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this is not a post about the type of work that provides an 'earned income' there are many forms of work which don't earn a monetary income
what I refer to is those who seek a spouse to fit a role of spouse (ie seek a man as a financial provider/protector/mechanic/landscaper etc , or a woman as a maid/cook/nanny/arm candy) with no real concern with being a companion to or friend of that spouse I think a lot of relationships are failing due to the mentality of those who only thinking what they want to get and not what they are willing to give,,,, ,,,,,,,,just my rant,,,,thanx for reading,, |
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Edited by
sybariticguy
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Sat 11/08/14 03:11 PM
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If you define yourself and a relationship in gender specific roles then both parties are likely to suffer. If you need a maid or someone to pay your bills you are entering a dependent relationship which is unhealthy as there is generally a power struggle between the two.If you cant pay your own bills or need a maid you are better served getting a second job, or hiring a maid and or going back to school to get the necessary training to avoid being dependent as most folks get tired of adopting others even for short periods of time. As painful as it is, the person without their own assets and ability to be self sufficient does no relationship any good and often is the precursor to resentment and quarrels...
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If you define yourself and a relationship in gender specific roles then both parties are likely to suffer. If you need a maid or someone to pay your bills you are entering a dependent relationship which is unhealthy as there is generally a power struggle between the two.If you cant pay your own bills or need a maid you are better served getting a second job, or hiring a maid and or going back to school to get the necessary training to avoid being dependent as most folks get tired of adopting others even for short periods of time. As painful as it is, the person without their own assets and ability to be self sufficient does no relationship any good and often is the precursor to resentment and quarrels... Well said. 
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If you define yourself and a relationship in gender specific roles then both parties are likely to suffer. If you need a maid or someone to pay your bills you are entering a dependent relationship which is unhealthy as there is generally a power struggle between the two.If you cant pay your own bills or need a maid you are better served getting a second job, or hiring a maid and or going back to school to get the necessary training to avoid being dependent as most folks get tired of adopting others even for short periods of time. As painful as it is, the person without their own assets and ability to be self sufficient does no relationship any good and often is the precursor to resentment and quarrels... Well said. I am on board with this well said I also agree with Msharmony's statement about relationships failing due to people focusing on what they want but not what they are willing to give, so true.
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