Topic: Aunts and uncles Agony
Annierooroo's photo
Fri 04/08/16 11:48 AM
I would like some advice.

If a guy or girl says they want to be friends and your are cool with that.
Are they saying that because they want to get to know you?

You be come the first and last text of the day.
Chatting all the time
You meet and enjoy each other's company and feel a connection.

You get on great together, learning about each other's life.

You both like the same things.

Are they interested in more than friends?
Is it better to remain friends and enjoy the friendship?

When you chat, texting, meet up and you are doing it for hours each time. could that mean he or she is lonely and needs a friend (without the benefits).

Thanks for your advice, it is appreciated.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 04/08/16 11:55 AM
Oh man, just enjoy it for what it is.
If more comes along, great.
If more never shows, you have a cool friend.

I always think folks jump in too fast, they
never give themselves time to develop a real
letch for the other.

It is more like, let's hurry and meet to see
if we each pass the looks test.

NOBootyHunter's photo
Fri 04/08/16 11:57 AM
I would just enjoy the friendship (because it is rare today)in hopes it may go further in time.. but if you start to have deeper feelings .. I would be honest with them. depending on the response you may have to back off a bit but still be friends..

mightymoe's photo
Fri 04/08/16 11:58 AM
i agree with sofie, there's no reason to think anything otherwise... kind of like saying "I love you" and expecting them to say it back, there's no guarantee on anything in life... most all problems start with "expecting" the other to say or feel something they might not feel or wanna say...

Electrician558's photo
Fri 04/08/16 12:08 PM
Well in your profile you said you were looking for a man for friendship.
Then in about you, you said all you could offer was the hand of friendship.
You didn't represent any more possibilities. The other person is probably not a mind reader, if you want something else or something more then tell that person.

Hopefully this will give you some kind of answer.

Good luck
Greg

no photo
Fri 04/08/16 04:27 PM
I would like some advice.

Stay away from opposite sex "just friends" unless you can stop analyzing it and stop trying to label it and build expectations that define the relationship before it ever really develops into anything.

Are they saying that because they want to get to know you?

They can be saying it for all sorts of reasons.
Including because they want to get to know you, and because they have absolutely no desire to get to know you or learn to communicate with you.

Are they interested in more than friends?

No straight person seeks out a member of the opposite sex unless they are interested in more than friends.

People rationalize and tell themselves they aren't, though.
Mostly because they are just trying to protect themselves, scared of getting hurt or change or failure. They're just playing a game with themselves. Believing they can control and limit the interaction to what they can deal with.
Pretending they can get the validation, attention, feelings of desirability, without having to accept the risks, commitments, responsibilities, i.e. costs.

Some people seek out "fwb" to get laid without the relationship, pretending they're friends.
Other people seek out the "f" to get the emotional connection and relationship, without the scary commitment and sex.

Is it better to remain friends and enjoy the friendship?

For some people, sure.
For others it isn't.
Depends on who you are and what kind of relationship you both are actually capable of having and deep down subconsciously driven looking for.


RustyKitty's photo
Fri 04/08/16 04:37 PM
Enjoy the communication and commaraderie that is developing
Don't overthink and stop analyzing it to death!
See where it leads...

Robxbox73's photo
Fri 04/08/16 05:10 PM
Annie, have fun. Play it loose. When I tell someone let's be friends, sometimes I'm tring to take the stress out of the relationship. Not saying that's what they are doing to you. Just think of it as a chance to get to know each other better. Good luck Annie!

peggy122's photo
Fri 04/08/16 05:20 PM
What you are experiencing is a gift and a treat, Enjoy it babe!:smile:

Annierooroo's photo
Mon 04/11/16 02:58 AM
Good thanks guys

I am going to enjoy the friendship
Take my time, if anything happens it won't come from me.
Yes I like to play it safe but if the door is open we shall see.


Friendship is very important to me

Thank you for your advice.
I have given it a lot of thought about it.