Ok now,under normal circumstance, a male would want a female....And you were born a male,but trans to a female still havin' both parts...Now you female and want a female,still the same female you would want if you were still a male....you should have remained a male and have many females without putting them off....Hmmm,havin' both parts is kinda scary to me,you know :) But in all,just be dead honest from the outset....

[So, my question is this, if I identify as a female, and I am legally female, legal female name, half-way through my transition with both male and female parts, what is the proper approach to dating exactly?
Is it wrong to get someone to know me first before telling them the entire circumstances of my life? Would you be angry if you liked someone very much, then suddenly found out about this?

Any post or comments are greatly appreciated, but please be kind and understanding. I wish not to upset anyone.

Nicole


Being a girl Rocks! now, on to the serious.
I think, this is where being a friend first really comes into play.
Obviously, you can't tell someone straight out of the gate, because people will judge. even if they don't mean to, they do!
I think it becomes a necessity to tell your " love" interest, if you feel the relationship is taking on a more serious nature. Not Deep, Full on LOVE, but when you get to talk of exclusivity with that person.

well like always i am different.. i as a woman dont go around talking about my private parts to men that i date.. if there is a time where my private parts are their business then i may.. i do not understand you all, nikki has every right that all the rest of us do. what a great first date talking about your private parts give me a break! seriously? my advice is.. just this.. date who you want to. but you are gonna have some explaining to do before you get intimate..<if in fact that time will ever come between you> your crotch is no ones business unless there is a time to reveal it.. JMO i say sure go ahead and tell them right away if that is your intentions with them.. which im thinking not by what you have stated in your original post. no one really knows if they are interested in someone unless you have spent some time with them. and you owe no one that you have dated a few times or more and left it at just that any explanation... welcome here

I think its more than whether ones 'crotch' is anyones business

its more about whether someone wanting to date a male is informed that they are a male or not,,,,

or someone wanting to date a female being informed whether they are female or not

I can certainly see that someone getting emotionally invested, and spending time and possibly money on what they are believing is a potential mate,, finding out it was all for naught down the line
would be a little upset and it being just a tad bit unfair to them,,,