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Topic: I dont really get it.
dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Fri 03/09/12 12:45 AM
ive messaged multiple people and cant figure out why i never get replies. its seems everyone is afraid to attempt long term then get to know each other then visit and see where things go. i mean women around here always say the want a guy who will be faithful and treat their family well. and i want a family. i want a wife and kids. i got my partying out of the way in the army and now just do it on the occasion. seems no matter how hard i try it never works. im optimistic at times and it doesnt work, practical and that doesnt work either. i dont know if its my appearances or what? the fact i dont have kids but want them? that i want to start a family which creats the illusion that i want to dive into everything, its not the case. i just want to find a woman who can make me laugh and i can do the same for her, who can love me and i will love her. im not shallow nor materialistic and none of this seems to work. so over all any women reading this.....is it my appearance? desire for family? distance? what is it im lacking? Dusty

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Fri 03/09/12 01:30 PM
Hiya Dusty The reason could be that what you've written here is about 10x more than you've written in your profle and more interesting... All the best in finding whom you seek.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Fri 03/09/12 02:15 PM
Profile isn't bad, though nothing to catch the eye. I think it is more, gals want to know someone a little before hooking up. Getting to know them in the forums facilitates this. It can lead to a cool connection :-)

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 03/09/12 04:01 PM
ive messaged multiple people and cant figure out why i never get replies. its seems everyone is afraid to attempt long term then get to know each other then visit and see where things go. i mean women around here always say the want a guy who will be faithful and treat their family well. and i want a family. i want a wife and kids. i got my partying out of the way in the army and now just do it on the occasion. seems no matter how hard i try it never works. im optimistic at times and it doesnt work, practical and that doesnt work either. i dont know if its my appearances or what? the fact i dont have kids but want them? that i want to start a family which creats the illusion that i want to dive into everything, its not the case. i just want to find a woman who can make me laugh and i can do the same for her, who can love me and i will love her. im not shallow nor materialistic and none of this seems to work. so over all any women reading this.....is it my appearance? desire for family? distance? what is it im lacking? Dusty Why does something have to be wrong? Why can't it be that you just haven't found what it is you're looking for yet?

Floorgasm Joined Sat 02/25/12 Posts: 175	Fri 03/09/12 06:59 PM
For some women smoking is a dealbreaker. No sense of your personality after reading your profile. Tell her about yourself. Write it as if you are speaking to her.

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Fri 03/09/12 07:11 PM
Hiya Dusty The reason could be that what you've written here is about 10x more than you've written in your profle and more interesting... All the best in finding whom you seek. I agree, you should put all of that in your profile you may see some changes then. Oh and as for your appearance there's NOTHING wrong there. I do think your 4th picture is eye catching though Good luck

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 03/09/12 07:12 PM
For that MAY BE,,that SOME WOMEN,,leave their OWN preferences OFF their profiles to even KNOW?

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 08:39 AM
thanks, ill put some more info about my personality and what im looking for, i switched my picture even through thats from 2009. when i was still in the army. thank you all for the advice.

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 08:55 AM
ok, updated it and added more, any better?

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 03/10/12 09:07 AM
Nice pic Who are hoping to attract? What qualities are you looking for? What personality traits etc. Still need to be active in forms...will keep you visible to those looking.

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 09:20 AM
someone who likes to laugh, who doesnt take life serious all the time. someone who does want a family as well. someone who isnt afraid to talk about anything. ive been with people who refuse to discuss anything even if the discussion isnt serious. someone who is halfway intelligent. and someone around my age. just an easy going relationship, that way everything is fair all around. were both happy. i mean yeah, everyone argues but i dont want someone ill but heads with everyday over every single thing. i mean what i looking for isnt really complicated.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 03/10/12 09:24 AM
someone who likes to laugh, who doesnt take life serious all the time. someone who does want a family as well. someone who isnt afraid to talk about anything. ive been with people who refuse to discuss anything even if the discussion isnt serious. someone who is halfway intelligent. and someone around my age. just an easy going relationship, that way everything is fair all around. were both happy. i mean yeah, everyone argues but i dont want someone ill but heads with everyday over every single thing. i mean what i looking for isnt really complicated. That's all what's missing from your profile IMO. You sound like a great guy. Hope you find her..

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 09:27 AM
to KLC.......would it be better to put meddically retied so they think i have my legs or arms blown off when i dont?

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 09:37 AM
and no, i dont live my my family, i have my own place, im not on unemployment. im 70% disabled through the VA from iraq. with my feet and back from the infantry. and no im not in a wheelchair and cane. i just cant walk for miles like i used to and i cant lift heavy things anymore. and the rest is for ptsd. and if someone is unwilling to accept the fact i have that then its shows their own shallowness. because if i had children i would do everything to take care of them, i can get a job at the va easily.

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 09:47 AM
i changed it to Medically Retired Veteran. that definatly isnt uncommon anymore since the war.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 03/10/12 09:52 AM
why change it at all? I think all K was trying to get at is that some women may be overlooking your profile thinking that you're jobless which may not a desirable quality.... All we're offering are suggestions for improvements - write what you feel comfortable writing..be true to who you are..change your profile because you want to and not based on the opinions of others...

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 03/10/12 09:52 AM
i changed it to Medically Retired Veteran. that definatly isnt uncommon anymore since the war. THANK YOU,,,for serving and I hope your time on here is lived to make you smile and laugh,,, I RESPECT ALL THAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR ME and THIS COUNTRY in your time spent over there,,,as one of our BEST!!!

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 10:09 AM
no, thank YOU and everyone like you for helping us feel welcome when we came home. the hardest part after telling people about ptsd is trying to push that stigma out of their head. poeple like us dont knock the table over and use it for a defensive position everytime we hear a bang. just nightmares, STARTLED by loud noises which means we jump and the heart starts racing really bad and we start sweating. flashbacks. etc etc. but people seem to be frightened by that. where as im frightened by alot of **** ive seen "normal" people do.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 03/10/12 10:28 AM
no, thank YOU and everyone like you for helping us feel welcome when we came home. the hardest part after telling people about ptsd is trying to push that stigma out of their head. poeple like us dont knock the table over and use it for a defensive position everytime we hear a bang. just nightmares, STARTLED by loud noises which means we jump and the heart starts racing really bad and we start sweating. flashbacks. etc etc. but people seem to be frightened by that. where as im frightened by alot of ive seen "normal" people do. You're not alone in that. I always say that people, not war scare me the most.

dustyf87 Joined Tue 08/25/09 Posts: 9	Sat 03/10/12 10:42 AM
lol, even after iraq i still go to the store and see the way people act or to a theater, or anywhere. and still seem to find myself speechless. im just astonished as to what the hell is going through peoples heads half the time. pefect example.....i went to the store a while back and when i walked in this mother was in the produce section and her son who was maybe 6 was sitting in the fruits and veggies and when i mean in i mean it litteraly. he was actually sitting on top of them as she was shopping. and i thought 3 things to myself...1. i eat that food 2.i can only imagine what goes on in their home. and 3. if i even attempted that one as a child my mother would have turned my *** red since back then as a child, i had to hold on to the cart while she was shopping.