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Topic: Hi I need help understanding this
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Sat 05/07/16 07:49 PM
I was talking to someone for over two months and I never seen him. When I would ask to meet him he would get upset and said it over. Then I would apologize and we would start talking again. Every time we planned to meet he would end doing something else. Today I asked him about some pictures I seen. Then he told me he didn't want to talk anymore because I am on Facebook. Can someone help me to understand this!!!

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Sat 05/07/16 07:54 PM

I was talking to someone for over two months and I never seen him. When I would ask to meet him he would get upset and said it over. Then I would apologize and we would start talking again. Every time we planned to meet he would end doing something else. Today I asked him about some pictures I seen. Then he told me he didn't want to talk anymore because I am on Facebook. Can someone help me to understand this!!!



I think it is time for you to stop talking to him. Find someone who is available...

Blessings to you...

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Sat 05/07/16 07:56 PM
Storm Messages

Thanks but he already told me to stop texting him and I have

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Sat 05/07/16 08:01 PM

I was talking to someone for over two months and I never seen him. When I would ask to meet him he would get upset and said it over. Then I would apologize and we would start talking again. Every time we planned to meet he would end doing something else. Today I asked him about some pictures I seen. Then he told me he didn't want to talk anymore because I am on Facebook. Can someone help me to understand this!!!



I am going to be honest & blunt.
You have been played.
Learn from your mistakes, & what you did wrong & why you put up with it. So it does not happen again.

Don't let, whom ever rent space in your head. Be your own best friend.
flowers

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Sat 05/07/16 08:07 PM
SassyEuro2

Thanks sounds good. Thank you for being honest

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Sat 05/07/16 10:56 PM
Can someone help me to understand this

Sure.
Online that behavior is usually only because of a few reasons, IMO.
Such as:
1. He completely lied about everything, his profile, picture, he can't meet because then she'd know the truth and judge him, but he's lonely and wants to keep chatting until it's too much.

2. He's married and likes the online fantasy, and puts off meeting until he has a time convenient to him, saying no otherwise.

3. He's got severe emotional problems. Bipolar, manic, depressive, Asperger's, whatever, and are just all over the place.

4.There's a complete disconnect between what she found relevant and what he found relevant during the interaction.
e.g. he comes online and sends sweet emails, then asks to meet in 10 minutes at his place at 2 in the morning. She responds to the sweet part of the emails and asks to meet at lunch in a public place. He says "no, I got something else to do," she comes to the forums and ask why such a sweet guy never wants to meet but leave out what she didn't find relevant; that he keeps asking her to come over to his house at 2 in the morning with little notice and seemingly mad when told no.

5. They live far away from each other, fantasy takes over.
It reaches a high point and it's all "I'll fly to another country to see you! I'll do anything for love!"
Then they notice the price of airline tickets, the steps to get a passport, having to take off time from work, and reality crashes in.
But then he/she is lonely and their fantasy love is right there online, just a click away, hormones take over and it's back on!
Then reality comes back in and it goes back and forth.

6. He's a "nice guy" and hates when he doesn't receive a response to his emails.
And then a woman contacts him. He's nice, responds nicely, but not really interested, and is short and terse in his responses, just "chats," just trying to be a "nice guy" and respond to emails he gets but doesn't really pursue her.
Woman doesn't get the hint that he's not interested, he's too much of a "nice guy" to directly address his issue.
She keeps trying harder to draw him out, he keeps trying to be the "nice guy," her behavior turns to near stalking to try and get an "interested" response, he can't afford to be the "nice guy" anymore and has to tell her to leave him alone.


That's enough.
You can pick whichever one makes you feel the best.

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Sat 05/07/16 11:35 PM

Can someone help me to understand this!!!



Yes, stop wasting yo time, get someone real

gods30eye's photo
Sat 05/07/16 11:48 PM
That is probably not him in the pic and he prob thinks he is ugly

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Sat 05/07/16 11:49 PM


Can someone help me to understand this!!!



Yes, stop wasting yo time, get someone real

^^^ this....:thumbsup:

Leo107's photo
Sat 05/07/16 11:58 PM
He is just a jerk, he was doing a time pass with you or used you as a side chick, I hope you are understanding what i want to tell you about him his aim.

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Sun 05/08/16 01:14 PM
Edited by jennysweetgirl on Sun 05/08/16 01:18 PM
Ciretom

Thanks I appreciate the scenarios

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Sun 05/08/16 01:22 PM
Edited by jennysweetgirl on Sun 05/08/16 01:22 PM
Thanks Leo 107

jennysweetgirl's photo
Sun 05/08/16 03:53 PM
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I really appreciate it

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Sun 05/08/16 04:33 PM
Sadly the uneducated suffer at the mercy of more mature people. First, learn how to be assertive, don't invest a great deal of time before meeting as you only build up false and unrealistic expectations brought about through ignorance, emotional needs,and naïve expectations. The real person is just an introduction as chemistry and personal comfort can only be learned with a face to face. I also suggest a short meet and greet to avoid protracted long and uncomfortable first dinners that do no one any good. By meeting and quickly the first step in a dating process is achieved. The more a person invests in texting and conversation the greater an unrealistic perception of the other is created and this makes for more awkward confrontations later when two decide to meet. Granted people need to feel comfortable before meeting and there are classes to learn more direct and helpful communication skills to help make the process of dating more efficient and helpful....

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Sun 05/08/16 04:36 PM

That is probably not him in the pic and he prob thinks he is ugly


Gods eye: Yes yes, I agree with you. What if he is a scammer?

Dear Jenny, please, don't run after a man who doesn't run after you!!!

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Sun 05/08/16 05:30 PM
Sybariticguy

Thanks a lot

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Sun 05/08/16 05:31 PM
Winterkind

Thank you

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Sun 05/08/16 07:24 PM
You know it really doesn't matter the why's what matters do you want to continue asking to meet someone and them bail on you over and over?

That is the bottom line. IF you are happy with cyber then keep on trucking but think about the waste it is of your time and energy..

I say cut bait and find someone that you can actually touch...

best wishes

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Sun 05/08/16 10:20 PM
Could be nervous or doesn't want to be seen. Who knows. Bless you.

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Wed 05/11/16 12:40 AM
That person may not be genuine if they keep dodging you

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