movies.

I don't do this, but I've heard about others doing it. You know.. following the "rules" or some silly thing like that.

bro code.

Man code...bah