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Topic: What makes SO stand out to you?
no1phD's photo
Mon 11/02/15 03:05 PM
..ok..I guess it's not all about looks..
I suppose if she lets me see her boobies right off the bat.. then I guess we can continue talking..lol..wink

no photo
Mon 11/02/15 03:32 PM
I've dated enough guys I wasn't attracted too and I felt no passion. It didn't go anywhere. Why should I go on a date with a man I'm not attracted to? Life is short. I don't want to be with someone who thinks I'm unattractive.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 11/03/15 02:59 AM

for me it's really two things.

first it's a sense of their wit, preferably humorous. Most often I read someones profile based off of a one-liner they posted that made me laugh.

second is when I get the sense that the other person is true to and comfortable with themselves and not 'putting on a show' it's obvious they are who they are with a 'take it or leave it' attitude, they are happy with themselves generally. But lacking an inflated ego at the same-time

I like this answer :)

chronicliar75's photo
Wed 11/04/15 03:03 AM

Apart from the obvious!!
Someone's picture appeals to you. So we crossed that bridge.

Now what makes you get in touch with one attractive person and not with another?

-Is it their words (literally),
- Is it the general feel of their text?
- Is it something they say they do?
- Are it similarities?? (in interests, personality etc)

REASON I ASK ... I find my interest peaks when I read that someone is very much like me.
But I don't think this means someone is a suitable partner at all, more a very suitable friend.

So ... what makes you contact one attractive person and not the other?



Picture is out of the question for me.
I find out earlier in my stay here
that there are people adept,
who are good at stealing pictures
to represent themselves.
So after something happened last august,
no, I never check pictures again.
If physical appearance matters to me that
much anyway, then I should have stick
to real dates in the real world,
than try to know someone better through the forum.

What makes u get in touch?


On my first week here,
I sent my first mingle poem -
to 2 guys, 1 unemployed in his profile
& the other cool in his blurb.
I still dont know at that time
how mingle works & what is
suppose to be an online dating:smile:

After that,
I can only remember 4 times
that I get in touch with a man first
and 3 of those are not because I am
interested with them:

-1 is the male administrator back then
when I broke a rule in the board.

-1 to say stop & give him a clue what to check
so he can distance himself.

-1 because of mingle songs issues

-1 when I added someone as a mingle friend.

No matter how attracted I am to a man in the forum
and how his posts stimulates my mind and imagination,
part of me always rebels that I will be the first to get
in touch.
Part of me always says, it should be the man who will
make the first move.

Then my filters will remind me.
Filters are one of the best things here in Mingle.
They protect u and never failed u.

So what made me add a man as a mingle friend?
Because that is the best that I can do, when I am
interested in getting to know that person.

His view on things that matters to me.
His principles & how he handles other people
around him, which will tell me if he is
compatible with me or not.
For me the biggest turn off are those
that are too literal.
Those who could not be even bothered to
think, what could this mean?

Compatibility is important to me.
But the most important thing for me is
if I understand his takes & he understood my takes.


Right now, I am content getting to
know someone through his posts
in the forum.

It encourages me to express more
myself in the board.


... I find my interest peaks when I read that someone is very much like me.
But I don't think this means someone is a suitable partner at all, more a very suitable friend.


^^^^ I agree with this.

there are just posts from someone that
interest me & makes me feel alive,
there are just posts from other
people that makes me smile
and wish I can hang out with them
in person.


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