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How do you deal with another person's filters when you realize that they do not hear you accurately when you tell them something?
IE, You tell a person that you enjoy going to the casino on occasion. Their interpretation is that you are a regular gambler. Might not be the best example but I think you can understand. Because we all have our preconceived perceptions, those filters will cause us to misinterpret and misunderstand others communications. |
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Edited by
Teditis
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Thu 01/31/13 03:35 PM
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http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Other-People-Secrets-Behavior/dp/0615272290/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1359675161&sr=8-1&keywords=understanding+other+people
or... don't even try. Live your life knowing that you know what you know. And let the others have their own ideas. |
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I have a male friend who we couldn't get our minds on the same page to save our lives. It is so frustrating at times.
We are still friends but we do understand that we think differently. One issue is that he has expects women to not say what they mean so that when I say something he is looking for the "hint" underlying meaning, etc... There is none. I am the bluntest, straighforward person I know. lol |
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Edited by
CKeef
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Thu 01/31/13 04:07 PM
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I believe all one can do is try to express and explain in different ways and have patience that eventually they'll grasp what you mean and how you think.
That may only go so far though, and sometimes its best to go your separate ways if the other person is unwilling or unable to open their mind to something outside of their experience or beliefs. It can be maddening... I know all too well. I've had to cut ties more often than not due to the closed minded nature of certain individuals or the hardened assumptions and beliefs you're trying to say something between the lines. There are many people with hidden agendas and I understand it, but sometimes you just gotta let people do bad by themselves, or if you're lucky, agree to disagree and stay away from tough subjects. |
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I believe all one can do is try to express and explain in different ways and have patience that eventually they'll grasp what you mean and how you think. That may only go so far though, and sometimes its best to go your separate ways if the other person is unwilling or unable to open their mind to something outside of their experience or beliefs. It can be maddening... I know all too well. I've had to cut ties more often than not due to the closed minded nature of certain individuals or the hardened assumptions and beliefs you're trying to say something between the lines. There are many people with hidden agendas and I understand it, but sometimes you just gotta let people do bad by themselves, or if you're lucky, agree to disagree and stay away from tough subjects. It is a struggle... One of the hardest decisions in life is to try harder or let it go, eh? |
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Friendship is about communication and loyalty.
If one or the other is not there, then the friendship is not there. |
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Friendship is about communication and loyalty. If one or the other is not there, then the friendship is not there. I Agree! 
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