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Topic: being a single mom
mary18's photo
Mon 08/13/07 02:54 PM
okay so i just graduated high school and i just had a baby.there's no one around to help me and i start college tomorrow. i don't know what to do.

Snugglesbyfire's photo
Mon 08/13/07 02:58 PM
Keep your spirits up..........accept whatever help you can get from family, and friends.........and whatever you do DO NOT QUIT COLLEGE...........once the baby is old enough, most colleges have inexpensive day care............YOu will do a great job..........good luckflowerforyou

Soazcowgirl's photo
Mon 08/13/07 03:04 PM
Hey sweetie. Hang in there. I was 16 when I had my son. He is almost 15 now. So we managed to get through and you can two. Its tough, but you can do it.

liltayrose's photo
Mon 08/13/07 03:05 PM
Being a single mom is hard..but let me tell you that the rewards are great!! Keep your head up and don't quit no matter what.happy flowerforyou

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Mon 08/13/07 03:06 PM
Seriously, do not quit school. You always think you can go back but it gets so much harder as you get older. Unfortunate voice of experience here! Hang in there, accept any and all help and you'll make it.

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Mon 08/13/07 03:10 PM
yeh whatever U do, dont quit school..you'll get there..good luckflowerforyou

jenni5637's photo
Mon 08/13/07 03:24 PM
You will do fine. I am a single mom of three working 1 full time job and 1 part time job. Family is great. Keep your spirits up.

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Mon 08/13/07 03:24 PM
You keep going! Contact your local family services department,
they usually have assistance for day care, etc...Stay in
school, not just for you but for your baby also. Good Luck

Angelsing's photo
Mon 08/13/07 03:27 PM
I hope you find good care for the baby while you're taking your classes and Kudos to you for sticking with your plans for college. Hopefully the school will have some kind of help available for Mom's in your situation, because you are probably not alone. I can't stress enough the importance of good care for the baby, so please be very careful as you interview possible sitters or centers. Call them during the day to check on the baby and let them know you care very much how the baby is cared for when your away. Good Luck to you.

littlepreggers's photo
Tue 08/14/07 12:33 AM
girl... i got pregnant at 19 had my son when i was 20... 5 months later i get pregnant again... so now my son is 9 months and i'm 4 months pregnant... the father doesnt know what he should do.. one day he wants us the next he wants to party again... theres more support then you think

tessa68's photo
Tue 08/14/07 05:06 AM
too bad to know that theres no one there to support you.....I got pregnant at 21 and Im in a last year of my college, I have to stop schooling and after I gave birth my mom encourage me to continue schooling coz that s the only thing she can inherit us-education.....and luckily I finished my college with the support of my parents and my baby was still 8 mos. old that time.I was a full-time mom for 5 years of my daughter's life and start working when shes start schooling up to now.....Anyway,its better to be no one there to support you at least you will struggle hard and can make a decision for yourself......so goodluck.......

hedonia's photo
Fri 08/17/07 12:44 AM
Congratulations, first of all. I'm 20, and I'm 14 weeks pregnant. I'm in college and not planning on quitting either. You're timing was lucky at least- you didn't have to miss any school. I'm due in february so I'm going to have to take off for the spring semester, but I'm enrolled fulltime this fall and plan on returning in the summer or fall next year. It's not easy- and there are sacrafices to be made. I was supposed to transfer to another school to pursue my desired major, but had to switch my career path to stay local and be able to mother my baby. I don't have the help of the baby's father, since he ran out of the picture a few weeks after finding out I was pregnant. There are services though. Medicaid and WIC and all of those public assistance programs shouldn't be frowned upon. They'll help you out so that you don't have to overload yourself and you can have an easier time being a successful mother. Also, check out local churches- I'm an atheist myself, but they are generous in regards to preserving the life of a child. They'll help no matter what your faith. And let your friends support you- as few or as many are willing. Good luck to you- and if you ever need to chat- feel free to come to me.

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Fri 08/17/07 02:39 AM
what is the question exactly?????

IndyBlueAngel's photo
Fri 08/17/07 07:01 AM
If you qualify for public assistance, you qualify for free child care. If you're not sure if you qualify, go down to your nearest DCF (Department of Children and Family) office, and apply. Your college may even have a day care program that you qualify for. I dont' know how many agencies will deal with a new born, but give it a shot. You never know.

I'm a single mom of 5 (now), and I was attending law school when I only had my 4 oldest boys at home...but they were in school. I couldn't handle the responsibility of 4 kids, a hubby, a house, cooking, chores and the homework and studies of law school...etc...so after my 2nd year, i had to quit sad ...so i fell back on my Accounting degree. I'm 38 now, and just started back in law school. Don't quit ! what ever you do ! you will regret it, i know i did. There is help out there, you just have to find it. Best of luck to you flowerforyou

infamousxcyn's photo
Thu 08/23/07 08:11 PM
I had my daughter when I was 19. Her father was in jail and I thought when he came home he was going to be a part of her life. Needless to say he was not. But I have raised her for the last 8 months on my own and I will continue to do so. You just need to believe in yourself. And know what's best for you and your child. Things always get better. I wish you a lot of luck.

missluckey's photo
Fri 08/24/07 11:50 AM
NEVER GIVE UP ... I HAVE A 9 MONTH OLD AND I WAS TRYING TO TAKE CLASSES THIS SUMMER. BUT I DID NOT COMPLETE THEM BECAUSE OF WORK. GO TO SCHOOL WHILE YOU CAN WITH OUT HAVING TO WORK FULL TIME. IT WILL BE HARD AND THATS NO LIE. YOU WILL DIE FOR SLEEP. BUT DONT GIVE UP, USE EVERY RESOURCE THATS OUT THERE EVEN IF IT MEANS GOING ONLINE AND ASKING FOR HELP FROM SOMEONE WITH SCHOOL WORK (NO PLAGERIZING YOUNG LADY) BUT IF SOMEONE CAN HELP ASK.

hotandspicey's photo
Fri 08/24/07 01:12 PM
it's so hard out there. I thank god every day that I am here to help my daughter with her son, my precious little grandbaby

Do not be too proud to reach out and ask for help. Go to your local DES office they usually have a list of people that can help you.

All of us have paid into these programs and it warms our hearts that here is a young woman who is really trying to make a good life for herself and her child, you deserve to get this help!

rozey2680's photo
Fri 08/24/07 04:57 PM
Honey I was in the same boat, trust me, keep your head up! Things will get so much better, and your baby will be your biggest joy!flowerforyou

SumthinGood4u's photo
Fri 08/24/07 09:40 PM
For me, the baby years were the toughest, so just remember that as the child gets older, things get easier on you. I only could handle one though.

SumthinGood4u's photo
Fri 08/24/07 09:40 PM
child, that is

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