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I don't know what I was expecting.. But.. I thought I would have gotten laid by now...lol.. but you never know maybe next week...lol..wink You have to let go of the Kleenex's and paper towels first.  
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Yes, I expect for better relationship
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I think that some women are serial daters. They see the thousands of men all clamoring to go out with women and so they set their sights extremely high. The result? Some women end up sifting through the countless male profiles, rejecting each and every male they come across. Eventually, such women go from being 20 to 30 to 40 to 50 and never have a meaningful relationship because they don't think any of the men online meet their standards.
In the end, they remain alone. A lot of women say they don't want to settle, but the truth is far darker. A lot of women want men that don't exist, which leaves us men moving on to women whose heads are not in the clouds. |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Wed 04/20/16 02:28 AM
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I can actually say that I had absolutely no expectations when I first signed up. I was just a bored flippant Jack wass that evening. It's been a wild serendipitous educational ride since then. Hey Beach  Wow... It seems like the lower the expectation, the higher the benefits!  I sure am thankful for the people I have met ! As am I Beach |
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So more and more members here have decided to give up on the search for their soulmate online. Some have even quit after less than 6 months. So my question is... What were your expectations when you signed up here in terms of the dating process? Were you expecting a steady stream of dating prospects every month? Were you expecting a group of better looking people or more appealing personalities?  Did you expect more positive responses to your emails or less creeps? What were YOUR expectations about THE PROCESS? Good question Peggy... Actually my doing the online thing was a bit to my embarrassment was due to 2 bottles of wine with 2 of best friends and I lost a bet and a trivia game..So my first time online was to be on a dating site for 90 days..answer emails that came in etc...If I met someone that interested me I had to meet them. If someone local asked me to do a meet and greet I had to do one a month. I have to laugh my first username was my dog's name and the sky.. How original.. Well that was on another dating site back in 07... I found the forums and fell in love with them. I found "Just say hi" back in 07 had a profile hated the user name so deleted that one and came back in 08 with this one,{ which is a combo of where I was living and my actual nickname I go by in real life} I loved the social aspects of this site. It was like the old show named "cheers" still is in some aspects. I never thought I would meet "the One" online.. I have been blessed to have met some wonderful people in this genre and had a couple of wonderful relationships did I ever expect that nope I didn't. So what do I expect out here now.. Not much some socialization with friends maybe make some new friends.. But my expectations are very low... You are just like Isaac, Sitka ... You got waaaaaaaaay more than you bargained in the most wonderful of ways Lucky you! I can't believe you owe this bliss to 2 bottles of wine !  I am not sure how much bliss  But laughs galore, deep friendships absolutely.. Meeting new and wonderful people absolutely This has been my experience too :) |
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I don't know what I was expecting.. But.. I thought I would have gotten laid by now...lol.. but you never know maybe next week...lol..wink Sitka has offered you some stellar advice on page 3.
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Yes, I expect for better relationship Many people here want the same as you do hun.  Welcome to mingle Veronica! Good luck in your search!
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Edited by
peggy122
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Wed 04/20/16 02:52 AM
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I think that some women are serial daters. They see the thousands of men all clamoring to go out with women and so they set their sights extremely high. The result? Some women end up sifting through the countless male profiles, rejecting each and every male they come across. Eventually, such women go from being 20 to 30 to 40 to 50 and never have a meaningful relationship because they don't think any of the men online meet their standards. In the end, they remain alone. A lot of women say they don't want to settle, but the truth is far darker. A lot of women want men that don't exist, which leaves us men moving on to women whose heads are not in the clouds. You have a legitimate point Wantanice girl. What you said applies to both men and women.Too many people are looking for the perfect person,which as you said, does not exist. The other side of what you said is that people can not force attraction to someone else. I myself have taken the time to get to know guys I am not attracted to, but who seemed to have lovely personalities and great intelligence. I am always honest about where I stand with them so as not to mislead them.But I am open to seeing where it leads. It often doesn't work out well because these men try to whip attraction and romantic feelings out of me when it just isn't there, and some are actually quite rude when romantic feelings are not reciprocated. There are more angles to the point you raised than you think. |
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I think that some women are serial daters. They see the thousands of men all clamoring to go out with women and so they set their sights extremely high. The result? Some women end up sifting through the countless male profiles, rejecting each and every male they come across. Eventually, such women go from being 20 to 30 to 40 to 50 and never have a meaningful relationship because they don't think any of the men online meet their standards. In the end, they remain alone. A lot of women say they don't want to settle, but the truth is far darker. A lot of women want men that don't exist, which leaves us men moving on to women whose heads are not in the clouds. Well I hate to admit it, but I am a cereal dater. Oh yes it has been a struggle. I meet a nice box of cereal. Date the heck out of it. Once it hit the end of the box,,, I'm on the hunt again. ((((((Helpme))))))) Now if you'll excuse me I'm at the grocery store starting a conversation with a nice new box! So you hang out in this isle often? Jkd! |
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I think that some women are serial daters. They see the thousands of men all clamoring to go out with women and so they set their sights extremely high. The result? Some women end up sifting through the countless male profiles, rejecting each and every male they come across. Eventually, such women go from being 20 to 30 to 40 to 50 and never have a meaningful relationship because they don't think any of the men online meet their standards. In the end, they remain alone. A lot of women say they don't want to settle, but the truth is far darker. A lot of women want men that don't exist, which leaves us men moving on to women whose heads are not in the clouds. Well I hate to admit it, but I am a cereal dater. Oh yes it has been a struggle. I meet a nice box of cereal. Date the heck out of it. Once it hit the end of the box,,, I'm on the hunt again. ((((((Helpme))))))) Now if you'll excuse me I'm at the grocery store starting a conversation with a nice new box! So you hang out in this isle often? Jkd! I LOVE CEREAL!!!. Pick up a box for me while you're at it Rob. Cheerios preferably .
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I can say I had no expectations for online dating. I've done it before, but this is the 1st I haven't just jumped at someone showing interest in me. Then there is also the lack of women really that seem to be real, in my area. I had been kind of a cereal dater, but can say that is not the case now a days.
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Edited by
peggy122
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Wed 04/20/16 06:37 AM
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I can say I had no expectations for online dating. I've done it before, but this is the 1st I haven't just jumped at someone showing interest in me. Then there is also the lack of women really that seem to be real, in my area. I had been kind of a cereal dater, but can say that is not the case now a days. Hey scoobert It seems like the people in this thread with the least expectations are reaping the most benefits :) So keep.doing what you are doing, and hopefully something lovely inside and out will fall into your lap
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Edited by
Mary_Malone
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Thu 04/21/16 10:40 AM
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My expectations were more creeps than actual supposed "ordinary" people. I think I win better, when I have such low expectations.
. I'm just biding my time trying not to force anything. If something comes out of being on here, good. If it doesn't, that's okay too, because that just means it wasn't meant to be. I'm sure I could find the right man again, some day. I won't bother trying to figure out where I'll end up finding him. I'll just carry on doing my thing. I'll keep my fingers crossed.
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My expectations were more creeps than actual supposed "ordinary" people. I think I win better, when I have such low expectations. . I'm just biding my time trying not to force anything. If something comes out of being on here, good. If it doesn't, that's okay too, because that just means it wasn't meant to be. I'm sure I could find the right man again, some day. I won't bother trying to figure out where I'll end up finding him. I'll just carry on doing my thing. I'll keep my fingers crossed. I hear you Mary. I'm glad you prepared yourself for the creeps Mary. Some of us were not the street savvy and got a rude awakening. I love your zen like attitude towards the whole online dating scene. I don't expect you to be starting one of those weepy threads titled " Why Can't I Find Real Love Online " anytime soon
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My expectations were more creeps than actual supposed "ordinary" people. I think I win better, when I have such low expectations. . I'm just biding my time trying not to force anything. If something comes out of being on here, good. If it doesn't, that's okay too, because that just means it wasn't meant to be. I'm sure I could find the right man again, some day. I won't bother trying to figure out where I'll end up finding him. I'll just carry on doing my thing. I'll keep my fingers crossed. I hear you Mary. I'm glad you prepared yourself for the creeps Mary. Some of us were not the street savvy and got a rude awakening. I love your zen like attitude towards the whole online dating scene. I don't expect you to be starting one of those weepy threads titled " Why Can't I Find Real Love Online " anytime soon Ha ha :) Thank you. Well I don't want to die an angry regretful person :) |
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My expectations were more creeps than actual supposed "ordinary" people. I think I win better, when I have such low expectations. . I'm just biding my time trying not to force anything. If something comes out of being on here, good. If it doesn't, that's okay too, because that just means it wasn't meant to be. I'm sure I could find the right man again, some day. I won't bother trying to figure out where I'll end up finding him. I'll just carry on doing my thing. I'll keep my fingers crossed. I hear you Mary. I'm glad you prepared yourself for the creeps Mary. Some of us were not the street savvy and got a rude awakening. I love your zen like attitude towards the whole online dating scene. I don't expect you to be starting one of those weepy threads titled " Why Can't I Find Real Love Online " anytime soon Ha ha :) Thank you. Well I don't want to die an angry regretful person :) And with an attitude like yours, I am confident that you won't
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Been on two sites before this...expelled from both...no idea why, and there is no one to assist you or find out why that happened....so just put it down to being....wayyy to hot to handle...Anyway,a friend told me about this site... Signed up. Within a week it was go go go.....yep, low expectation, but plenty of action and lots of talking going on...Now, there is absolutely no expectations...unless someone wants to move to my area.....yep, all the potential candidates live pretty far away, but having fun and making new friends, especially the late late night friends, and so life goes on....
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So more and more members here have decided to give up on the search for their soulmate online. Some have even quit after less than 6 months. So my question is... What were your expectations when you signed up here in terms of the dating process? Were you expecting a steady stream of dating prospects every month? Were you expecting a group of better looking people or more appealing personalities? Did you expect more positive responses to your emails or less creeps? What were YOUR expectations about THE PROCESS? Hi Peggy! Yes I have decided to stay, After all the responses to my mine field the other day LOL, I guess I was expecting more of real men instead of robotic scripts...haha what was I thinking? I didn't expect the over abundance of creepazoids that do respond. Nooo eek! hahaha!  Got to lay back here and just take it as it comes and weed them out as Crystal Fairy said earlier. I do have the intelligence to know the difference...but in the end, don't we all want that "Prince Charming to ride up on his white steed and swoop us up to fairytale land?   I have lowered my expectations amnd will just go with the flow!!  |
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Been on two sites before this...expelled from both...no idea why, and there is no one to assist you or find out why that happened....so just put it down to being....wayyy to hot to handle...Anyway,a friend told me about this site... Signed up. Within a week it was go go go.....yep, low expectation, but plenty of action and lots of talking going on...Now, there is absolutely no expectations...unless someone wants to move to my area.....yep, all the potential candidates live pretty far away, but having fun and making new friends, especially the late late night friends, and so life goes on.... You are making the most out of what is available to you D-ONE. I have nothing but respect for that 
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