Pause for a good cause... Kudos on the the great new pics Goof, Rustykitty and TMommy! Now back to our regular scheduled programming..

There will be no pausing for the cause on my thread.


I think one thing the article misses on is the fact that a lot of guys miss out on the girl they really want because they have a fear of being rejected. I dated a girl a while back who, at first, was not interested in me. Actually, she and I had become enemies at first because we just got on each other's nerves. Funny thing is, the more we went against each other, the more I wanted to ask her out. So I did....and she rejected me at first. However, she and I did eventually go out and we dated for almost two years. Thing is, as I pursued her I wasn't a "pest". I just didn't give up because I knew I wanted to date her. Even though it didn't work out I did learn that being persistent gave me more confidence in who I am. Most guys would never attempt to be persistent like that.....and there are guys who are.

Oooh.. I forgot to respond to this! I don't know Goof. I am kinda divided on the persistence thing when it comes to men pursuing women. President Obama made no secret of the fact that he used that strategy with the First Lady, who refused his proposal of a date many times before accepting, and clearly they are reaping the benefits decades later. And certainly if a guy is oozing confidence, charm and humor like the President, I can see how a gal's defenses would break down. Hmmmm.... but I am not sure I would advise the strategy of persistence to EVERY guy.Navigating that fine line between cute and persistent versus clingy and stalker-ish is quite difficult for the average man to navigate I think. Let's face it. Some guys do not have that degree of charm or a disarming sense of humor or even an air of confidence due to no fault of theirs . In cases like that, persistence could end up being a real turn off for a women because too often it wreaks of desperation. I actually think it's generally healthier for a guy's confidence to pull back after being rejected by the same woman multiple times and invest his energies in someone who is at least mildly interested in him. At least mild interest is something to build on.

But I am glad you reminded me with the example you shared that one size indeed does not fit all ,and that there really are some exceptions to the rule when it relates to persistent wooing. Cheers Goof!

She dont know what she want shes lost