Topic: not able to forgot my past memories
ddeswal3's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:19 AM
i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do

oldhippie1952's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:31 AM
Try to get out with people. That's all I know how to do, you'll always remember though.

ddeswal3's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:37 AM
yeah that was my 1st luv but when i m alone i really still feel for her :(

kale68's photo
Fri 03/09/12 06:29 AM
dont forget them but rather embrace them and remember what you shared...trying to forget holds them in sadness and your emotions in sorrow...Remembering them with a smile or a laugh changes your emotions to a happy memory/time making it easier for you to go out and have fun and meet other people...

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Fri 03/09/12 06:37 AM

i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do


nothing or whatever u want to do

u don't want to forget your memories - remember them and stay open to whatever the future brings

kale68's photo
Fri 03/09/12 06:42 AM


i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do


nothing or whatever u want to do

u don't want to forget your memories - remember them and stay open to whatever the future brings
exactly sweetest...

RoamingOrator's photo
Fri 03/09/12 07:47 AM
Have you tried drinking??? drinker

RavenousSin's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:04 PM
You won't forget them... Unless the process from Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind became real at some point.

Anyway, it may become more about learning to just live with the memories. It's common to think back to a first love later on down the road.
This may or may not help, but you could try to remind yourself why they weren't right for you and focus on what's to come instead. We sometimes look back at things with rose-tinted glasses, seeing only what was pleasant about someone we miss. Try to realize this when you think of her.

(I can't guarantee any success to it, but I hope this is helpful and applicable. I hope I'm not just putting my own prior situations into something they don't fit into.)

RavenousSin's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:05 PM
Edited by RavenousSin on Fri 03/09/12 03:05 PM

Have you tried drinking??? drinker

Please ignore this in any serious way.
(Because, I can't lie, I laughed...)

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:17 PM
Let go of the good ones...try the bar scene. Always works. :wink:

RainbowTrout's photo
Fri 03/09/12 03:18 PM
Socializing is good. It will give something else to think about.

PacificStar48's photo
Fri 03/09/12 09:23 PM
First loves are always going to be hard not to greive when they pass.

We have so much conditioning to think that great love is supposse to last for ever when in reality we mature away from our first love.

Because so much of our lives also change about the sime time; in our early 20's we have ended our school days, maybe moved away from home, emd childhood or youthful hobbies and discounts and neighborhood, maybe even changed or at least started a career so thus is a a hard time to give up the security of a relationship seem even more devistateing. It is called compounded loss.

What you will find is when you strengthen the other areas of your life the single loss will feel less compounded.

Start by wideing the base of your freindships. Add older , younger, male , and female.

If you past love provided social obligations you may want to work on adding some new groups to your routine. The sad part is some of our fiends as couples don't want to deal with the same loss we feel and write us off. Feels like a cheap shot but it is common.

Thes adjustments will not happen over night. Nor will all of them be sucessful but it is still important ot try

When loss really hurts sometimes it is ok to compartmentialize the pain. If you want to reserve some time in your life, a reasonable amount to feel bad that is ok Hopefully as time goes buy you will wean yourself down to smaller aqna smaller periods that yyou will greive but very few feelings just evaporate over night so give youeself some time to adjust. It also helps not to feel bad if you actually do find yourself happy as not feeling disloyal if you still reserve a time to honor that lost love on say your anniversary rather than every day.

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Fri 03/09/12 09:35 PM



i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do


nothing or whatever u want to do

u don't want to forget your memories - remember them and stay open to whatever the future brings
exactly sweetest...
waving smitten flowers

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Fri 03/09/12 09:36 PM

Let go of the good ones...try the bar scene. Always works. :wink:
laugh


passing entertainment

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Fri 03/09/12 10:45 PM

i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do
drinker The BEST way to get over an old flame is to ignite a new sparkle of love,,under you...bigsmile :wink: :banana:

GotScreenstyle's photo
Sun 03/11/12 12:08 AM
Forgive yourself. Learn to play dubstep guitar...


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Sun 03/11/12 02:11 PM

i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do


Nothing..unless they are inhibiting you from moving forward.

Memories are your past, not your present or future.


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Sun 03/11/12 02:11 PM

i had a broke up previously but i m not able to forget those memories what should i do


Nothing..unless they are inhibiting you from moving forward.

Memories are your past, not your present or future.