Topic: am i wrong for not crying
rebel_woman07's photo
Sat 08/25/07 10:44 PM
is it wrong that i dont cry myself to sleep
is it wrong that i cant make peace with the bit*& he called his wife that made his and my life a living hell
is it wrong that i dont think about him everysecond of my life
is it wrong that i want him back

samantha mason
daughter of
Joe Mason
July 1966 - August 9, 2007
is it wrong that i still cant remember his birthday

no photo
Sat 08/25/07 10:54 PM
nahhhhhhhh.......the tears will come when you least expect it.......and you will remember..flowerforyou

rebel_woman07's photo
Sat 08/25/07 10:54 PM
or is everyone that doesnt post a reply after reading this knowing a daddy's girl just lost her 41 year old father on august 9th doesnt repost this

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Sat 08/25/07 10:55 PM
No, But you will. Drop me a line if you wish someone to talk to.
Ole Geezer

anoasis's photo
Sat 08/25/07 10:58 PM
Everyone grieves in their own way in their own time. No response is wrong, you just have to figure out what is the best way for *you* to handle this pain... flowerforyou

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Sat 08/25/07 11:03 PM
Life and living, are sometimes, TWO very different things.

Crying comes from releasing pain, pain is felt in your heart,
Your heart is on stand-by for its release.

Nothing anyone can do except to enbrace you and hold you tight,
And show you they care, for you to allow your heart to relax.
:heart: flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou SORRY.:heart:

countrybelle6471's photo
Sat 08/25/07 11:28 PM
Oh-on sweetie I think you are angry,mad,hurt,lonely,have unfinshed bussines with your dad,just a lot of things.You need & must work through.If you want to be abe to move on.Good luck & God bless you.Your in my prayers...flowerforyou

sweetandsexydoctor's photo
Sat 08/25/07 11:29 PM
im so sorry hun im here for u and i have lost a lot of my friends and family in life

caiternoodle's photo
Sun 08/26/07 12:54 AM
My mom died when she was 40... August 10th, 2005..


She died right here... which was scary.. so i cried then..

but afterwards i didnt.. and i still dont.

I cry more for my dead cat..

sometimes parents just..... are different..

judypatudy's photo
Sun 08/26/07 05:26 AM
My dad I did grieve for, he raised me and I had a
step mother from hell..
My mom I never cried a drop and after 14 years I
finally gave her a head stone. I may have forgiven her
but I will never forget her leaving me at 5 years of age..

Jess642's photo
Sun 08/26/07 05:30 AM
There are no right and wrongs with grieving...there are depths...some deeper, some less painful...and then for the loss of some there is no emotion, no words, nothing...just a void.


Be gentle with yourself...flowerforyou

oldsage's photo
Sun 08/26/07 05:34 AM
Many of us have issues with family, I have huge ones.
You will grieve at different levels, in different ways, for every person whose death touches you. I have cried at distant friends death. WHY????????????????
That was what I needed at that moment.
You will do what you need to do at that each & every given moment.
Don't beat yourself up, about it.

HillFolk's photo
Sun 08/26/07 05:43 AM
I couldn't cry at my dad's funeral but later it hit. When my spouse passed the tears lasted for a really long time. Grief tears are really different than regular tears. I thought I was freaking water faucet that couldn't be turned off. Yeah, each one is different in the way they affect you.

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Sun 08/26/07 06:36 AM
Its not wrong ,I lost my mom in june....she was my best freind...I think I just went numb. Everyone is like ... you are a rock! ..yada ,yada ,your so strong... blahh ,blahhh blahhh. Everyone is differant, we all express differantly.

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Sun 08/26/07 06:46 AM
Go ahead and cry...
Sorry for your lose flowerforyou
My prayers go out to those touched by this...

summerlady's photo
Sun 08/26/07 07:11 AM
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my father more than 20 years ago. I was a daddy's girl also. There's still times I miss him. flowerforyou

LoriZ's photo
Sun 08/26/07 07:15 AM
awww sweetie, he was so young, and so are you. you will grieve, you are in shock because it can't be totally real yet. You will cry, you will grieve in your own way. celebrate his life, talk about the good things he did for you, and keep his memory alive that way. I'm sure he knew that he did a great job raising his little girl, and took that with him.
you were most likely his greates achievement...keep that in your heart
lotsa love

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sun 08/26/07 07:27 AM
there are many phases to grief and each individual reacts differently.some people even laugh not from humor but nerves.You will release when you are ready.Big hugs and prayers to you.

Topaz59's photo
Mon 08/27/07 04:46 AM
My step-dad & I got off on the wrong foot when he & my mom first married, because of that I never let myself get very close to him. (I was 20 when they married) Over the years, my husband & I would visit Mom & him, do things with them, but I always held myself back, even after he was diagnosed with luekemia. Then in 2000 we went to visit them in AZ. We had a great time, but he wasn't feeling all that great, when we left, for the first time since I'd met him, I gave him a hug. Three weeks later he passed away. I was shocked, no tears would come. The day of his funeral, I lost it. Suddenly it hit me how large a part of my life he had been & I just broke down. I still get teary-eyed when I think of him. I guess what I'm trying to say is that grief comes at it's own time, in it's own way. When it's time for you to cry, you'll cry. Don't obsess over it, it isn't a bad thing, it isn't disrespectful to your dad, it's just how you're processing his loss. God be with you.