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Topic: Are you approachable?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 07/27/12 07:57 AM
To add onto the first post.. What makes someone unapproachable either in person or on a site like this? In person I’m very respectful of other people’s privacy, so I rarely approach them unless I have a reason to. It’s a difficult to imagine a situation. Maybe someone who is willing to make eye contact with me? Online I never feel like it’s a matter of approaching someone. I post what’s on my mind and am thankful for the responses. I take what’s helpful and leave alone what’s not. Generally, I will approach someone in person if I have a reason and they don't look angry/standoff-ish. On here? If it's someone who gets offended or mad easily, or who ignores what is said to them, I find them unapproachable.

darkarmando Joined Wed 02/29/12 Posts: 2642	Fri 07/27/12 08:16 AM
Nope, not at all... She's a big pain!! yeah, and you wouldn't want me any other way.

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Fri 07/27/12 08:17 AM
just the way I like to keep things

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Fri 07/27/12 10:51 AM
Approachability is a 2 way street. Saying "I'm approachable" really is again situation dependent. Some people come up to me at shows and say "wow, you are a lot easier to talk to than I thought you would be" other times I hear that I'm snobby. I would think that a lot of it is time based. How much time do I have in a day and how do I want to spend it. All of us have our own set of parameters that dictate how we are and how we come across. The 2 way street comes in when I have to value the least stressed way to go and who or what is adding to the stress (burning time) with unnecessary gigo type of stuff.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 07/27/12 10:41 PM
Approachability is a 2 way street. Saying "I'm approachable" really is again situation dependent. Some people come up to me at shows and say "wow, you are a lot easier to talk to than I thought you would be" other times I hear that I'm snobby. I would think that a lot of it is time based. How much time do I have in a day and how do I want to spend it. All of us have our own set of parameters that dictate how we are and how we come across. The 2 way street comes in when I have to value the least stressed way to go and who or what is adding to the stress (burning time) with unnecessary gigo type of stuff. While I agree that some can be more approachable at certain times or in certain situations, I don't think that it changes all that much. Someone who is open and approachable and easy to talk to isn't going to really change that in different situations. Sure, they may have less time to chat sometime, or be in a bad mood one night, but generally they're still going to be fairly approachable.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Fri 07/27/12 11:15 PM
I don't think so. I tend to be the one back on the wall watching. Think most people assume I am married at my age. I will talk to anyone who talks to me but I don't generally start that off line. I don't drink/smoke and that probably makes me the exception.

Teri11215 Joined Sun 07/22/12 Posts: 65	Sat 07/28/12 08:47 AM
I think I'm approachable, I have many friends, that trust me, and know that I wouldn't repeat what they told me. If a stranger approaches me and wants to talk, that's fine, but living in a city like Brooklyn, makes it difficult to trust what the person is saying is true or not. I just trust people until I see a reason not to trust them. Sometimes that can hurt, if you are honest with others, and they aren't with you, but live and learn (hopefully anyway) is not a bad motto when you are talking about life in general.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 07/28/12 08:49 AM Edited by Ghostrider2u on Sat 07/28/12 08:49 AM
Yes I am.... Just don't approach me from.... Behind!!!!!

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Sat 07/28/12 10:06 AM
Yes I am.... Just don't approach me from.... Behind!!!!! but that's the best...ninja!!

anacondaarms Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 7014	Sat 07/28/12 10:13 AM Edited by anacondaarms on Sat 07/28/12 10:15 AM
Yes I am.... Just don't approach me from.... Behind!!!!! but that's the best...ninja!! If its a man, Im with ghostrider on this one, lol Only one allowed to approach me from behind is my wife!

wxmann Joined Sat 07/16/11 Posts: 277	Sat 07/28/12 10:42 AM
Absolutely not! Most want to believe I'm mad at the world all of the time? When I'm mad you will know it as my face will be deep red. I'll throw things around and speak very loudly. Most would rather judge me for what they think I am versus ever walking up to me to talk. most of the time it's me that does all the talking to "break the ice".

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Sun 07/29/12 07:01 AM
I'm a friendly person but I don't need to be the center of attention..In "real life" sometimes strangers (or casual acquaintances) start telling me their "life stories." (And basically "talk at" me.) I'm a good listener and interested in people if I have time to "stick-around." But I probably won't try to be close friends with people who constantly "talk at" me!...Sometimes I can get "carried away" when I write. And I'm more open with close friends.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sun 07/29/12 01:43 PM
Yes. I am pretty friendly.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 07/29/12 01:47 PM
Nope, not at all... She's a big pain!! yeah, and you wouldn't want me any other way. oh my gosh,, ADORABLE....

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sun 07/29/12 02:01 PM
I am easily approchable. It is also easy for me to approach. Soooo........ I guess I'm just..... Easy!!!!!

Scotti71 Joined Fri 07/13/12 Posts: 173	Sun 07/29/12 04:32 PM Edited by Scotti71 on Sun 07/29/12 05:00 PM
Im approachable,but you will have to find out the visiting hours.I like bananas

ezas123 Joined Thu 07/05/12 Posts: 271	Sun 07/29/12 04:40 PM
heck ya, the best way is with a joke & a smile..

Scotti71 Joined Fri 07/13/12 Posts: 173	Sun 07/29/12 05:01 PM
Im approachable,but you will have to find out the visiting hours.I like bananas btw

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Tue 07/31/12 07:05 AM
Yes. I have a smile on my face mainly all the time, or always laughing. I'm not sure how people would feel about approaching me if I was loud and brash. As I am pretty quiet. Though when with people I know, I tend to use my humor a lot.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Thu 08/02/12 03:58 AM
It would appear that I am no longer approachable, once they realize I'm not here to swap 'erotic' emails I am, however, quite friendly and approachable in real life, believe it or not. I'll talk to anybody unless they pizz me off.