((((((JAYME)))))))) I think you need a hug. Tell the boyfriend to straighten up, that he needs to be more understanding, and if not then it is time for you to make a decision.

I told him that if he wants to know whether or not he has a kid he might want to show up and buy me a test. I want him to see it for himself if I am so that none of his a$$hole family members can sit there and say "she's lyin, she ain't pregnant" Especially since he knows that I could never lie about something like that. I told him that if he don't come back, I might take a test but he won't know the results.

Do what you have to do for your own peace of mind.

You can raise a child on your own if you need to, but give it serious thought about not leaving him know the test results. Think about the future.

Yeah, I know. I'd tell him. Its just the fact that if he thinks I wouldn't tell him unless its in person then it gives him more incentive to get his a$$ back here and find out. See, he was talking about staying in New Mexico and when I asked "well, what if I really am pregnant? I do think its a strong possibility" He said that he's send me child support! WTF? Wouldn't you be like "then I'll be there for you even if we're not together" not "I'll send you child support" What kind of idiot says that?

Jayme You can do better than that creep.

A person who isnt ready to grow up and face the fact that its time to be responsible for their actions. He doesn't sound ready for a committment. Good luck.

I'm not really all that worried about whether he wants to commit anymore or not. I just want him to see for himself if the test has 2 pink lines on it or not. I'd rather us be together if I am for the baby, but if its better for my child for us not to be, then so be it.

jayme, boyfriend sounds bad. How is everyone today? Thanks for all the replys.

Yeah, I know he does. I'm trying so hard to make it work and he's not helping me make it work. Its kind of a lost cause. When he gets back we're having a very long discussion.

jayme~I think its time to get the test for yourself!!! You need to get things stright in you mind really soon. And if he does come back and brings you one I would take it too so he can see. I know if it were me I would have had that test done 2 or 3 times by now. He doesn't seem like the guy you want your child around...kick his butt to the street! You can do so much better. Hang in there






Dreadhead~I'm doing okay how are you?

it happens...
I just don't seat it...
there are a lot of nice people to chat with in the forum
don't let it get to ya!

I think I'm also scared of the test saying no... cus I was with my ex for over 3 years and for 2 of them we tried every month to get pregnant and nothing. I'm so used to it not happening that I'm scared that I'm gonna have my heart broken again. He's on his way back from what he said earlier when I talked to him again. I DO know that he cares about me, but I also know he's a selfish bastard who is only out for number 1. I'm making him buy the test. I have like $5 that he don't know about, but I'm savin it for just in case he don't come back I CAN get myself a test.

Jayme I'm sorry to hear that you didn't have a child with your ex but isn't it a good thing in the long run that you didn't? I don't know if I could do it all by myself. Hell I know I couldn't I don't have a job and really don't have a place to call home. I mean I live with my grandmother but she sees it as I'm staying the night kinda thing. Good luck. I hope for the best for you.

Yes, in the long run it was best that I didn't concieve with my ex, but that didn't keep all the empty test line windows from breaking my heart. I haven't found a job yet, but I'm working on it. I do know that my situation isn't ideal, but I do have a home and enough job experience to get one if anyone's hiring. Also, if NEED BE (rather not, but anyway) there's state assistance until I can do better.

if I really wanted to get a job I could...i'm just to lazy for that and I'm getting a long better with gma now that I'm home during the day.


I was pregnant once and lost it. I would have a 6yr old running around. Anyway its much better that I don't. It hurt and I think about it sometimes...aww now i'm sad...I have always wanted kids....

Awww, I'm sorry you're sad. Sadness is what is keeping me from just jumping at it and testing. I'm scared to death of another negative p/g test.

JAYME I KNOW THAT I'M NOT MUCH HELP BUT IF YOU NEED TO VENT ABOUT ANYTHING I'M HERE!!!

Thanks sweetie. I am trying to NOT stress about him because that will not help with my possible current situation. Its like, he'll get better for about a week, then he'll be an a$$hole for the next few days until I call him on it. Maybe all I need to do is call him on it again... who knows. Anyway, I DO know that no matter what I have a very strong support system with or without him.

oh wOw,

WITH HIM GETTING BETTER AND THEN GOING BACK....ITS NOT GOING TO CHANGE!! SOME GUYS JUST CAN'T GROW UP. I SO GLAD THAT YOU HAVE A STRONG SUPPORT WITH OUT HIM.