Here is a message I received today.
"I usually wait for the lady to make the first move, but I saw we have many things in common."

There was more, but I have heard the same from lady friends. So if nobody makes the first move, then we are all SOL.

It woke me up to the fact that maybe there are many of us thinking the same? I know in my age group, men made the first move, always, or you were considered a promiscuous lady, now this is a GUY telling me, HE waits for the lady to approach!


SO, I say, ladies, get off your keister and start searching and sending out those nudges! Out of a hundred nudges, you are bound to get one back. I don't limit distance either, I am willing to relocate and have seen it happen with others. I am grabbing the brass ring and taking the chance, it just might work. To do nothing, then for sure, "nothing" will happen.

What say you all?

Good for you. Good luck

Hi Chloe23Irish, I see we share the same philosophy. I will let you know how it works out. I have so much life to live and am such a happy person, I refuse to sit alone for the rest of my life.

Best to you in your search as well. Thanks for your kind note.

Omg...I wish In had the balls to do that. Hypothetical rejection scares me, which is why I have been single for so long. Hesitation is a killer..

I agree with everything you're saying. However, I live in Ireland and 98% of the people here on Mingle2 live in the U.S or Canada. I would make the first move (Ok the odd time) but I don't see how anything could develop with me being so far away. I come here just for the forums really, and if anything else were to happen then what will be, will be. But I'm not expecting anything.

I'm about the same as that guy. It's not real often that I send out first messages, so if anybody wants a shot at me they gotta come get me.

I'm not so sure about sending out nudges. %99 of the time I ignore the nudges that I get. If somebody can't take a couple minutes and actually send a message, I'm not going to waste my time with somebody who can't even start a conversation.

I'm here for the free dance lessons.

I give dancing lessons, but it involves catching yourself on fire and dropping molten metal in places that it shouldn't go.....

Will it help me make the first move?

Would definitely get her attention.

Can I pick the ingredients to get started at my local hobby shop?

Ummm. Sure!

I wont make the first move. If I really like someone I throw him hints. If he is too dense to pick it up, he isnt for me. If he isnt into me, thats cool too.

Hints usually don't work real well with me. It generally takes a note tacked to my forehead with a nailgun before I act on it....

But you are already in a relationship. Who made the first move if you dont mind me asking?

I'm in a relationship right now? Either I missed the message being tattooed onto my chest or you missed the memo. *Finds somebody to rewind the film strip.* I've been single again for about a week. Keep up with the class, people! For my last relationship she made the first move. I THINK even with at least my last 3. As well as MAYBE with all the dates I've had in between with the exception of possibly one or two.

Oh! I am saddened to hear that.

It's ok. It's not a failed relationship. I've just found another woman who didn't work out with me!

If it dont fit, dont force it, I say!!!

If it don't fit, I get a bigger hammer!