i am going through a divorce and was wondering if you can be happy and love again after its final.i am 36 and i work hard everyday and i feel like i was a good husband but she had some issues we dealt with for a long time and i guess she finaly gave up.i am by no means gods gift to women but i feel like i would be a great catch for that special woman i just dont know how to deal with starting over i guess

Love of my life, was after the divorce.

I have never been married or divorced lol but I had to say something anyway. You can always find love again and thats just a fact. Just because one person didnt work out does NOT mean that you wont find someone who is absolutely amazing. You always hear people say that there are alot of fish in the sea and that is dead on true. Just think, there is someone out there right now going through this same kind of thing and I bet she would love to find you too. Keep your head up and never let anyone tell you that you cant find love again cause if they do, they are stupid.

OH my, I remember going through my divorce. What I always recommend to all my friends that go through a divorce is this....make sure you are over your ex before you get involved with someone else. Don't drag someone else into that mess while you are still in love with the other person, why hurt anyone else?
Also, while you have this "quiet" time, search your soul. Find out who you really are, what is it that your last relationship didn't have that you wanted? Be real with yourself and do a lot of searching and make sure that you are a likable person...if not, dig deep and change what needs to be changed. If you are happy with yourself, then you are good to go!
Starting over isn't easy....the most important thing is to leave the past in the past!!! Good luck

Take it SLOW!!!! Don't rush into anything, and don't date for at least one year after it is final. You have to re-discover yourself. I know that sounds harsh or hard, but believe me you do mot want to get caught up in a rebound thing.

I swear, as God is my witness, it will feel like a forever thing if you hook up with someone, then it will turn into a disaster. If you are so used to being married and then start up with someone else, you won't know it but you will be comparing that person the your ex.....ok, enough of the Dr. Phil crap. I hope this helps.

After seeing some of my family and freinds go through this as well as myself, well, I have become a realist.

Best of luck!

Karen

Unsure, I totally agree, and you have the gift of eloquent speech. I'm more of the stick in your face, so glad you had the softer approach (sp?), I have been plagued with the typo disease lately. I must find LEX and have him give me some help. Tickling the funny bone seems to help......smiles, and I truely wish you the very best a1a.......Karen

OMG Creations..I thought, hmmm do I sound like Dr. Phil?? I know that is what my friend will tell me...haha!
I just know that after my divorce, I didn't even want to date for almost 2 years. I was hurt and honestly I think its a good thing that I didn't date. I can see how people would want to end up with the first person they meet.
Now I just take my time and if I don't like someone....I am not afraid to tell them! I was always worried about hurting people and trying to keep peace, I just do it a little bit more gracefully

just wanted to thank everyone for all the great advice here.you all seem like great people who realy care.i am glad i joined this site. thanks again

And YOU do it very WELL unsure,wink,wink,

As to can one find love after love, just think about Cher's song Time after time,,,,,yes,,and,,,yes,,,,and,,,yes!

GOD made us able to find many others to share life with, and we have to go on or die,,,so WE ALL do find another to share life and love with.
Even though NOW you are still wiping tears from your cheeks and every song, place, and friend reminds YOU of her, and THAT lost..
IT GETS BETTER, trust me,,and soon you will find a lady who cares about you again and your life will feel much BETTER!!!

Mine was too, Oldsage. After my first wife divorced me and I later divorced her I met the love of my life. All those issues I had before with the first wife didn't bother me with the love of my wife because we had communication. When ever something came up we simply dealt with it the best we both knew how. It was a team effort but it was possible from mistakes that I had learned from the first two marriages. The difference then was that I was ready for a true love and we both just accepted the good with the bad. The whole thing could simply be explained in the word 'we'. 'We' is two separate beings instead of two better halves for me.

WTF IS LOVE??

I am recently divorced too and it was the hardest thing that I ever did in my life. I know now there is love out there for me and i will find it. It has been nice just to rediscover who I am and what I want to be and who I want to be with. I am finally ready to date but it has taken time. Take it slow. Dont rush into anything. In time you will feel better and the future will look brighter.

hMMMM i THINK I NEED LOTS AND LOTS OF THERAPY!!!

i dont beleive in Love after a divorce..been single now for 9 years..wonder why

unreal..i never thought it would be this hard..but, im done..i dont need it or men, so..story of my life



but hey, it is for most..good luck to ya..

So many hearts broken and so many tears cried.
I HOPE YOU ALL FIND PEACE AND A REAL NEW LOVE!!!

i apologise for my attitude, most of u know what happen to me, so im upset right now..just hurtin is all

i'll be alright..im sorry for bashing your thread like that..wasnt right of me..

After which divorce? The first, second, or third?

its like starting a car thats been sitting for years!!
it all works just godda primer her a little and make sure theres spark and your on your way!!!Bigsexys car wit!!!!hehehe
good luck buddy you will be just fine..

I would like to ask a question of anyone who has ever been in a realtionship.WHy did it fail? Was it you, them, something else? Work, too much bull,too much caring or just a wrong personality?

Well If I were you,before you even think about getting involved with someone else. Learn how to heal because you want find out one way or the other if you don't heal firt. To many people come on to these sites expecting someone else to fix them and it never works. I'm not saying a1afla35 that your doing that, I'm just talking in general.