Topic: Help understanding this girl.
prashant01's photo
Wed 09/02/15 08:07 AM

I'm a woman and I can't even understand women sometimes.


Do you mean to say that you understand men always...?



TerrapinMike's photo
Wed 09/02/15 07:37 PM
She just wanted to be friends damn haha

nsw78's photo
Wed 09/02/15 08:59 PM


I'm a woman and I can't even understand women sometimes.


Do you mean to say that you understand men always...?





Not always, but I understand men a hell of a lot more than I do women.

nsw78's photo
Wed 09/02/15 09:00 PM

She just wanted to be friends damn haha


And there is always a possibility that may change. Never give up hope!

TerrapinMike's photo
Wed 09/02/15 09:37 PM
Well she just wanted friends haha guess you were all right

TerrapinMike's photo
Wed 09/02/15 09:38 PM
Oh sorry it didn't load my post update thought it messed up

TerrapinMike's photo
Wed 09/02/15 09:53 PM


She just wanted to be friends damn haha


And there is always a possibility that may change. Never give up hope!


You think that's a possibility? I don't want to be her friend with ulterior motives. I'll just back off a bit but still hang out occasionally b

nsw78's photo
Thu 09/03/15 05:52 AM



She just wanted to be friends damn haha


And there is always a possibility that may change. Never give up hope!


You think that's a possibility? I don't want to be her friend with ulterior motives. I'll just back off a bit but still hang out occasionally b


No worries about motives. Focus on being her friend and be the best friend you can be but accept that fact that it could possibly remain that way. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. What's the worst that happens? You have a friend!

TawtStrat's photo
Thu 09/03/15 06:29 AM
Some women that play those games can be quite guarded about talking about real life stuff. A lot of trolling goes on in internet gaming and there's been some controvesy in recent years about sexism in video gaming that's been stirred up by "feminists" like Anita Sarkeesian. Google her. She's an idiot that says things like the courts have a moral obligation to believe someone if she's a woman.

Girl gamers are still a minority, although that's more to do with platforms like Xbox having games that mainly boys like. She may well look forward to playing with you and likes being included and being friends. Maybe she doesn't even mind you hitting on her. Feminists don't tend to like that sort of thing because they think it's about power and male domination but she's got the power really if she just keeps giving you the brush off.

livingsingle15's photo
Thu 09/03/15 02:23 PM
Just be friends, then ask her questions like "I just met this woman at the coffee shop and we made eye contact but I don't know how to approach her?" Women I know love to discuss relationships, as long as it isn't theirs.

no photo
Thu 09/03/15 02:29 PM
I've been talking to this girl I really like...We play on Xbox live

What does this mean?

Does she come over to your house and sits next to you on the couch while you play video games together?

Or do you play video games and she's somewhere in the universe and you only talk through headsets, having matched up randomly, and she plays with other guys if you aren't signed in and playing?


Any ideas on how to get her to open up some?

I don't know.
Depends on the preceding.

Ladywind7's photo
Thu 09/03/15 03:50 PM
Gaming online is just gaming online.
My daughter does it too.
She does it for fun, not to look for a relationship.
I would keep that area only for gaming.
It is the wrong place to be looking for a girlfriend
/or hoping more comes out of friendships.
I know my daughter gets annoyed when guys want more.
Sure it must happen, but if you respect the girls
as gamers, you wont get confused.
Good luck.

TerrapinMike's photo
Thu 09/03/15 04:17 PM

Gaming online is just gaming online.
My daughter does it too.
She does it for fun, not to look for a relationship.
I would keep that area only for gaming.
It is the wrong place to be looking for a girlfriend
/or hoping more comes out of friendships.
I know my daughter gets annoyed when guys want more.
Sure it must happen, but if you respect the girls
as gamers, you wont get confused.
Good luck.


Well that's not where we originally met. But I agree with that

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 09/03/15 04:30 PM
If you like to do things that are in male dominated arenas as a female you just get where you edit out the "flirting" or personal inquiries "remarks" and they become pretty invisible like white noise.

This gal told you that she wants only to be your gamer friend but you did not listen so you frustrate yourself.

I disagree about you having a chance with this person and recommend you move on and put your interest where you at least have a chance. Sounds like you have "NO HOPE"/ no chance in this situation.

What I would add is if you keep being a pain in the neck or obsess on another female on the site it is VERY likely that you could be bounced for harassment. These companies want female gamers and they can loose more than a few guys without ever missing you.

TerrapinMike's photo
Thu 09/03/15 05:38 PM

If you like to do things that are in male dominated arenas as a female you just get where you edit out the "flirting" or personal inquiries "remarks" and they become pretty invisible like white noise.

This gal told you that she wants only to be your gamer friend but you did not listen so you frustrate yourself.

I disagree about you having a chance with this person and recommend you move on and put your interest where you at least have a chance. Sounds like you have "NO HOPE"/ no chance in this situation.

What I would add is if you keep being a pain in the neck or obsess on another female on the site it is VERY likely that you could be bounced for harassment. These companies want female gamers and they can loose more than a few guys without ever missing you.


No worries there, I didn't harass her or anything. It's all cleared up now

TerrapinMike's photo
Thu 09/03/15 05:39 PM

If she is guarded with you .. There could be other reasons . Either way .. You can respect her caution and enjoy what she is willing to share or move on and find someone who is prepared to let you get to know her . Best of luck :-) .


Yea found a new girl to talk to, see how it'll go

blah..blah..'s photo
Fri 09/04/15 11:02 AM
worst case scenario is you got a new friend?

or aren't you interested in friendship?

samay08's photo
Fri 09/04/15 01:23 PM
Just go with a flow .Give her time.Try to read her eyes. If you push for something her thoughts for you might get affected.If friends let it be for while.When she will feel secure and comfortable she will open up in front of you.It takes time bro.

TerrapinMike's photo
Mon 09/07/15 05:23 PM
Well I wasn't really looking for friends. As jerkish as that makes me seem. I'll be friendly to her if she continues to talk to me but I'm not going to pursue a friendship.

SitkaRains's photo
Mon 09/07/15 05:27 PM
That to me seems really sad because some of the best relationships I know started out as friendships.