This was a question in a list of questions in another thread, but it made me wonder.


Who would you stand by if married, or as the question stated:

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?



I must say my spouse, children, family and friends. How would you rate them?

My income is above everything else. Without it I cannot give real, physical support to the other people in my life. This IMHO is what it means to be a man.

What exactly is meant by the word "honor"?

Same order for me...The only exception would be if my spouse was jeopardizing my children's welfare in some way....In that case, he would move to the end of the line....

Children first, then family, then spouse, then friends. Rationale? Children are what it's all about (right?) and my theory is if nearly everyone raises their children to the best of their ability, and hope those children do the same, then the world may be a better place. I apologize if I am a bit jaded; my spouse is issue-laden, and the primary reason I exist is because of my kids. Blood is way thicker than water, and if you expect your spouse to be your soul-mate, you have to share your own soul. Family will always be that - they have no choice, and you have no choice. Friends are great, but if they are family-first, where does that leave you?

The world is not really a great place, especially these days. Get & keep your own $hit right (job, money, lifestyle) keep your kids on a good path, take care of your significant other, and be a friend to your friends. At the end of the day, this is all you can do...

As a mother and divorcee, I Can say it cant be rated,, different circumstances call for different priorities,,,

in general, the one who asks me to make the choice, is the one who wont be chosen,,,


when all things are going well, than my spouse has to come first(as much as I put myself first anyhow) , forming a strong bond by which to raise and protect and love the children, then family(so long as the spouse is not abusive in anyway), and last of all friends

for me, blood is thicker than water,, and so is marriage,, but good friends of mine will know my values and not have an issue,

Whose back would you get.

After going through my divorce, I would have to add one more.

1. kids
2. me
3. spouse
4. family
5. friends

I learned you have to honor/stand by yourself, because no one else is going to do that for you.

As a widower who has children, my children have top priority.

You will get multiple answers, but some Christians would say God comes first then everything else would come to place. Money is not everything. You can have it all today and lose it all tomorrow.

You will get multiple answers, but some Christians would say God comes first then everything else would come to place. Money is not everything. You can have it all today and lose it all tomorrow.

My Husband and children are always first, it would depend what the situation was that would make me dedide which was first.

But my children cant defend themselves so in that they will always be first.

then my other family, after that its everyone else.

First of all...marriage to me is a state of mind, so i don’t see myself as a Mrs Somebody.

The person i choose or have chosen to be my partner would know me well enough to know that my kids and my family(close friends are considered family in my world) are important to me. If he wants to be a part of my family then he’s welcome with open heart and arms by not only me, but my entire family, whom i know, respect and accept my choices. But he should never test me by placing me in a position where it forces me to choose...because he will find himself standing alone.
Sorry bout it...

I Agree !!