Channel surfing and came across Oprah. Not a big fan, but her topic was 'older women and dating' (or something like that). She had a panel of 3 who stated they thought men might be intimidated by their 'success' or 'circumstance'. 1 was a lawyer, 1 a pediatrician, 1 divorced w/4 children! Now, granted, I'm not a doctor (or an astronaut), but I do work for a worldwide corporation, I dabble in real estate and I own a small business. I have a home, a couple vehicles, I travel, I'm not in debt and I have a retirement goal. I have everything I need plus am blessed to have most of what I want. BUT I seem to attract men who have less than I and there's nothing wrong with that, but these are the type that want me to foot their bills OR I attract successful, goal oriented men who then at some point in our relationship state "I care about you, but I'm not IN LOVE", you're not "the one" or something like that. Some of them are still very good friends who encourage me when I get stressed out "you're successful, you've got a lot going fo r you" and so forth.......So, are these Oprah panel gals right? Are men intimidated by success?

I don't know about them but I wouldn't be. As long as you used smaller words when we talk Just kidding. But serously no one wants to "settle" I don't know if the perfect partner is out there butI'm looking. Maybe someone with a Harley...

some men are, but i find in my case they are just intimidated by my height

Wow Sweetie you are tall. We are at eye level

Personally, I am not intimated by successful women. I get turned off if someone is too driven and too materialistic if they do not have time to enjoy the simple things in life. We are seeing a breakdown in traditional gender roles, and some people can handle it and others cannot.

What is Oprah deal? She is successful, does she have a man?

Oprah has Stedman!!! But I think they are really secretly married....I read it in the Enquirer!!!

Are you sure they're still together? I think he got tired of being MRS. Oprah Winfry

Im not sure...but Im sure she can buy Jose the pool boy!

I think some men can be intimidated by women who are successful and self sufficient. I'm a very independent, successful, career woman. Most men I seem to attract are on the same level as I am. Meaning, they are also successful in their careers. I think it just depends on the person. We all attract different personalitys. It's the person, not the job, or how much money they make.

NO

Hey if this is gonna be a problem I could be a kept woman ...


I am sooooooo kidding

I think that alot of men could be intimidated by a successful woman who makes more money than he does. In fact, Ive talked to more guys on this site saying that they felt intimidated because the girl they liked came from a rich family etc...

I'm not saying its right, I am saying that it can and does happen. Geeeeez I can even be intimidated by someone who makes more than me, especially if I were to invite them over and they seen that crap furniture I have!!!

Babydoll, I tried to email you, (I'm blocked...wrong gender...LOL) and tried to IM you, again no success. I have been told by a couple men I have dated that I am intimidating. My 6' height? The fact that I know what I want and will go after it? One of the men who told me that also said I am unassuming and understated??? Guess he couldn't make up his mind...LOL The guy I am seeing now says I am not intimidating at all. If I could contact you, other than in the forum, I'd like to ask you something.

Cindy

Hmmm Ive been told by men that Im intimidating as well....but Im only 5 ft 2!!!!! whattup with dat????

sorry i was intimindated

I think if a guy is comfortable with(in) himself he would not be intimidated by a successful woman. Just because a woman knows what direction she wants her life to go, can manage a checkbook and more should imply the hang up is not with the woman, but more so with the comfort zone of the man.

Some men I know are not comfortable and wonder if the role/gender laws effect their thinking? Some men might see it as a turn on so to speak and are very comfortable with a successful woman.

Just have to find the right kind of guy....and trace back maybe to why you are attracted to certain types of guys and change something within you to find the right one... just a thought...

I don't like the word "successful". That's very personal and very subjective term.

I think the phrase should be "happy". I think most people are intimiated by those who are happily pursuing the things they enjoy and like. It tends to make them wonder how they could contribute to your happiness and can be very intimidating trying to approach a women (or man) in this situation.

I could go on, but really...who cares? The right one will come along eventually. Just do your thing, be happy, be nice, and we'll be more productive than analyzing unanswerable things to death.

Cheers!

But I like to analyze things to death!!! In fact Ive caught myself analyzing my analyzing!!!!

Yes, I agree, a lady of strong convictions or character can intimidate some men. Men from their 40's on up, were taught that they were supposed to be the boss or leader in a relatonship. Times changed, unless men were reeducated to allow for the changes of society, they can feel intimidated by a modern women. Stop & think, our models were; Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, etc. Men were always the boss, women's lib changed all that.