Before that first deep, sensual kiss.
Before making passionate love.

Will you and your potential partner get tested for STDs?

If you do and tests come back positive for aids, hsv2 or any other non-cureable virus, will you still pursue an LTR with them?

I may, I may not depends on the situation, however if I screw up and sleep with someone who im unsure about eitherwith or without a condom I immediately get myself tested

as far as if they know they have something I Probably wouldn't pursue it, I watched someone close to me suffer through hiv and dont think id want to watch someone else do the same

No.
Never had an STD.
Don't really want to start now.

How will you know the woman you kiss or have sex with doesn't have an STD?

Do you take the chance or insist on a Drs report?

After a little more thought....what the hell.
If a woman turns my crank, and wants to have sex,
I'll probably just go for it.
I'm 51, so an STD may not be any worse than all the other health crap that
shows up. Might as well use that prostate before it turns on me.

HSV2 can be transferred by even hugging someone infected.

Cheek to cheek hugs can infect you.

Been reading up on this stuff.

Do you end it or just take the med and carry on?

Sounds like celibacy is in order for you dude...

so exactly how does that conversation go..ohh.. sorry I would give you a kiss goodnight,. but first I need to see a note from your doctor..hmm..lol.. wrap it up are don't unwrap it ...lol

Oh, really.

Having this info, what will you do?
Spin the wheel or you both get tested?

I get to know the woman before jumping in bed with her. Helps avoid the whole not sure if they have a "dirty" history before it begins.

And if she has no idea she is infected or, decides to say nothing about it?

If she is unwilling/uncertain to tell you about her sexual past that should be a warning flag.

Getting tested is good if both parties decides to come clean & become committed. No matter what the outcome is, that love will never change for me.

Can I get a hug willing2? ...or should I get tested first?

Good thread. For me this would go into the category of money or love which I saw earlier on the site. Because if you work in the medical field it can knock you out of both. If you are affected you can't work which can knock you out of the money and the love for those you have to take care of. I guess it takes a real workaholic to see the connection. You can get into some real trouble with cross contamination both in your private and public areas. Be good for goodness sake.

I read this thread and wonder WTF in my head....

There is some risk associated with any chance one takes... I will not live in fear of hugging someone that's for sure..

Suppose "we" got tested together, that's still no guarantee that either of are clean, HIV can be in ones system up to 30 days before detected...

Since I started giving a damn about my well being I stopped picking up girls in bars, going to whore houses and sought out women that respect themselves....

Be kinda nice if women would chime in on this.

I have no fear. I hug folks all the time.

Why are STDs associated with whore houses or loose women?

Anyone, even the healthiest minded folk can contract it.

Any form of body fluid can pass HSV2.

Very true, however if she respects herself, chances are she'll respect you and be honest... What's not to love about that?

You're right.
Thanks.

Having worked in hospital settings for nine years and in private home health care after that, one learns that we are exposed to blood borne and airborne diseases. You could be at the supermarket and be close to someone with a respiratory virus and become infected.
In a relationship, if you're not comfortable having the conversation, then maybe you're not ready to make it sexual.
Intimacy is about sharing of yourself. You can have intimacy, know a person deep down to their soul and never have had sex with them.

WOW this must be one of them big city things,I dont just jump in bed with a woman i just met,If you take your time and get to know the person,you will know if shes THAT kinda girl,thank god i have never had any thing,just bcos iam a guy dosnt mean i tap every thing that comes along,never have,never will,