VERY GOOD POINT. How you really going to have a wonderful future if you are stuck on the past and not even really enjoying the present.

I am as sentimental a sap as there ever was one but no one healthy wants to come into a relationship where one party is still "walking wounded" and having to "live with Ghosts". Even if it isn't being "addicted to love" AA tells people clean up their environment and don't start a new relationship the first year of sobriety. You seem like a nice enough guy focus on being happy and have fun for awhile.

Believe me gals see a guy out smiling enjoying what ever he is doing that is the strongest "love potion" around.

(P.S. That doesn't mean shipfaced drunk or high as a kite just out moving and grooving and having a life worth wanting to be part of.

Hell yeah.
I adore my first exs current husband. He's cool as all hell. Her last one died. He an I had our moments but,quite a few years before he died, we'd all hook up at HER house for BBQs, etc.

Short story.

You be content and happy for your ex, you will know contentment as well.

The most important thing here ,is what do YOU want to do?
What do You feel is best for you?

A GOOD man will always want the best for his ex.

Screw feelings. That to shall pass.

Your blessings for her will count with God.

If you are ashamed of God or are of no faith, then use the word Karma.

I agree. I really don't see the point of making yourself unhappy for someone else. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's as simple as that. I seriously doubt if she would go to your wedding if it made her uncomfortable.

Just a quick, innocent question.

Why does life always have to be self-centered?

What's so difficult about wishing others well?

It's clear to me that she broke up with you and yet you still care for her. Why she invited you to her wedding is a mystery to me. I suggest that you send her and her future husband your thanks and apologies but you are unable to attend their wedding because you now have to visit a relative out of town at that time. I would not send them a card or a gift. You certainly need to move on she is an ex-date and you would be wise to ignore any further contact from them, just my opinion.

Lying is an option ?

He can wish her well from home. He doesn't have to put himself in a painful, awkward position in order to do that. I wish men from my past well, but I don't want to talk to them or see them ever again. For myself, call it selfish if you want to, most humans are selfish.

It's called self-preservation and there's nothing wrong with that. It's fine if you're able to put yourself in situations like that and it doesn't hurt, or if it does hurt, you don't mind and you're willing to sacrifice your comfort for someone else, but it's not fair to expect everyone else to do that. We all deal with things in different ways.

Your truth and explanation makes you 100% hotter.
Thank ya.

Thanks.

I would send her a great thought full gift and thank her but do not attend , like just stay away from it and I know you feel that would be best .

as u have described things, I would say no. do nothing. ignore the invite. no gift. consider whether it was in good taste to have sent it to u in the first place?? just a question to consider...not a statement of fact as obviously what u do is ultimately your decision.

agreed

wish her well from an anonymous distance

She is your ex-date. If I were you I would not go because you still have feelings for her.

Yup.

Cept I'd wouldn't bother with the gift card.
That's probably why she invited you in the first place.

Don't be an idiot. Move on with your life WITHOUT HER.

But how long are you gonna stare at her pics for? Won't that make you want her more? What's that doing for you? You don't want it to hold you back from dating.

Initially I thought don't go... But then I thought maybe being at the wedding and seeing her happy with her new man might give you some closure and some incentive to find your one true love.. Just a thought

Initially I thought don't go... But then I thought maybe being at the wedding and seeing her happy with her new man might give you some closure and some incentive to find your one true love.. Just a thought