Topic: Help please
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Wed 03/11/15 04:23 PM
Okay, here's the situation. I was chatting fairly regular on here with another member. I left the site for a while and when I returned I could not send her a message without her messaging me back first......fair enough, that rule makes sense to me. However, I have returned and she has winked at me.....I am not able to send her a message! Please help!

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Wed 03/11/15 05:18 PM

Okay, here's the situation. I was chatting fairly regular on here with another member. I left the site for a while and when I returned I could not send her a message without her messaging me back first......fair enough, that rule makes sense to me. However, I have returned and she has winked at me.....I am not able to send her a message! Please help!


she has to change her settings to allow that... most women have the "not married" setting turned on, for a reason...

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Wed 03/11/15 05:41 PM
No, it says "she needs to reply before I can send another message"
If you send too many messages in a row you get cut off.

Trust me, it's nothing to do with being married.....

I was gone for about a month.

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Wed 03/11/15 05:45 PM
Edited by mightymoe on Wed 03/11/15 05:46 PM

No, it says "she needs to reply before I can send another message"
If you send too many messages in a row you get cut off.

Trust me, it's nothing to do with being married.....

I was gone for about a month.


i guess thats an anti stalking feature they have in place, seems like... never seen that before

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Wed 03/11/15 05:51 PM
That's exactly what it is! It's a great feature. Except I sent 5 short emails that could have been one! Like a month ago. Now I'm back and she winks at me and I can't message her. Lol.

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Wed 03/11/15 05:55 PM


No, it says "she needs to reply before I can send another message"
If you send too many messages in a row you get cut off.

Trust me, it's nothing to do with being married.....

I was gone for about a month.


i guess thats an anti stalking feature they have in place, seems like... never seen that before

Indeed, it is a layer of protection.
To prevent unlimited unsolicited email.

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Wed 03/11/15 05:57 PM
Edited by Marriedguy1976 on Wed 03/11/15 06:11 PM
Oh man. I didn't come here to be judged..... It was just a simple question.

The post that this was in response to has been removed..... :)

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Wed 03/11/15 06:04 PM

That's exactly what it is! It's a great feature. Except I sent 5 short emails that could have been one! Like a month ago. Now I'm back and she winks at me and I can't message her. Lol.
Delete your current acct and start a new one?

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Wed 03/11/15 06:10 PM
You have to wait for her to open her messages before it lets you send another one, I think.

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Wed 03/11/15 06:11 PM
maybe she'll see this and send you an email... or you can send her a friend request and mention that to her