Think that this comes down to the age frame you are talking about. And the over all situation.

Sometimes women tend to mature faster in youth but then slow down if they are in the home and influenced by caring for children full time. The "mommy syndrome" so to speak. Depends a lot if they have a partner that is sharing the load by taking on certain tasks versus others. I have seen a few Dad's that were bigger kids than the kids. For some that works by playing with the kids and keeping their needs "met" but if it means Mom then took on the manager parent to all role the man does not have much to complain about being treated like another kid.

If it is a "Father knows best" mind set I have seen some women unable to cope beyond living on a allowance like a teenager well into later life. They are lost if the spouse looses his job or dies and usually the son has to step in as head of household.

I think a lot of it is weather either spouse had the example of being a full partner set as a child. If you meet someone and the parents have made them dependent and immature in various areas of their personality then that usually is what you are going to get in a relationship. I have always been amazed why people complain when they marry a little Prince or Princess.
I see it a lot in Ex's that just can't let go and call it co-parenting but really it is still babysitting the Ex spouse. Sometimes it is because they are and easy mark for sex but it is lack of maturity on both sides and anyone who gets sucked into the toddler triad is likely to end up and unhappy camper.

In ways I think today's dating rituals has fostered immaturity in relationships. Sex by the second or third date or someone throw a tantrum.
If people have a kid(s) it is more like communal camping over than actual adult time. Activities that used to make dating affordable have all but disappeared (church, community events, even volunteering have all become big business) and the custom of group entertaining pretty much died when meeting on line developed so few have learned to have a social calendar or budget. Women still have not grasped the concept that dating is suppose to be reciprocal but now days families don't attempt to get involved unless they have a "adult" child who has failed to launch and they are trying to get them out of the house.

Since I see most adults about financially /socially equal I would have to say the maturity or immaturity leve; is about equal.

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You are glue
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I think in many cases both are just as 'bad'.
But women have gotten further in their personal development and growth, which also shows in relationships / finding a partner (and not succeeding).
Men have begun their process as well, so they'll catch up. At some point. And there are great men out there already that are really quite (emotionally) mature. But for many women it is problem to find a mature match. I think mostly in the age group 38 - 55-ish as most mature men can be found end 50s and up, which is not exactly what you're looking for when your 38 or 46.

But when it comes to a 'bad' relationship, I think in general one sex is as bad as the other.

Always exceptions to the rule of course.

and you Sir are very diplomatic!

Need I say more about the maturity of men



Just kidding...I know you were joking...I hope

Will always be lost by those who see it as a war, making it a race to the bottom.


I don't believe it's gender based.
At least it's not nearly as important as experience, intelligence, opportunities, relationships, nurture stuff.

Gender is becoming more irrelevant as a black and white men vs. women concept.
Based on current knowledge of the brain classifying humans as "men" or "women" anymore is about as useful as classifying all the water on the planet as "hot" or "cold" and using that to understand and describe all of the earths interrelated ecosystems.


I think in a healthy relationship situations arise forcing one or the other to take the "reins" of being the "mature" one and for the most part it's natural to the relationship so not really noticed by either one since most people in healthy relationships don't sit around constantly analyzing them or their partner.

Other than that, I think it depends on a lot of things.

I mean some people have decided their roles before going into a relationship. "This is me, this is who I am, I will not compromise, I will do what I deem right."

Other people allow the relationship to define their roles.
"I'm a husband, I'm a mom, I'd be lost without you, I don't know who I would be if you died tomorrow."

Most people find a medium between the two extremes.

In the context of a relationship the relationship helps define roles for people, defining what is needed and necessary from them in order to make the relationship survive, work, thrive.

Sometimes it requires one to be more mature, sometimes it requires both to be more mature, sometimes it requires one to be less mature, all for the sake of adapting to each other.

So...depends on the relationship.


Unless they have ulterior motives for a relationship (e.g. motivated by a desire to procreate over emotional actualization) I think people are attracted to those of a similar maturity level of being "grownup."
Except for the occasional extreme outlier like Jared Fogle or Mary Letourneau.

I think it's just as easy for people to use their maturity or being "grownup" to avoid relationships.
There are always known grownup and mature responsibilities that can be used to avoid those scary risky unfamiliar and unknown relationships.

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I would say women the majority of the time but there are exceptions x