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Topic: who agrees with long distance relationships and whos looking
steve0426's photo
Wed 02/27/13 12:35 PM
Never tried it before, looking for a new experience x

1Cynderella's photo
Wed 02/27/13 12:47 PM
My own personal experience with it was not pleasant. I was in yearlong committed relationship with a man who moved half a country away with a promotion. I could not go with him at the time, but we continued the relationship for another year, talking on the phone and visiting as often as possible. It drove us both batty and we ended up giving each other up to save our sanity.

The crux being, my career was never going to take me there, and his was never going to bring him back to me. Who should give up their life and everything they worked half their lives to achieve? Neither one of us wanted the other to give up that much of themselves, and both of us were scared of resentments down the road if one of us just “went for it” and sacrificed all. Long distance love affairs are not for me.

GreenEyes48's photo
Wed 02/27/13 01:15 PM

My own personal experience with it was not pleasant. I was in yearlong committed relationship with a man who moved half a country away with a promotion. I could not go with him at the time, but we continued the relationship for another year, talking on the phone and visiting as often as possible. It drove us both batty and we ended up giving each other up to save our sanity.

The crux being, my career was never going to take me there, and his was never going to bring him back to me. Who should give up their life and everything they worked half their lives to achieve? Neither one of us wanted the other to give up that much of themselves, and both of us were scared of resentments down the road if one of us just “went for it” and sacrificed all. Long distance love affairs are not for me.
Sounds you were both mature and realistic and caring...Sorry that the relationship ended though..

GreenEyes48's photo
Wed 02/27/13 01:22 PM
I'm not ready to date yet. Or ready to get romantically involved with someone right now...So I'd probably do okay with a long-distance "friendship."

GreenEyes48's photo
Wed 02/27/13 01:22 PM
I'm not ready to date yet. Or ready to get romantically involved with someone right now...So I'd probably do okay with a long-distance "friendship."

oldsage's photo
Wed 02/27/13 01:54 PM
"INTENTION = INTENT"

Want it to work, YOU WILL

1Cynderella's photo
Wed 02/27/13 03:38 PM


My own personal experience with it was not pleasant. I was in yearlong committed relationship with a man who moved half a country away with a promotion. I could not go with him at the time, but we continued the relationship for another year, talking on the phone and visiting as often as possible. It drove us both batty and we ended up giving each other up to save our sanity.

The crux being, my career was never going to take me there, and his was never going to bring him back to me. Who should give up their life and everything they worked half their lives to achieve? Neither one of us wanted the other to give up that much of themselves, and both of us were scared of resentments down the road if one of us just “went for it” and sacrificed all. Long distance love affairs are not for me.
Sounds you were both mature and realistic and caring...Sorry that the relationship ended though..

Maybe too much so. That's just one particular instance between two particular people.

Strangely enough, a part of me also agrees with OLDSAGE. I was very close to giving up everything. Very close.

Neverthelsee, the bad experience will not allow the sensible side of me to venture there again.

no photo
Wed 02/27/13 05:48 PM
i believe its rare that it works out.

I tried it a couple of times and think that trust would be the hardest part of it. There is so many issues to overcome like how often will you see each other? How expensive is it going to be to travel back and forth?..whos going to give up their job to move?

I rather find someone close. Its just too much trouble for me.
It wouldn't take much for someone close to woooo you away from the LDR and thats another issue

josie68's photo
Wed 02/27/13 06:07 PM
Hmmmm if you are looking for a new experience I would probably try hitting yourself in the head with a brick, it's probably less painful.. However it can work and can be great, however it is tough at times. So if you find someone closer choose that.

Not that I would swap long distance, I just wouldnt choose it.

bastet126's photo
Wed 02/27/13 06:15 PM
if one of you can and would move to the other one day, yes. otherwise, it's a long long journey
into the depths of driving yourself crazy. choose wisely padawn.. ;)

no photo
Thu 02/28/13 05:07 PM
never tried it either???wouldn't mind it at all..if the right person comes along..

no photo
Sun 03/03/13 11:37 AM
Its a matter of understanding,any one interested?

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 03/03/13 01:13 PM
Relationships rarely work without one partner moving to the other. Especially if they live more than a few hours drive.

yogi4yogini's photo
Sun 03/03/13 01:16 PM
Josie and Annaconda WOW great story.
Were you long distance friends at first?

I keep trying closer to home and find so often the home listed on site is false (suspected scammers) I am too gullible and naive to figure it out right off. I started to fall for long distance a couple times now, and realize it's not for me. 90 minutes is my max away from here now.

pyxxie13's photo
Sun 03/03/13 01:19 PM
Relationships are tough ... long distance relationships.... you must have a gift.

no photo
Sun 03/03/13 01:35 PM
I wasn't looking for one, but I'm in one and it can be difficult at times. I get pretty lonely for my sweety :cry:

gooub's photo
Sun 03/03/13 01:59 PM
HAve you watched the show CATFISH? i think that show can answer your question

steve0426's photo
Sun 03/03/13 02:00 PM
is it showed on freeview?? I have heard of it never seen it though

unsure's photo
Sun 03/03/13 02:04 PM
I am one that did a long distance relationship before...9000 miles. He lived in New Zealand and I live in Indiana..it was a great vacation for both of us BUT it would never work out, way to expensive.
LDR=brokenheart
No I am not a fan of LDR!! But Good luck!

yogi4yogini's photo
Sun 03/03/13 02:05 PM
Don't you think it's neccesary to gaze into each others eyes before you can be in love, making long distance meeting too risky? I know the preexhisting love can continue, but a new one flourish? What do you think about that?

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