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abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 10:34 AM
it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do

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Tue 10/06/15 10:36 AM
well when on a dating site it usually helps to have more than no answer in almost all the spots

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 10:39 AM
the problem is not the site but sth hidden in brain's human

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 10/06/15 10:51 AM

the problem is not the site but sth hidden in brain's human


Ask yourself what you've got to offer a woman. Don't just say that you're a nice guy. So am I but I'm also a fun guy. Nobody really likes a whiner.

SitkaRains's photo
Tue 10/06/15 10:58 AM

it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do


Well I have agree when on a dating site take the time to fill out the profile will help.

Now to the real world. I have to ask do you even know what you are looking for. What qualities you need and want? Do you know what you have to offer her? I am not talking financially I am talking offering of you?

If not take the time to find out.
Saves you a lot of time and them.

Honestly I think at times when we search to hard we miss what is in front of you

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 10:59 AM
people don't reply , i mean a lot , what i can do if people have somekind of stereotype

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Tue 10/06/15 11:03 AM

people don't reply , i mean a lot , what i can do if people have somekind of stereotype


Probably look at your profile, see all of the No Answers, and moved on to someone who take the time to fill those out.

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:08 AM
thank u for ur comment
i m living in society which i can not find myself cz i hate a lot of tradition and beliefs , it s hard for me to live such life with a lady who is different from me in her perspective

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:09 AM
thank u for ur comment

SitkaRains's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:14 AM

thank u for ur comment
i m living in society which i can not find myself cz i hate a lot of tradition and beliefs , it s hard for me to live such life with a lady who is different from me in her perspective

I am confused I may be all wet behind the ears here but I would have to know who I am, how can I project what and who I am and what I want if I dont' even know myself

And being different is part of the magic of blending together.

misstina2's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:15 AM
flowerforyou You could try opening up about yourself on your profileflowerforyou write about things you like to doflowerforyou take some pictures of yourself enjoying those activitiesflowerforyou smileflowerforyou good luck enjoyflowerforyou

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:18 AM
Edited by abdeslam22 on Tue 10/06/15 11:19 AM
flowerforyou thank u so much and i will do what u say

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Tue 10/06/15 11:20 AM

it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do


You have been looking for the right person and are finding many wrong people, right? Well try to looking for the wrong person and maybe you will find the right person. Can't hurt to try.

Good luck!

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:27 AM


it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do


You have been looking for the right person and are finding many wrong people, right? Well try to looking for the wrong person and maybe you will find the right person. Can't hurt to try.

Good luck!

thank u for ur comment
i think this is the right appraoch to use

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 11:28 AM

flowerforyou You could try opening up about yourself on your profileflowerforyou write about things you like to doflowerforyou take some pictures of yourself enjoying those activitiesflowerforyou smileflowerforyou good luck enjoyflowerforyou

thank u for ur comment

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Tue 10/06/15 02:32 PM
it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why?

Overabundance of choice.

Little different than having a pantry full of food, a refrigerator full of food, a grocery store down the street, a drive through on every corner, a restaurant between every fast food place, a convenience store between the restaurant and the fast food place, and you wander around not knowing what you want to eat, and why it's so hard to find the one thing you want that would fulfill that bored hunger.


i can't really know what i need to do

You seem to have decided that there is a "right" person.
So...define the "right" person.
What do they look like, what do they do, what are they interested in, and most importantly what do they want.

Identify the real problem which is lack of knowledge of the "right" person.
Once you figure that out, finding them should be pretty easy.
Assuming you're honest with it and willing to conform to who they are and go where they are.

Lots of people online seem to enjoy building their "right" person, and if you pay attention to what they say about them you realize the person they describe would never in a million years desire or have any need to come to an online dating site, yet they sit here month after month year after year wondering "where is my right person?!"

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Tue 10/06/15 03:12 PM

it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do

There are so many fishes in the ocean, you just have to explore more. before finding the right girl, you gotta know yourself first, what do u want? What do you look for in a woman? Don't just browse the pictures of women online, try to dig more by viewing their profiles somehow this will give you knowledge about the girl you want to approach and you will know what to do or what to say with the basic information.


People don't reply, I mean a lot, what I can do if people have somekind of stereotype


Maybe it's not stereotyping, it's the manner of your approach....are you doing the right approach to women online? Here are some reasons why I don't reply to emails: they don't bother to view my profile, probably just browsing the women online and randomly click on the pictures they like; just Hi or Hello message, what is that? Can't you at least write a more catchy or interesting opening statement? Give it a bit of depth, a sincere and honest approach that shows interest in getting to know the girl.; are you sending a naughty or dirty talks? A very bad approach, girls are not sex objects. Don't let them think that you are somekind of a sex maniac. Show respect to women, becareful of the words you write it could be inappropriate and has sexual connotations.; are you sending generic messages or a copy paste message? Be original, short and simple but with content and shows interest towards the person, make a connection by talking about yourself and asking info about her or make a comment about what she wrote on her profile.; did you completely filled up your profile? Waste time to fill it up, let the viewer know a little about you and don't post inappropriate pic like showing body parts (shirtless)

I hope these could help you in finding the right girl. Goodluck! Happy mingling!:smile: :wink: :banana: drinks

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 10/06/15 03:35 PM
I find it better to just not worry about it anymore. Every time I try to build up a picture of the right person for me it's just my "type" and things that I liked about girls that I used to know. They might not have exactly been my type when I met them though and it certainly didn't work out with them.

I tend to think that you're only going to find it when you're just open to it but what do I know? I'm just a crazy fool for those women.


abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 03:35 PM

it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why?

Overabundance of choice.

Little different than having a pantry full of food, a refrigerator full of food, a grocery store down the street, a drive through on every corner, a restaurant between every fast food place, a convenience store between the restaurant and the fast food place, and you wander around not knowing what you want to eat, and why it's so hard to find the one thing you want that would fulfill that bored hunger.


i can't really know what i need to do

You seem to have decided that there is a "right" person.
So...define the "right" person.
What do they look like, what do they do, what are they interested in, and most importantly what do they want.

Identify the real problem which is lack of knowledge of the "right" person.
Once you figure that out, finding them should be pretty easy.
Assuming you're honest with it and willing to conform to who they are and go where they are.

Lots of people online seem to enjoy building their "right" person, and if you pay attention to what they say about them you realize the person they describe would never in a million years desire or have any need to come to an online dating site, yet they sit here month after month year after year wondering "where is my right person?!"


thank you for your comment

abdeslam22's photo
Tue 10/06/15 03:38 PM


it s so hard to find the right person and i don't know why? i can't really know what i need to do

There are so many fishes in the ocean, you just have to explore more. before finding the right girl, you gotta know yourself first, what do u want? What do you look for in a woman? Don't just browse the pictures of women online, try to dig more by viewing their profiles somehow this will give you knowledge about the girl you want to approach and you will know what to do or what to say with the basic information.


People don't reply, I mean a lot, what I can do if people have somekind of stereotype


Maybe it's not stereotyping, it's the manner of your approach....are you doing the right approach to women online? Here are some reasons why I don't reply to emails: they don't bother to view my profile, probably just browsing the women online and randomly click on the pictures they like; just Hi or Hello message, what is that? Can't you at least write a more catchy or interesting opening statement? Give it a bit of depth, a sincere and honest approach that shows interest in getting to know the girl.; are you sending a naughty or dirty talks? A very bad approach, girls are not sex objects. Don't let them think that you are somekind of a sex maniac. Show respect to women, becareful of the words you write it could be inappropriate and has sexual connotations.; are you sending generic messages or a copy paste message? Be original, short and simple but with content and shows interest towards the person, make a connection by talking about yourself and asking info about her or make a comment about what she wrote on her profile.; did you completely filled up your profile? Waste time to fill it up, let the viewer know a little about you and don't post inappropriate pic like showing body parts (shirtless)

I hope these could help you in finding the right girl. Goodluck! Happy mingling!:smile: :wink: :banana: drinks


thank you so much for your comment

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