Topic: Excessive flattery... | |
---|---|
I tend to be suspicious of men or women who "lay it on thick" and shower me with compliments right off the bat..Or people who express a great deal of interest in me (and what I say) when it just doesn't seem totally "real" or sincere...I don't want to be an "easy mark!".. Some people are "brown-nosers" and they rely on manipulation tactics to "get ahead" or "gain favors." (Or get attention etc.)...Have you noticed this?...They are "salespeople" in disguise! But what happens after they get their "sale?" Will they still act the same way? Or will they grow bored and look for someone new to "butter-up" and impress?
|
|
|
|
I left many dating sites because I got fed up of it.
![]() |
|
|
|
Edited by
AthenaRose2
on
Sat 02/23/13 06:37 AM
|
|
I'm with RG, on that one too.. I'm hard to win over, and can't be easily fooled... as far as people flattering us, well, if they have no agenda, like they're not wanting anything from us, and they flatter by way of being nice, there's nothing offensive about this kind of communication. However, if they over flatter, and then slide in "hey you're really cute, can I have your cell phone number"... then I start getting suspicious about their motives...
|
|
|
|
i think one best gadgets was the hand mirror that wolf wistles when you use it a great gift ..but vanity has always been around since the hall of mirrors.. but then we head down the road of makeup,is it excesive flattery or an excuse to spend more time in the mirror lol
( only maulder and scully have the answere ) ![]() |
|
|
|
Nothing worse than fake flattery, or obvious buttering up, see it all the time in the Mingle forums. Of course some on the receiving end lap it up so you can't really blame the ones handing them out.
|
|
|
|
i think one best gadgets was the hand mirror that wolf wistles when you use it a great gift ..but vanity has always been around since the hall of mirrors.. but then we head down the road of makeup,is it excesive flattery or an excuse to spend more time in the mirror lol ( only maulder and scully have the answere ) ![]() ![]() ![]() |
|
|
|
some excesive make up on some girls makes me ask,,is she dateing a guy or an art critic
flattery is like soap its 99% lye ![]() |
|
|
|
Nothing worse than fake flattery, or obvious buttering up, see it all the time in the Mingle forums. Of course some on the receiving end lap it up so you can't really blame the ones handing them out. |
|
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon.
|
|
|
|
Nothing worse than fake flattery, or obvious buttering up, see it all the time in the Mingle forums. Of course some on the receiving end lap it up so you can't really blame the ones handing them out. ![]() You ask what happens after they get their "sale".....The product they are selling is usually returned due to false advertising.... |
|
|
|
An occasional compliment is great. A true heartfelt one. Doesnt need to be extravagant or poetic. Some folks find it awkward and have a hard time doing it at all so perhaps they make up a portion of these excessivites. Then others are trina close the sale like the aforementioned. tricky biz I spose. I think my own opinion would be closest here, and to add that some also might just be trying to be nice - or are simply nice people....that breed being often in short supply can go unrecognized.......just sayin' I think it depends on the flattery and who it's from. I am one of the ones who will simply bask in it and worry later about whether it was sincere ![]() |
|
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon. Well, honestly, I normally get a sense of chemistry for a woman, that I will go after. I will compliment, joke and just be myself and how I feel. The deeper I feel the connection so will follow my effort, in most cases. That being said, I don't ever want someone who's not into me feeling pressured. If it ain't mutual, then it ain't period. I won't play that game, and if I have to over strategize any of it, it's gaming to me. so judge accordingly. Not all that compliment or try to build up people have f'd up intentions. If what's given is not a gift you can receive. Then don't take it... |
|
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon. Well, honestly, I normally get a sense of chemistry for a woman, that I will go after. I will compliment, joke and just be myself and how I feel. The deeper I feel the connection so will follow my effort, in most cases. That being said, I don't ever want someone who's not into me feeling pressured. If it ain't mutual, then it ain't period. I won't play that game, and if I have to over strategize any of it, it's gaming to me. so judge accordingly. Not all that compliment or try to build up people have f'd up intentions. If what's given is not a gift you can receive. Then don't take it... ![]() flattery only becomes excessive (to me) if there is a motive that is clearly NOT in the best interests of the receiver....that is called dishonesty attempting to win a woman's heart in an honest matter is an honestly noble act, good sir. The world could use a few more gentlmen ![]() ![]() |
|
|
|
Edited by
HeadnHeart
on
Sat 02/23/13 08:55 AM
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon. Well, honestly, I normally get a sense of chemistry for a woman, that I will go after. I will compliment, joke and just be myself and how I feel. The deeper I feel the connection so will follow my effort, in most cases. That being said, I don't ever want someone who's not into me feeling pressured. If it ain't mutual, then it ain't period. I won't play that game, and if I have to over strategize any of it, it's gaming to me. so judge accordingly. Not all that compliment or try to build up people have f'd up intentions. If what's given is not a gift you can receive. Then don't take it... ![]() flattery only becomes excessive (to me) if there is a motive that is clearly NOT in the best interests of the receiver....that is called dishonesty attempting to win a woman's heart in an honest matter is an honestly noble act, good sir. The world could use a few more gentlmen ![]() ![]() Thanks, sweetest. The vibe has to flow equally and In many ways I won't try too hard for any woman, especially if my gifts aren't received well... I am very realistic and balanced in my ways from my perspective. Honesty to me is key. So I go with that. I will also give them my worst attributes that I see in me, when the time is appropriate and lends itself to that subject of conversation, to help them make their own decision. It's what right..IMO . ![]() |
|
|
|
I would just rather form a relationship not based on my looks. It can be risky. I remember starting a new school at age eleven. Suddenly a guy I didn't know, started telling me how his friend fancied me, and that if I said "No" to his friends request, he would rape me. Now I remember why I hardly liked that school. That was just way uncalled for. That was not a very sane move. It sounded so psychotic, that I was crying for hours about it, when I got home. I thought he would end up raping me. What a dumb, vile thing to say to someone you feel attracted to. Mind control, perhaps? I swear some people are such sicko's it's beyond belief.
|
|
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon. Well, honestly, I normally get a sense of chemistry for a woman, that I will go after. I will compliment, joke and just be myself and how I feel. The deeper I feel the connection so will follow my effort, in most cases. That being said, I don't ever want someone who's not into me feeling pressured. If it ain't mutual, then it ain't period. I won't play that game, and if I have to over strategize any of it, it's gaming to me. so judge accordingly. Not all that compliment or try to build up people have f'd up intentions. If what's given is not a gift you can receive. Then don't take it... ![]() flattery only becomes excessive (to me) if there is a motive that is clearly NOT in the best interests of the receiver....that is called dishonesty attempting to win a woman's heart in an honest matter is an honestly noble act, good sir. The world could use a few more gentlmen ![]() ![]() Thanks, sweetest. The vibe has to flow equally and In many ways I won't try too hard for any woman, especially if my gifts aren't received well... I am very realistic and balanced in my ways from my perspective. Honesty to me is key. So I go with that. I will also give them my worst attributes that I see in me, when the time is appropriate and lends itself to that subject of conversation, to help them make their own decision. It's what right..IMO . ![]() We all have something to offer. When that flows as a give and take with another the results are wonderful. When you allow someone to see the worst in you, do you set something up on purpose, or do you tell her that you have faults and let things occur naturally? |
|
|
|
I would just rather form a relationship not based on my looks. It can be risky. I remember starting a new school at age eleven. Suddenly a guy I didn't know, started telling me how his friend fancied me, and that if I said "No" to his friends request, he would rape me. Now I remember why I hardly liked that school. That was just way uncalled for. That was not a very sane move. It sounded so psychotic, that I was crying for hours about it, when I got home. I thought he would end up raping me. What a dumb, vile thing to say to someone you feel attracted to. Mind control, perhaps? I swear some people are such sicko's it's beyond belief. im sure karma got back too him in prison now. |
|
|
|
Flattery will get you everywhere...
|
|
|
|
It is natural for me to give girl complements, especially if I like the girl, but that is my artistic side coming out and normally I am trying to make the girl feel good. I try not to go overboard with it, yet sometimes I get caught up in the moment. I can become like the shepherd boy complementing the farm girl in the book, Song of Solomon. Well, honestly, I normally get a sense of chemistry for a woman, that I will go after. I will compliment, joke and just be myself and how I feel. The deeper I feel the connection so will follow my effort, in most cases. That being said, I don't ever want someone who's not into me feeling pressured. If it ain't mutual, then it ain't period. I won't play that game, and if I have to over strategize any of it, it's gaming to me. so judge accordingly. Not all that compliment or try to build up people have f'd up intentions. If what's given is not a gift you can receive. Then don't take it... ![]() flattery only becomes excessive (to me) if there is a motive that is clearly NOT in the best interests of the receiver....that is called dishonesty attempting to win a woman's heart in an honest matter is an honestly noble act, good sir. The world could use a few more gentlmen ![]() ![]() Thanks, sweetest. The vibe has to flow equally and In many ways I won't try too hard for any woman, especially if my gifts aren't received well... I am very realistic and balanced in my ways from my perspective. Honesty to me is key. So I go with that. I will also give them my worst attributes that I see in me, when the time is appropriate and lends itself to that subject of conversation, to help them make their own decision. It's what right..IMO . ![]() We all have something to offer. When that flows as a give and take with another the results are wonderful. When you allow someone to see the worst in you, do you set something up on purpose, or do you tell her that you have faults and let things occur naturally? I let it flow naturally with the conversation. I'm not looking for anything unnatural in any way and dont create a "list". Sharing whats real in my awareness of self, so they can get to know the actual me...I don't pretend and want no gain from something other. |
|
|
|
some excesive make up on some girls makes me ask,,is she dateing a guy or an art critic Ha ha :) |
|
|