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Topic: Surviving the distance..
Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Sun 03/18/12 04:05 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. Please, someone, what can I do? What would you do?

sexyfish2012 Joined Sun 03/11/12 Posts: 112	Sun 03/18/12 04:59 PM
i am reading this and it brings tears to my eyes...if u love her so much go get ur girl were ever she is....thats the only way u can show her how much u truly love her in ur arms where its warm and filled with unconditional love

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Sun 03/18/12 05:37 PM
Go get your girl! Ooohhhhh

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sun 03/18/12 05:38 PM
Did something happen? Because I thought you guys were going to meet in person soon.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sun 03/18/12 05:42 PM
As far as how you you survive an LDR? Trust and communication are going to be the two most important factors. Without those, the relationship will fail. I think the next most important thing would be some kind of plan for the future. It may take years to live together, but there has to be some kind of plan in place where both parties are willing to work towards the end game of living together. I really hope you two are able to work it out.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Sun 03/18/12 05:52 PM
Well till you get the money to see her you can cam with her and chat on the phone and if she loves you as much as you love her she will wait too:) good luck my friend cheers

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Sun 03/18/12 05:53 PM Edited by Bravalady on Sun 03/18/12 05:53 PM
Aw, you know what to do. Keep in touch with her every day. You write poetry, don't you? Send her a poem every day. It doesn't have to be long. Just something. Send her a little drawing by mail (yes, I mean real mail). Don't tell her ahead of time, let it be a surprise. Make up a holiday, or pick one of the crazy ones you can find on the internet, and send her a card for it--you know those blank cards you can get. Phone her, text her, e-mail her. It's not that you don't know what to do, it's just that you're having trouble with patience. If you have to save up money to go visit her, tell her, keep her updated on how close you're getting to the total. You know what to do. Just follow your heart.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Sun 03/18/12 06:00 PM
Just do what you two are doing now talking texting emailing soon the months will fly by fast trust an communication is the key words an just be your self

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 03/18/12 06:06 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. Please, someone, what can I do? What would you do? Long distance is tough. Make sure you actually get to spend time with her. That's the kind of action that will back up what you say.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45337	Sun 03/18/12 06:09 PM
As far as how you you survive an LDR? Trust and communication are going to be the two most important factors. Without those, the relationship will fail. I think the next most important thing would be some kind of plan for the future. It may take years to live together, but there has to be some kind of plan in place where both parties are willing to work towards the end game of living together. I really hope you two are able to work it out. This. My long-distance relationship squeeze and I talk 6-7 times a day, every day, without fail. We spend more time together than people in the same room or city.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Sun 03/18/12 07:30 PM
We do talk everyday.. ..four-five hours a clip. ..but how do I give her security? How can I reassure her? I spend almost, if not every, waking moment trying to convince her, and tell her.. ..I admit I'm not perfect, and say really dumba** things now and again.. ..but just thought of losing her.. Let alone the facing the reality it might come true.. I...I'll never survive it..

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Sun 03/18/12 07:41 PM
Just keep doing what ya doing try not to worry just do your best im sure that is all she wants from you

Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 6206	Sun 03/18/12 08:13 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. Please, someone, what can I do? What would you do? Feel lucky its only 500 miles. My gf is over 6000 miles away.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 03/18/12 09:16 PM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her?

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Sun 03/18/12 11:30 PM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport..

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Sun 03/18/12 11:40 PM
Ok. Really it's all about trust trust trust. There is no other way. My man and I talk whenever we can, it may be twice a day it may be 10 times. We share our happy and our sad days. We see each other whenever we can but with 20 000ks between us its not as often as we would like. He tells me he loves me constantly and I need to hear that. but it is not only what he does that makes me secure in his love, It is my faith and trust in him and his trust in me. and get your passport. you need to see each other.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 03/19/12 12:23 AM
Be secure with yourself. Security breeds security! Look at the couples up here who are secure with both themselves and each other. They have a special click.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Mon 03/19/12 04:06 AM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport.. Have you been denied a passport? ..yes.

Tulareman Joined Thu 08/25/11 Posts: 487	Mon 03/19/12 04:22 AM
Aw, you know what to do. Keep in touch with her every day. You write poetry, don't you? Send her a poem every day. It doesn't have to be long. Just something. Send her a little drawing by mail (yes, I mean real mail). Don't tell her ahead of time, let it be a surprise. Make up a holiday, or pick one of the crazy ones you can find on the internet, and send her a card for it--you know those blank cards you can get. Phone her, text her, e-mail her. It's not that you don't know what to do, it's just that you're having trouble with patience. If you have to save up money to go visit her, tell her, keep her updated on how close you're getting to the total. You know what to do. Just follow your heart. I agree with all ^^^^^^she said

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 03/19/12 05:27 AM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport.. Have you been denied a passport? ..yes. If you can't get a passport then you best face facts; it's over.