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Edited by
Kaustuv1
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Finding Courage
   to Forgive (And to Forget as well )!  |
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Sat 07/25/15 05:51 AM
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To err is human; to forgive, divine. -- Alexander Pope
The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world. -- Marianne Williamson Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. -- Indira Gandhi Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. -- Bruce Lee Forgiveness is the final form of love. -- Reinhold Niebuhr To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. -- Lewis B. Smedes ------------------------------  ---------------------------- The Courage to Forgive Blog from -- http://thelifechangecoach.blogspot.com/2008/02/radical-forgiveness.html I sometimes think that forgiving is one of the bravest things we humans can do. What incredible strength of heart it takes to let go of an injury suffered because of another's behavior. And yet, as you know, if you don't forgive, you just keep suffering. The injury festers inside of you, keeping you feeling like a victim--angry, betrayed, righteous. When you feel victimized, the emotions you experience make you feel ugly inside and weak, and they can even make you sick physically. So if anger just makes you keep re-experiencing the original injury, why would you hold onto it? Because unconsciously, many of us have twisted ideas such as, "If I stay angry, he won't do it again." "If I stay angry, I'll have some power over him." "If I don't forgive him, he'll suffer like I'm suffering." But in reality, your anger can never protect you from hurt. It can't control another's behavior. It can't help you in any way. It only eats away at your joy and beauty. I say it's brave to forgive because in spite of the futility of staying angry, forgiving might feel like letting go of a life-raft; you might fear that forgiving releases the perpetrator to hurt you again. Plus, anger gives you a screen behind which you can hide the searing pain you feel. The energy of anger is so very consuming, so very distracting, that it forces sadness and grief to take a back seat. Once you forgive, you're left with an avalanche of hurt that you have to manage, and facing that is so very frightening. So often when I coach people around a betrayal or hurt, they say they want to be free of anger, and yet they cling to it, terrified of what the anger masks. But facing that fear, stripping away the anger, and forgiving the person who hurt you is the only way to recover your own wholeness, your integrity, your center. When you forgive, the message you give yourself is, "I'm stronger than the pain, than the anger, than the humilation I've experienced. I'm too precious to waste my life fretting and steaming. I'm a beautiful fountain of love inside, not a steaming cauldron of rage. And even though you may now feel profound, unmoderated grief and pain, you also feel the beauty and purity of your own heart, and you finally begin to know that you'll heal. Many blessings, Hiyaguha |
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To err is human; to forgive, divine. -- Alexander Pope The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world. -- Marianne Williamson Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. -- Indira Ghandi Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. -- Bruce Lee Forgiveness is the final form of love. -- Reinhold Niebuhr To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. -- Lewis B. Smedes ------------------------------ ---------------------------- The Courage to Forgive Blog from -- http://thelifechangecoach.blogspot.com/2008/02/radical-forgiveness.html I sometimes think that forgiving is one of the bravest things we humans can do. What incredible strength of heart it takes to let go of an injury suffered because of another's behavior. And yet, as you know, if you don't forgive, you just keep suffering. The injury festers inside of you, keeping you feeling like a victim--angry, betrayed, righteous. When you feel victimized, the emotions you experience make you feel ugly inside and weak, and they can even make you sick physically. So if anger just makes you keep re-experiencing the original injury, why would you hold onto it? Because unconsciously, many of us have twisted ideas such as, "If I stay angry, he won't do it again." "If I stay angry, I'll have some power over him." "If I don't forgive him, he'll suffer like I'm suffering." But in reality, your anger can never protect you from hurt. It can't control another's behavior. It can't help you in any way. It only eats away at your joy and beauty. I say it's brave to forgive because in spite of the futility of staying angry, forgiving might feel like letting go of a life-raft; you might fear that forgiving releases the perpetrator to hurt you again. Plus, anger gives you a screen behind which you can hide the searing pain you feel. The energy of anger is so very consuming, so very distracting, that it forces sadness and grief to take a back seat. Once you forgive, you're left with an avalanche of hurt that you have to manage, and facing that is so very frightening. So often when I coach people around a betrayal or hurt, they say they want to be free of anger, and yet they cling to it, terrified of what the anger masks. But facing that fear, stripping away the anger, and forgiving the person who hurt you is the only way to recover your own wholeness, your integrity, your center. When you forgive, the message you give yourself is, "I'm stronger than the pain, than the anger, than the humilation I've experienced. I'm too precious to waste my life fretting and steaming. I'm a beautiful fountain of love inside, not a steaming cauldron of rage. And even though you may now feel profound, unmoderated grief and pain, you also feel the beauty and purity of your own heart, and you finally begin to know that you'll heal. Many blessings, Hiyaguha Thanks for sharing, Pansy. Enlightening stuff. Vivid and Neat presentation. A small (but not insignificant) rectification though: It's Indira Gandhi! Thank You (once again)!
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To Pansy:
Upon 'dwelling' upon the 'loads' of informative/educative posts by 'several fellow-mates' in 'this' particular 'thread' of yours, I guess I've drawn a 'synopsis' which I hereby express for your 'perusal': Finding courage lies in: (a) 'Understanding' the 'true meaning' of a 'human life'. (b) 'Living up' to 'fulfill' the 'real' meaning of a 'human birth'. (c) 'Succeeding' in being human (at 'heart'). (d) 'Constantly' endeavoring to 'become the BEST' that 'one' can be... Keeping in mind, the 'difference' between: "Living & Existing", "Being Human & Human Being".. Thank You!
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Mon 07/27/15 01:36 PM
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Very nice synopsis, kaust
 Here are some more thoughts from the top of my head... There is always room to improve on oneself...all we need is the courage to do so. Every decision we make, whatever the circumstances may be, we must continue to find the courage to move beyond them. Love can bear many hardships...but courage can inspire you to believe and continue to do so.  good morning to all from my side of the world 
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Very nice synopsis, kaust Here are some more thoughts from the top of my head... There is always room to improve on oneself...all we need is the courage to do so. Every decision we make, whatever the circumstances may be, we must continue to find the courage to move beyond them. Love can bear many hardships...but courage can inspire you to believe and continue to do so. good morning to all from my side of the world Indubitably articulate and poignantly enlightening.. As always.. 
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Tue 07/28/15 11:47 PM
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courage is not always about taking action...sometimes, it's about mindful waiting...
THE COURAGE TO WAIT http://zenvc.org/the-courage-to-wait/ From Practicing Peace in Times of War by Pema Chodron "When you're like a keg of dynamite about to go off, patience means just slowing down at that point, �just pausing ��instead of immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from acting, you stop talking to yourself, and then you connect with the soft spot. But at the same time you are completely and totally honest with yourself about what you are feeling. You're not suppressing anything; patience has nothing to do with suppression. In fact, it has everything to do with a gentle, honest relationship with yourself." "Then the path of peace depends on being patient with the fact that all of us make mistakes. And that'��s more important than getting it right. This whole process seems to work only if you'��re willing to give yourself a break, to soften up, as you practice patience." "You look out through your eyes and you just see yourself wherever you go -- ��you see all these people who are escalating their suffering just like you do. You also notice people catching themselves just like you do, and they give you the gift of their fearlessness. You begin to be grateful for even the slightest gesture of bravery on the part of others because you know it'��s not so easy. Their courage increases your trust in the basic goodness of yourself and all beings throughout the world ��each of us just wanting to be happy, each of us not wanting to suffer." 
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courage to get through, let go, and move beyond...
      
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You are getting it
This thread may be reaching its end soon 
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You are getting it This thread may be reaching its end soon If my getting it signifies an 'imminent' termination of 'this' thread, I so wish, I 'hadn't got it' in the 'first' place.. 
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Nice
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Finding Courage to 'speak' the truth:
Case Study: A husband and wife are moving out of their house and are starting to box everything up. The husband finds a box under the bed, pulls it out, and looks inside, where he finds two eggs and about $8,000. He approaches the wife and asks, "What are the eggs for?" She replies, "Every time I cheat on you, I put an egg in the box." He says, "That's alright, you've only cheated on me twice. What's the money for?" The wife replies, "Every time I get a dozen, I sell them!"    |
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It takes courage to ignore the haters, multiple personalities, two in one.
Those that love to drown in self pity. Let's all feel sorry for me and when I don't get no pity I'll resort to any attention possible. I'll get jealous of those who are happy and I'll try hard not to show it, even though it's obvious. It takes courage to ignore this, but it's nice to know one spends so much time in their heads. |
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Finding Courage
 To live my TRUTH
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Finding Courage
 To embrace the REALITY
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It takes courage to ignore the haters, multiple personalities, two in one. Those that love to drown in self pity. Let's all feel sorry for me and when I don't get no pity I'll resort to any attention possible. I'll get jealous of those who are happy and I'll try hard not to show it, even though it's obvious. It takes courage to ignore this, but it's nice to know one spends so much time in their heads.   |
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Sat 08/01/15 07:15 PM
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Finding Courage...
 Outstanding! |
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Has anyone here ever told a baby to STFU??
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