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Very well said Ese ! When i started out on this internet dating adventure,i found that i was defending myself to many ladies who insisted that they had been hurt in the past and didn't want that again.Fair enough,i would reply.Then i would explain that we had that in common because i have been hurt too.For some reason,many seemed to skip over that piece of information as if they had a monopoly on being hurt.Nowadays i tell someone once,and if they insist on repeating themselves i tell them i am not their ex,wish them well with their emotional issues,and say goodbye.Harsh maybe ? Possibly in some cases,but my conscience is clear when i have explained myself.There's nothing wrong with a guy expecting the same initial level of trust that a woman does when we first start chatting is there ? Thankfully,i then found the forums on here,and discovered some amazing women speaking with an open mind.Thank you ladies  surprise surprise, men have feelings too. who would have guessed. it's cats like you who get a bowlful of sour grapes from women, eat it gladly, sometimes even ask for seconds, and in the end, if it just doesn't work, move on without having to "get even" or hold it against the next one, that keeps love alive and kicking. hang in there fella, i'm hoping we'll get on the same page as these women somehow  |
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Totes. What's up Ese?
 It'd be a nice change to see people putting the past where it belongs. Awesome post! 
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much respect and admiration for all 3 of you gentlemen say babygirl, you wouldn't happen to have three sisters would ya? i reckon if her sister's were like her, it wouldn't matter to me which one i ended up with. you got first pick if it's ohkay with pancho that is  |
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Great post Ese
 I experienced on my own skin how annoying it is to be compared with someone else�s deeds - and how unhealthy and tiresome it is. Besides it is simple injustice, nothing else. Showing that the person is not mature enough to deal with his/her past. Once, in a similar situation, I just took my purse and went away. If somebody wants to belive in something, there is no way to prove anything to him - and also it�s not our problem but theirs. We all have something bad that happened in past, but the new person IS a new person. Being careful is one thing but treating somebody as if he caused one�s problems or making revenge on him/her is something completely different. And shouldn�t be allowed in any healthy relationship. Wish you all to find great partners and happy relationships
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Good post Ese.
I've never thought of it this way but you make some good points. Here's beer on me
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Quality thread bulldog but I expect nothing less from you, to you and all that have posted here. Guess I have been a bit isolated lately from the world, didn't realize how cut throat this can be. While I think we all have our share of bumps and bruises at this point in our lives I too do not share the bitterness nor can I relate to the value in passing along the sins of partners past. Hope all you gentlemen of worth find your ladies you deserve them and should be esteemed and not taken for granted, at least from what I have read in the posts.  howdy pretty lady. thank you kindly for the kind words. i don't know if you have settled on where you're going to hang your hat, but i'm hoping you decide to beautify texas with your presence I wish it could be texas for so many reasons, alas it must be so cal for the time being. Vacations are good thou and who knows what the future holds. Take care handsome and stay sweet! 
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Totes. What's up Ese? It'd be a nice change to see people putting the past where it belongs. Awesome post! i get the whole don't forget the past or you're bound to repeat it thing, but when you are looking to start a new relationship, there isn't a darn thing you can do to change what has already happened to someone. the future is iffy at best, so look for today. as they say, we live in the present 
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Great post Ese I experienced on my own skin how annoying it is to be compared with someone else�s deeds - and how unhealthy and tiresome it is. Besides it is simple injustice, nothing else. Showing that the person is not mature enough to deal with his/her past. Once, in a similar situation, I just took my purse and went away. If somebody wants to belive in something, there is no way to prove anything to him - and also it�s not our problem but theirs. We all have something bad that happened in past, but the new person IS a new person. Being careful is one thing but treating somebody as if he caused one�s problems or making revenge on him/her is something completely different. And shouldn�t be allowed in any healthy relationship. Wish you all to find great partners and happy relationships aw babygirl, you're so sweet i think i'll set an appointment with my dentist. you may have given me a cavity
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Good post Ese. I've never thought of it this way but you make some good points. Here's beer on me see ya in man law
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Tue 03/24/15 04:22 PM
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Great post Ese I experienced on my own skin how annoying it is to be compared with someone else�s deeds - and how unhealthy and tiresome it is. Besides it is simple injustice, nothing else. Showing that the person is not mature enough to deal with his/her past. Once, in a similar situation, I just took my purse and went away. If somebody wants to belive in something, there is no way to prove anything to him - and also it�s not our problem but theirs. We all have something bad that happened in past, but the new person IS a new person. Being careful is one thing but treating somebody as if he caused one�s problems or making revenge on him/her is something completely different. And shouldn�t be allowed in any healthy relationship. Wish you all to find great partners and happy relationships aw babygirl, you're so sweet i think i'll set an appointment with my dentist. you may have given me a cavity well, yes, sugar and whip, that�s mine in procentage 90:10  
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with all that has been said, i do have to admit there are some great ladies here on the forums, thank you ladies for being such a great example of how woman should teat men and woman with respect,.THAN U !
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I guess I don't understand most of what you speak Ese. Not saying it isn't true. Just know for myself it isn't true. I've been married and divorced but have no children. I paid my ex to leave but have no hard feelings. I've never believed in burning bridges whether in a lost relationship or a job. I think most of what I've experience in my relationships are what male or females run into which shouldn't make them victims or bitter. We all have choices and priorities. The life we have is the life we have made on our own.
Just want you to know there are females out there that aren't full of drama but who have experienced life yet aren't full of drama. |
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I guess I don't understand most of what you speak Ese. Not saying it isn't true. Just know for myself it isn't true. I've been married and divorced but have no children. I paid my ex to leave but have no hard feelings. I've never believed in burning bridges whether in a lost relationship or a job. I think most of what I've experience in my relationships are what male or females run into which shouldn't make them victims or bitter. We all have choices and priorities. The life we have is the life we have made on our own. Just want you to know there are females out there that aren't full of drama but who have experienced life yet aren't full of drama. thanks for posting. i was wondering why you in particular were on a dating site. best guess is the locals are in still in awe you know where you have been, where you are now, and where you are going. i was talking about women who are lost. they put all their trust in a guy who not only let them down, but rubbed their nose in it as well. and would do it each time they allowed him back hope you find a man of your caliber and he holds his own with you for a lifetime |
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Ese, best post I've read since I came onto the site! Respect, you got it in a nutshell!
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Ese, best post I've read since I came onto the site! Respect, you got it in a nutshell! thanks bro, several posts i've read of yours made me want to have a few pints with ya
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A lot of what everyone has said previously has a lot of merit. I do agree that folks that have been treated wrongly in the past should let it go. Yet, as for some of the carp that has happened to me, I try to learn from it and NOT repeat the same mistakes. So to me that means staying away from situations that will bring on carp.
Now on the flip side, how would all you fellas feel about a lady that had a great relationship with her guy and he passes away. Wouldn't you still be in a position to be compared with that great guy? Isn't every relationship during a second time around a comparison? How would you feel in that instance? |
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much respect and admiration for all 3 of you gentlemen say babygirl, you wouldn't happen to have three sisters would ya? wish I did. it would definitely be an honor to have any of you in my family. I sincerely hope you find someone who appreciates all that you are 
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A lot of what everyone has said previously has a lot of merit. I do agree that folks that have been treated wrongly in the past should let it go. Yet, as for some of the carp that has happened to me, I try to learn from it and NOT repeat the same mistakes. So to me that means staying away from situations that will bring on carp. Now on the flip side, how would all you fellas feel about a lady that had a great relationship with her guy and he passes away. Wouldn't you still be in a position to be compared with that great guy? Isn't every relationship during a second time around a comparison? How would you feel in that instance? i would let that wonderful woman feel whatever she wanted to feel, all the while making new memories with her. how can one compare to another when everyone is unique? like trying to find two exact snowflakes it's the negative feelings that are lingering from bad experiences that make women feel like if they let their guard down they are going to get beat down. no one deserves to feel like hammered dog shet, nor should anyone's happiness depend on just one person like sammy hagar says: Oh but it's all right with me now I'll get back up somehow And with a little luck yes I'm bound to win 'Cause I'll fall in love, yes I'll fall in love again |
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it's the negative feelings that are lingering from bad experiences that make women feel like if they let their guard down they are going to get beat down. no one deserves to feel like hammered dog shet, nor should anyone's happiness depend on just one person You are definitely gracious soul ESE. But to only address the above... If you strike a dog enough times, no matter how nice anyone is later, that dog will still cringe at a raised hand. Even if that hand is now only going to pet the dog. No one or no pet should ever get that beat down, yet it happens all the time. <---- Living proof of it happening. |
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Alcohol, tobacco, and firearms..
Who's bringin' the chips? |
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