to be a strong single mother. when I see all the videos on you tube with men saying DONT DATE SINGLE MOMS and why its so hard on the kids. all I have to say is ( using my children as an example) my kids are the happiest little things on this planet. I tell them all the time the circumstances of why I became a single mother and so because of this there are no lies in my household. I tell my kids all the time and this is the way I feel... they are the only people on this planet that I would gladly give my life for because they are the only people who are perfect in my eyes and that will never change. I don't struggle with money ( only the normal amount everybody has eg an unexpected bill or something breaks) I am good with money and because I don't smoke or very rarely drink( because I refuse to become one of those people who drink alone) I have more money to do things with. my kids don't go without in fact they get far too much lol. I am modest in dressing and even though I am a single mom I have values that I live by, for instance I have very old fashioned views on marriage and love. I started a spiritual journey not long ago and because of that I am seeing things in a whole different light. most marriage's and relationships break up its like nobody is trying anymore, I am a single mom and that wont change ( that is something I have decided too and I feel free because I don't have to think about it anymore) my kids know that everyday is going to be the same and ill be there for them. my kids know that there wont be any arguments where they sit on the stairs listening and getting upset because there parents might be splitting up. my home is a peaceful household where everyone is loved and you can be yourself. the best time in my home is dinnertime when we eat round the TV watching on the busses and bread and laughing with each other. the ironic thing is I know how good I've got it because one of my friends has a husband and she is unhappy because its one long compromise to him and not in a share and share alike way. I don't have any problems like that because me and my kids decide everything. so after that I will say... being a single mom for lots of people is maybe something they cant really handle. then there are other single moms who are strong and take to it like a duck to water, not everyday is a good day as my oldest has Asperger's and has been really badly bullied because of it and that is stress in itself, but most days I would do it all again to have my lovely, annoying at times, cute, kind, and intelligent babies. being a couple is overrated.

Nahhhhh, it's not. Throwing others under the bus to make one's self feel better about one's lot in life does not suggest one IS actually happy with one's current circumstances.


Congratulations on being a single mom and (feeling like) you're doing it well; no doubt, you are.


"Being a couple" when raising a child is neither over - nor under - rated. It simply is A situation in which children are reared.

What should be the goal is to be happy with one's situation and to be handling it well, whether it be as a single mother, a single father, a married couple, an unmarried coupling, and/or a childless human.



Best of luck to you in your continued success - and happiness - with where YOU are in your life, at any - and all - given moment/s.

WHAT I SEE IS THE MOM USUALY RESCUING THE CHILD FROM THE STEP PARENT WHICH MAKES THEM THE

VICTIM IN THIS TRIANGLE---TAKE CARE OF THE GUY AND IN MOST CASES HE WILL TAKE OF THE CHILD--

-JUMPING IN AND DEFENDING THE CHILD FROM YOU IS SOMETHING I KNOW YOU COULD NOT PUT UP

WITH---THE PROBLEM IS WE ARE NOT PERFECT MALE OR FEMALE---WHEN YOU BECOME PERFECT MAYBE

HE WILL NOT HAVE TO BE---LIKE I SAID THE MOTHER IS ALLOWED TO BE HUMAN AND MAKE MISTAKES IN

REARING THE THE CHILD BUT THE STEP FATHER IS NOT--- OH BY THE WAY ALL KIDS ARE

REALY PERFECT---THEY INHERIT OUR PROBLEMS-----

I found your post very inspirational and very similar to my own situation. I wish you lots of love and light - that you will receive many blessings! Besides your children - which are the ones you have now. Thank you for sharing

Its funny I don't even think of myself as a single mom. I'm just mom....and I love it!

Kudos to all great Moms!

Hey Carrie

Hi John

Wow....you are a Super Mom333!! Having to cope with Asperger's is difficult but you are taking it in stride! Kudos to you and you chose it rightly to go it alone! Like your friend, I stayed in the marriage for 10 over years for the sake of the children, but my children gave me the courage to break loose!