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| Topic: wish I could send out a survey | |
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Kinda be nice to know what the heck happened to my relationships. Maybe even get a little constructive criticism. Questions like What was your reason for ending relationship? Did partner send too many messages or not enough? On a scale of 1-10 (ten being best). Was partner attentive? Was partner not attractive enough? Had partner been closer would things have been different? How likely are you to recommend partner to others haha! List three things positive about partner. Three negative things. Any additional comments??? Overall rating 1 to 10, 10 being best. Or maybe I don't wanna know after all! No one ever fills the dang things out anyways.... Sorry to hear of your break up. We have all had them, and some sadly in a marriage ending in divorce, but relationships fail and for a variety of reasons. Knowing what caused it to fail is not going to change things, the relationship has come to an end, and however difficult it is for us we have to accept it. Sometimes we can blame ourselves too much when a relationship fails in my opinion, by trying to look for what we did or did not do, when if the truth be known, the outcome would have been exacly the same whatever we would have done. |
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I'm inclined to say: if you don't even know why a relationship ended, then you didn't pay attention nor listened? Relationships don't end just like that without any clues. You can usually find plenty of answers if you go back to what happened and analyze what was said, done etc. You just gotta put your emotions aside. Sometimes you can still talk about it with the other person, so you get clarity. In other cases you can't or maybe can but still won't get the answers. Then you'll just have to learn to let go, accept. Personally knowing about situations which have occurred in real life, mine and others, and being familiar with the circumstances, I am convinced that relationships can and do dissolve without any clues whatsoever, so in this area I disagree with your blanket statement. The OP's case falls into this category, of which you know nothing about. This is only my opinion so it begs no controversy. 
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Yeah... I wanted to know, until someone ACTUALLY told me what his problem was with me 
Now...I'm with 2kids on this one 
make it a 3-some! 
I think the OP's concept is kinda neat though...we survey everything else. we could make a pact with our partners that if it ends we'll do this...and we could all carry around portfolios .....then it would be: "Oh....you don't have a portfolio? well no , then..." lol 
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I'm inclined to say: if you don't even know why a relationship ended, then you didn't pay attention nor listened? Relationships don't end just like that without any clues. You can usually find plenty of answers if you go back to what happened and analyze what was said, done etc. You just gotta put your emotions aside. Sometimes you can still talk about it with the other person, so you get clarity. In other cases you can't or maybe can but still won't get the answers. Then you'll just have to learn to let go, accept. Personally knowing about situations which have occurred in real life, mine and others, and being familiar with the circumstances, I am convinced that relationships can and do dissolve without any clues whatsoever, so in this area I disagree with your blanket statement. The OP's case falls into this category, of which you know nothing about. This is only my opinion so it begs no controversy.
I agree Missy, there are people out there who hide well what they are up to, and those who believe, naievely, maybe in their partner and the commitment they have to the extent that the "clues" just don;t get through the rose colored glasses. That was me. So I can totally vouch for what you are saying here
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I'm inclined to say: if you don't even know why a relationship ended, then you didn't pay attention nor listened? Relationships don't end just like that without any clues. You can usually find plenty of answers if you go back to what happened and analyze what was said, done etc. You just gotta put your emotions aside. Sometimes you can still talk about it with the other person, so you get clarity. In other cases you can't or maybe can but still won't get the answers. Then you'll just have to learn to let go, accept. Personally knowing about situations which have occurred in real life, mine and others, and being familiar with the circumstances, I am convinced that relationships can and do dissolve without any clues whatsoever, so in this area I disagree with your blanket statement. The OP's case falls into this category, of which you know nothing about. This is only my opinion so it begs no controversy.
I agree Missy, there are people out there who hide well what they are up to, and those who believe, naievely, maybe in their partner and the commitment they have to the extent that the "clues" just don;t get through the rose colored glasses. That was me. So I can totally vouch for what you are saying here
Thank you for your agreement Sweetestgirl! 
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I'm inclined to say: if you don't even know why a relationship ended, then you didn't pay attention nor listened? Relationships don't end just like that without any clues. You can usually find plenty of answers if you go back to what happened and analyze what was said, done etc. You just gotta put your emotions aside. Sometimes you can still talk about it with the other person, so you get clarity. In other cases you can't or maybe can but still won't get the answers. Then you'll just have to learn to let go, accept. Y Oh yes they can end without you ever knowing why and not having a clue. |
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