What exactly are the right reasons for getting married? I don't like to be alone like many other people have stated. Is that the only reason for marraige? How do you find that perfect match? Does it even exist? I'm having my doubts. There are many people that I like on here. Some I really like. A couple I simply adore. Can any of them work out? Or is this just a big Fantasy land where you pick out what you want but don't really Buy anything. Kind of like window shopping.

I see the pain of so many relationships gone wrong. So many people complaining about how terrible their married Life was and how lonley they are without someone...Is there hope? Is there a 'Happily ever after' out there for any of us? For all of us? Or are we just fooling ourselves? Fooling each other?

This concludes this segment of the show...Tune in to tomorrow for 'How to get over the walls that we have built'

Mike, may I be so bold to tell you two things my dear?........First, stop sweating everything, have no regrets because all that matters in the end is that you have some good stories on your deathbed.......make them gather around you and laugh and seek your wisdom before you go. Tell them about the good ones, and the bad ones. Second, I think if you got laid.....and soon, these foggy moments would subside.

Mike....

I think MOST of us don't want to be alone. That sounds like a horrible thought. Is there ever anyone out there that are perfect for one another? I would hope...that talking to someone important...would lead to a meeting...which could have endless possibilities. Not having someone in my life is lonely, without a doubt. But that does not mean that I would hope to be able to meet someone and be with them. I wish I had a crystal ball which lets me know what the future holds. Happily ever after...would be something that I always would want, to strive for. You never know...what the future has in store for any of us.

SugarSpicegal...Thanks for deathbed anology and the getting laid part was funny too.

Puffins...Thanks for sticking to the topic...Maybe a Crystal Ball is the answer...Looking on E-bay now

Hmmmmm I think we can like, love, adore people, but you also have to be able to live with that person to be married. That is a totally different ballgame.

Can a person accept the other person, faults and all? Or do we put them on such a high pedestal that when they act human we no longer "love" them.

Common morals, not interests, communication, respect, fidelity all go hand in hand with being able to "be" with someone as well as love.

i like "some" alone time don't wanna be alone always though

GO TO YOUR ROOM PAPA!!!

Not being alone is one reason...
but there are many reasons to get married...

It is a comitment.
It is a partnership.
It is an exclusive friendship.
It is a full time job.

But I seem to like the compainionship of everyday!
The knowing you love and care about each other enough to marry
each other-rather than live together. The sharing of your lives and the journey through life together...

I GUESS,,,IT WOULD BE,,,,,,,

When YOU "feel" that YOU can't LIVE WITHOUT "THEM".....

SO "THEN", You want to spend your entire LIFE with "THEM"..

NOW, as for ME,,IF I would choose to LIVE with a lady or HAVE HER live with ME,,,

The "PAPER" don't mean poop, I WOULD ALREADY "FEEL" HER LOVE
and HER "MINE...so in my HEART and MIND, ,,,,,,,,,

WE WOULD "BE" MARRIED,,,and if "SHE" wanted the PAPER END OF IT,
NO PROBLEM,,,,,,,,IN A HEART BEAT......

But to ME MARRIED has ALWAYS been an OVER-RATED, TITLE.
ITS ALL ABOUT,,,where YOU PLACE THAT "PERSON" IN YOUR "HEART".
NOT a piece of "PAPER".....

When entering a committed relationship, how many have a 'movie' running through their heads of how this is going to look?

After the white dress, the party is over, and the confetti has settled...who really looks at their partner, not as one of hope and reliance of unresolved fantasies and dreams...but wih total acceptance of that person?

I read so often the ex did this, the ex did that, lying, cheating, stealing, abusing, etc etc...so why did you guys stay so long, and what strange personality trait just popped up with the cornflakes?

So many hide in victim mode...he/she did this to me...ok, so my question...why? I am not laying blame...but people seek out the affections of another, because they are dependent on someone 'filling them up'...their emotional needs. is it possible that relationship was co-dependent?, and if you dont know what it is...look it up.

And there are genuine victims, drugs, depression, can change a personality...fast relationships, sliding into the entrapment, commitment stage can often spring a few surprises...

I like the date for a year and a day, live together for a year and a day, commit for a year and a day, and if after that time, both are whole and healthy people, consider that marriage thing....if they absolutely have to.

Those that say...mmm he/she's hot...think I might hook up with him/her...and do the wild thing pretty much instantly, then try to fashion a relationship around lust....get what they pay for.

I say it often...learn and earn a relationship...learn the other...dont desire a clone of you in a partner who is your polar opposite, and dont accept it from another either.

Is being alone really so bad? I think you have to really dig deep into your heart and find out if you really like yourself? I feel very content with me...I like my "alone" time and honestly I don't know if I am willing to give it up for a partner.
I think if you are happy within yourself, then you don't get lonely. If you have children, how can you be lonely? I have been blessed with 2 wonderful boys, so I never really feel alone or lonely. Plus, I am very happy with myself, very happy with life. I think if you ever had an illness that you had to face, you are happy to wake up every single day.
I have 2 great boys, I wake up every single day, my parents are still alive, I have brothers and sisters, I have wonderful friends...what more could I want in life??