"A young boy asked his father "what must I do to find the right woman?" The father answered "Do not look for the right woman. Focus on being the right man." - old world proverb

I came to a realization recently:
She's going to ask ME out.
She'll do it accepting the risk of me saying either "yes" or "no."
And yeah, I know it's less likely to happen because of the social tradition of "man has to ask woman out first."
Don't you think she'll know THAT, too?
If she's brave enough, she won't care about that at all.
And just because something is less likely to happen, doesn't mean it can't, or won't happen.
This kind of woman does exist.
I'm not worried about finding her. But when I do, I'll hold onto her long enough to show her how grateful I am that she had the courage to ask.
After all, isn't that what faith is?
And doesn't faith deserve to be rewarded with all the love a good man can give back?

..I don't know honestly it just sounds hopeless lol JK

Don't count on it happening.

...That's because you aren't finding her...she's finding you.
I mean



What if you aren't really attracted to her in any way?
She just happens to ask you out?


Complete trust or confidence in someone?
I think you have to know someone first.
It has to be a specific someone.
I mean people have faith in god, in religion, a system of beliefs that tend to define who and what that god is.
Not some vague completely unknown that may or may not exist, completely without identity or rules, but they really really hope is there.


If faith has to be rewarded, or it's expected to deserve something, then it isn't really faith, it's a forced transaction.
"I behaved this way, I paid for the goods, now I'm entitled to it."

Otherwise, it doesn't matter what you "deserve."
You get what you get.
You can sit around waiting for people to put what you deserve in one hand and poop in the other and see which one fills up first.

Most people would rather use both hands to go out and get what they want.


Other than that


Here's some other old world proverbs:
"One may live without one's friends, but not without one's pipe."
"What butter or whiskey does not cure cannot be cured."

So you better start smoking, drinking, and using butter on your lung cancer.
The efficacy of "I can't believe it's not butter" is equal to real butter but still isn't covered by Obamacare.

Sorry, but it sounds like you're expecting her to read your mind. I'm never that sure about playing the waiting game. I kept thinking a man I was attracted to, would eventually ask me to be his woman. He never did. Sometimes if make the first move, it can be a good thing, or it can end up in rejection. We can't grow up expecting everything to go our way. If nothing was a let down, I'd find life very odd. Do you really want to spend your future pining for a woman who may never be yours?

I hope you like waiting

It may be deserved but life happens; don't hold your breath!

Thanks for the advice, guys. I'm feeling a bit differently today.

Re-thinking my philosophy.
I may or may not have had two glasses of wine when I wrote what I wrote before, which kinda contributed to things...
I re-read it, and now I'm just kinda cringing at some of it.

I have faith that the right girl will FIND me, but I'm also not above rolling up my sleeves and doing the work involved in order to find her as well.
Was never my intention for the original post to come off as lazy, but my inner monologue is facepalming and going "Damn it, man! Now everybody thinks you're a lazy douche!"

I do stand by what I said about faith being rewarded, though.
And her coming to me IS still a romantic notion, one that in my mind would be a flattering fantasy, but I'm very lucky that I don't live in that world all the time, otherwise I would need very serious psychological help.
I think I might consult a therapist's advice anyway, because thinking optimistically, I guess it'd be good to get a more clinical perspective on a few things, or at least a step closer to figuring a few things out about myself.
And there's always the advice of good friends who want what's best for me, and are always ready with suggestions.

Again, thanks for the feedback, guys. But don't the original post too seriously. It's really just me, musing. Drunkenly, I might add, lol!

Take care!

Best heartfelt wishes for a beautiful relationship with the right woman!