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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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You sure do make a lot of assumptions. I don't have sex with someone I don't have a connection with. Sorry your experience was so ugly. Learn from it, that's why we have experiences to begin with.  Its not an assumption if I've had some experience with it a few times. Also doesn't make me right or wrong. I guess its always ugly when the guy isn't upfront about what he wants. Learn? I've learned its not for me, doesn't make me feel good at all. Makes me feel used and just weird all over. I don't mean to label since you hate that but this is just my opinion. Tom Cruise would agree. Too cute. |
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How awkward is this really? Sex is amazing don't get me wrong, just imagine meeting someone for one thing and not wanting more. Especially if you're talking them, hence the friends part. Don't know where the benefits come in, personally I think people who can pull that off flawlessly, still baffles me. I can get behind being friends but having sex with them would make me feel cheap; like I was just a piece of meat to them. If I am going to have sex; there has to be romance involved. If a guy is a friend; then there is no romance between us. I guess for some; as long as they get sex; it doesn't matter whether there are romantic feelings. I can't have sex with someone I don't feel some kind of connection with. With FWB I always picture two robots doing it. There's something inhuman attached to it. Why would you assume there wouldn't be any connection? FWB: Sex without strings, no emotional attachment. That doesn't mean there will be no connection. Which is why FWB is pointless. Have you ever had a FWB relationship? I tried to. It was hard to continue the sex without saying how I felt. Apparently that's bad in FWB. Well, sounds like it was in yours anyway. Guess if ya couldn't say how you felt then ya went really friends. Can't base everyone's FWB as robotic, unhuman, unemotional, nonconnected and awkward cause yours was a bad experience. It's just not for you. Next!  I think they are, least they can be. People eventually want a connection. I'd like to hear your version of a FWB? To me it was always black or white, no grey. I didn't think it was anything more than what porn stars get paid to do. Not saying people who do that are tawdry, I don't know what else to compare it to. I don't have sex with my friends either. I can't make an act of love with a guy without some romantic passion behind it. I don't think it's ever really black and white. There's always going to be some sort of grey area, depending on the people. If you were actually friends with the person and close with them, you should have been able to talk about your feelings and how it was going. It sounds like you weren't very close with the person. It happens. It doesn't work well for some. So if there's a grey area then it makes the situation uncomfortable and not so cut and dry. But it does depend on the person. I feel like both have to want just as much as the other. See I can't relate to this since I don't sleep with a friend. Just preference. |
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Mariah...when you say to me
"What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister |
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fwb's  since im too afraid of anything serious Just make sure you tell her up front that you don't want anything serious.  I know how you feel. Hang in there. We'll make it. 
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Mariah...when you say to me "What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister That was a question. I wasn't really assuming anything. Here we go again, I hate it when people quote me to try to prove a point. I know what I said, I don't need the words thrown back at me. I don't understand what the big deal is, I'm asking you to clarify what you mean. As am I. That's what we're all doing.
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i just an fwb ...any takers?
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Edited by
Ladylid2012
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Thu 02/09/12 10:28 AM
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Mariah...when you say to me "What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister That was a question. I wasn't really assuming anything. Here we go again, I hate it when people quote me to try to prove a point. I know what I said, I don't need the words thrown back at me. I don't understand what the big deal is, I'm asking you to clarify what you mean. As am I. That's what we're all doing. "What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. 
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"What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Beating a dead horse is the best way to tenderize the meat. |
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"What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Beating a dead horse is the best way to tenderize the meat. yea, before my vegetarian days i would beat my meat a lot! |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Thu 02/09/12 10:34 AM
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Mariah...when you say to me "What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister That was a question. I wasn't really assuming anything. Here we go again, I hate it when people quote me to try to prove a point. I know what I said, I don't need the words thrown back at me. I don't understand what the big deal is, I'm asking you to clarify what you mean. As am I. That's what we're all doing. "What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Yeah, real mature going there. The dead horse analogy is hogwash. Instead of agreeing to disagree you wanna take that route. STOP putting fallacies in the air. |
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Edited by
Ladylid2012
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Thu 02/09/12 10:38 AM
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Mariah...when you say to me "What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister That was a question. I wasn't really assuming anything. Here we go again, I hate it when people quote me to try to prove a point. I know what I said, I don't need the words thrown back at me. I don't understand what the big deal is, I'm asking you to clarify what you mean. As am I. That's what we're all doing. "What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Yeah, real mature going there. The dead horse analogy is hogwash.  It's a full moon, were all feeling it. Fallacies? My thoughts are fallacies. Whoa, girlfriend. You shouldn't take things so personally. My thoughts on this thread subject have NOTHING to do with you. |
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"What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Beating a dead horse is the best way to tenderize the meat. yea, before my vegetarian days i would beat my meat a lot! Did it suddenly get hot and awkward in here or is that just me? |
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"What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Beating a dead horse is the best way to tenderize the meat. yea, before my vegetarian days i would beat my meat a lot! Did it suddenly get hot and awkward in here or is that just me? |
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"What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Beating a dead horse is the best way to tenderize the meat. yea, before my vegetarian days i would beat my meat a lot! Did it suddenly get hot and awkward in here or is that just me? I think it's just you. 
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Mariah...when you say to me "What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny?" You are assuming you know how I feel .... You say you have experienced a 'few times' and say you learned it's not for you. I would agree, if it makes ya feel used and and weird then it's not for you. GOOD! Then you have learned. I'm not gonna beat a dead horse. I don't condemn nor condone a FWB. I was just sharing different perspective on the subject. Peace out sister That was a question. I wasn't really assuming anything. Here we go again, I hate it when people quote me to try to prove a point. I know what I said, I don't need the words thrown back at me. I don't understand what the big deal is, I'm asking you to clarify what you mean. As am I. That's what we're all doing. "What kind of a connection do you pull from just having sex with someone?" YES Mariah...you are ASSUMING the nature of me having sex with someone. Clarify WHAT? I've already expressed my thoughts on a "FWB" If you 'hate' your words being challenged, choose them wiser. Yeah, real mature going there. The dead horse analogy is hogwash. It's a full moon, were all feeling it. Fallacies? My thoughts are fallacies. Whoa, girlfriend. You shouldn't take things so personally. My thoughts on this thread subject have NOTHING to do with you. Haha, I'm not taking offense at all. I feel like you're putting things out there that I'm not doing. I can't assume schitt I don't have a clue on. All I did was ask questions I didn't know they were misconstrued as assumptions. Last I heard that wasn't what I thought it meant. We're really gonna have grammar lesson now? Its the end of the week man. |
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I wanna hire that horse guy as the drummer for my RocknRoll band. Or for hammering nails, when I need one hammered. I bet he can do it with his bare fist. I got a singer already, and I am good as a guppie. Or groupie. O guess we still in need of an oboist, a harpsicorder, and a harp. No, scratch the harp, and make it into a Harper. Even a carp is better in a band than a harpie. Guppie, harpie, after the gig we sell deep fried fish to the audience. THAT's how you bring in the fellers, I tell you. Fill their stomachs, and they'll come back for sure. Women have known this for a long, long time.
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Yeah, real mature going there. The dead horse analogy is hogwash. Instead of agreeing to disagree you wanna take that route. STOP putting fallacies in the air. Audrey, Lori is not your enemy and she's not attacking you or your feelings. You are having a very strong reaction to this topic most likely due to your past bad experiences. I had this happen to me once a few years ago when a guy made a joke about rape. I totally overreacted. It happens and it's understandable. But, Lori is not trying to hurt you.
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We can carpoo together to the venues.
---------- Nice trees, Ruth. Good photo!! I used to love to walk in the woods when I was pre-pubescent. (Latency stage.) |
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We can carpoo together to the venues. ---------- Nice trees, Ruth. Good photo!! I used to love to walk in the woods when I was pre-pubescent. (Latency stage.) Which stage of puberty are you in now? |
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