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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk?
This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. |
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They are both rejects.
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I know, huh..I feel like I want something that doesn't exist, it seems so simple and not asking for too much, but mutual respect and attraction is so hard to find.
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... |
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... What she said. 
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Move on.
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Edited by
Maria195
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Wed 02/18/15 07:14 AM
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I'm going true that right now
 but for me I stay away from both until I find the right person. And tell both of them things are not working and just want to move one. Simple as that! The way no one gets hurt.
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Edited by
Estelle79
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Wed 02/18/15 07:20 AM
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The jerks can be so charming that before you know they're jerks you're already attracted to them..normal self respecting women fall for charming men all the time.. Also, the same question can apply to the other guy: what's wrong with me that I'm not attracted to the guy who loves me? Guys ask that all the time of us, why don't we like the nice guys, and we always put them in the friend zone. And then women always say we're just looking for true love, but what is that when mutual attraction and respect are seriously hard to find...maybe impossible..
This is the biggest mystery ever! |
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody.
I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! |
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... You can't fix what ain't broken. ;) Sometimes we do have an attraction to those who are undesireable to us for one reason or another. You have to be wise enough to realize that attraction doesn't always mean anything and doesn't require us to take action. You seem to have that down. :) |
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody. I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! Patience!...Morning ((((Maria))))  ...You took the words right out of my mouth!..Sometimes the patience you need is with the guy...Give the nice guys a chance to kick the chit out of someone, know what I mean! ...
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... You can't fix what ain't broken. ;) Sometimes we do have an attraction to those who are undesireable to us for one reason or another. You have to be wise enough to realize that attraction doesn't always mean anything and doesn't require us to take action. You seem to have that down. :) Mornin Totage! ...That's because I've made my fair share of mistakes...
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... You can't fix what ain't broken. ;) Sometimes we do have an attraction to those who are undesireable to us for one reason or another. You have to be wise enough to realize that attraction doesn't always mean anything and doesn't require us to take action. You seem to have that down. :) Mornin Totage! ...That's because I've made my fair share of mistakes... The wise dont make mistakes, they have life lessons. The fools make mistakes. :) |
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What would you do if the person who loved you was unattractive and the person you were attracted to was a total jerk? This is not gender related, it goes for both men and women. If the person who loved me was unattractive to me, I would tell him so that he could move on...If I was attracted to a total jerk, I would try to figure out and fix what was wrong with ME.... You can't fix what ain't broken. ;) Sometimes we do have an attraction to those who are undesireable to us for one reason or another. You have to be wise enough to realize that attraction doesn't always mean anything and doesn't require us to take action. You seem to have that down. :) Mornin Totage! ...That's because I've made my fair share of mistakes... The wise dont make mistakes, they have life lessons. The fools make mistakes. :)  Ooooo, well said sweet talker!
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Edited by
Maria195
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Wed 02/18/15 08:01 AM
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody. I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! Patience!...Morning ((((Maria)))) ...You took the words right out of my mouth!..Sometimes the patience you need is with the guy...Give the nice guys a chance to kick the chit out of someone, know what I mean! ...  double post. I'm sorry.
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody. I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! Patience!...Morning ((((Maria)))) ...You took the words right out of my mouth!..Sometimes the patience you need is with the guy...Give the nice guys a chance to kick the chit out of someone, know what I mean! ... Thanks dear Leigh! You're always nice lady and treat us with respect  but sometimes this "Little men" seems like want to be treated like I'm his mother. Is the reason I told him "Adios mi amigo" (Goodbye my friend) Hit the road Jack >>>>>>>>  
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody. I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! Patience!...Morning ((((Maria)))) ...You took the words right out of my mouth!..Sometimes the patience you need is with the guy...Give the nice guys a chance to kick the chit out of someone, know what I mean! ... Thanks dear Leigh! You're always nice lady and treat us with respect but sometimes this "Little men" seems like want to be treated like I'm his mother. Is the reason I told him "Adios mi amigo" (Goodbye my friend) Hit the road Jack >>>>>>>> I hear that!! And don't let the door hit you in the azz on your way out sod buster!  
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I wouldn't be with an unattractive woman anyway. Gotta fancy that lassie to be with her in the 1st place, is the way I see it?
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Estelle: Nothing is impossible if you have patience and try not to put your eyes on those you call "Jerks" ... maybe if you do look around and not settle for less. In my opinion is always someone out there for everybody. I treat others with respect and try to be polite, but not everybody treats me the same way I am, and is Ok. too! We all have been born and race with different background and is hard to be in a relationship if we both don't walk hand by hand and try to agree with most of our daily life. Best wishes in finding the right partner! Patience!...Morning ((((Maria)))) ...You took the words right out of my mouth!..Sometimes the patience you need is with the guy...Give the nice guys a chance to kick the chit out of someone, know what I mean! ... Thanks dear Leigh! You're always nice lady and treat us with respect but sometimes this "Little men" seems like want to be treated like I'm his mother. Is the reason I told him "Adios mi amigo" (Goodbye my friend) Hit the road Jack >>>>>>>> I hear that!! And don't let the door hit you in the azz on your way out sod buster! I know, but I will try to get my feet in the water on of his days
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I think many people condition themselves to see attraction as a real "love" connection, yes you can't choose who you're attracted to...it a biological response. ..but you can choose who you love.
unfortunately I've met many people who tie these two together, and when t game e initial excitement wears off they think that means that they no longer love that person. Question has there ever been a "nice guy" in your life who weren't at first attracted to, but then he starts dating a friend and you are now at least a little more attracted to him? to get a little nerdy, that excitement, butterflies in the stomach, etc is because of a dopamine response elicited in the brain, which comes from fear, excitement, or even from a dominating physique.... most "jerks" seem forbidden and exciting, therefore they trigger that dopamine reaction, Many "nice guys" are "safe" and "boring" therfore that dopamine response isn't triggered and yiu end up feeling nothing for them....until it's to late If you want an interesting read, read "The Married Guys Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay, the book is targeted at married men who's wives have "fallen out of love with them" he explains the biology of attraction, it definitely gives a different perspective on certain areas |
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