I have been on here for just a few days now, and I am pretty much to the point about what I am looking for. I have gotten a decent amount of responses, but after just few word exchanges the topic of sex comes up. Now dont get me wrong, I am not a stuffy woman, I like to flirt and I am not afraid to talk about sex. But Please when a woman comes on here staying she isnt looking for a one night stand, she means it. Look for the woman who are interested in that sort of thing. I am nice woman, but disrespect me and I wont hesitate to tell you how I feel. So if you are a nice guy, looking for a good woman for a RELATIONSHIP than check out my profile. For the rest of you...MOVE ON!!!

well said rock and welcome!! hope you find someone who wants what you're looking for and not just a one night stand

yea i noticed a post that someone wanted a 3some. i dont think so
but any how welcome aboard

It doesn't matter where you meet them... it always happens... I am sick of it too

i am getting tired of dating for that reason...what happened to dating and getting to know someone?

i totally agree with you on that. what does it take to have an actual conversation where sex doesn't come up? i mean it's like that's all most men are looking for these days.

Welcome to the group
It seems that sleezoids like to try to get new people's attention & see if they are sleezoids also. Lot's of people use the net to feed their voyeristic interests. Just ignore them, they will disappear & not bother you anymore. Post in the threads, get to know the folks, you'll figure out who is real & who you want to talk to.

The short answer is..."yes."

*puts her devils advocate costume on...fixes tail and horns*

At the very core of our beings...we're animals. Humans are nothing but mammals and we have the same basic primary needs that any mammal needs. Food, water, shelter, sex for procreation.

At the very root of each one of us, that is all that we need to survive.

At the very basic level, humans have a higher evolved emotional reaction system. However, female human beings have a higher emotional attachment. And this isn't necessarily something that is genetically predispositioned. It is dicated by society as well. With being of a higher order of thinking, humans have more or less shot themselves in the foot. We display sex as though it is some sort of candy...dangling it in every commercial, on every billboard...we use sex to sell everything. Sex becomes less of a "survival need" and more of a "want."

Now, don't get me wrong...I enjoy sex just like anyone else (albeit 2 years ago now), but sex at it's basic roots isnt for recreation, it's meant to ensure survival of the species.

So...yeah...it is all about sex. We have allowed emotions to get in the way of it and as humans we've created something bigger around sex, love...marriage...commitment. If we were like any other animal...we'd have multiple partners, children, and other lines of descendants...

Can you imagine being a chicken? LOL

ugh, i am so with you on that. do i look like a piece of meat? or have a sign on me that says, "here for a good time?", lol

do u want me to answer that sweet?

Theirs nothing wrong with getting to know someone befor sex. But how do you know when "the right time" is to breech the subject on sex?

when you feel comfortable enough w/each other to discuss intimacies??

The right time is goverened by respect, manners, morals & your personal ethics/integrity. A meeting of the minds is actually needed before a meeting of the bodies.

to Bentonjoe
well not on the first date or when you first start talking to each other. maybe the 2nd but by the time the 3rd date gets here then we would be more comfortable talking about sex and what we want.

hmmm well said, court is adjourned

Hmmm, to certain extent I agree with you Ev, except I think that really is what separates us from the animals. Take your two your stint for example.

I mean yes, that is the point of dating, right? You don't plan on dating somebody you are just going to be friends with, otherwise you wouldn't call it a date - you'd call it dinner. And as I've become at times painfully aware of, this is first and foremost a dating site, although there are a few folks like myself who just look at it as more of a social club.

On the flip-side, I can understand the frustration of wanting to take it slow and you have "tentacle man" trying to skip the romance and "get 'er done." I've got a sister; I might actually hate those guys more than you ladies do. But I also feel bad for them, because they must have never had anyone show them the value of "sex"...y'know, beyond the "WHOOOOPEEE!" part.

But that too is part of the dating process, kissing frogs to find a prince on the ladies side; and for the guys, finding a lady that is crazy enough that he can handle.

It isn't all about sex but lots of sex is never bad. :)

sex brings drama when your dating..and who needs more drama in their life?

plus,if that person really loves you and respects you they wont be trying so hard to get in your pants!

Welcome Rock, to JSH and I truly hope that you find what you are looking for. Enjoy your stay , and more impotantly, I hope the fun really begins for you. :)

me to sex sex sex all you women want is sex

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there is more to life than sex