I waited until marriage. At 26 it was a bit difficult waiting but it felt good to look my new wife (as I closed the hotel room door behind me) and said you are the first one.

Dont do it. It means nothing

* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnjV7qIPVsA

* PARADISE BY THE DASHBOARD LIGHT - MEATLOAF LYRICS





* Enjoy life, be happy, play nice...

Well...I didn't wait...I mean it was a drunken party, I was 18...
I woke up to something...ummmm...nevermind the gory details...
But I was past waiting or saying...I'm saving my self.....
Then boom....come again...hehe...

If I had my time over...would I wait knowing what I know now...
nahhhh...sorry....

I am going to sound like Old Grandma Time here.

There are very few things you are going to do and be able to give someone just once in your life time. Your virginity is something special if you make it something special.

Since I dare say you ask any adult who was there first they will remember it in detail. Hopefully as a good thing.

Not something done because they were bullied into it or were trying to be cool, or drunk. Not as a rebellion or even a submission to being morally obedient, or superior to someone else.

Giving up your virginity is your gift/your choice and once it is made it is non-refundable so if you just throw it away to get it over with like some worthless event you have in a way devalued your own moment. And you will remember that too.

Will being a virgin mean you are incapable of being a good lover? Come on if sex was that difficult it would not be possible for so many nearly incapacitated people to accomplish and if you are making even a minimal effort at making it a mutual experience the fact that you are not some worn out or over used commodity will make it even better.

The advantage if waiting until you are in a formal relationship is the results of giving up your virginity is that it is more than possible that you are taking on whatever results come from that interlude; pregnancy not being impossible or even the worst consequence in many cases.

There are many who say that the emotional bond is just so much rubbish but I would dare say that if I am going to remember someone for the rest of my life it really ought to be someone worth while and significant in my life.

At less than twenty one that is very hard to tell. While I married younger I will be the first to tell you that the pressure of trying to live up to being a full fledged emancipated adult with a partner is a whole lot more work and emotional investment than it sounds like. And it is way more pain when it turns out badly if you have to have regrets that you gave something that means something to you to someone who does not have the respect and feeling for you.

Well put, thank you.
Let he who has ears hear what wisdom says.

I agree with this. I made the same commitment with her. No sex before marriage. That's a decision to made and stand firm by it.

I agree with this. I made the same commitment with her. No sex before marriage. That's a decision to made and stand firm by it.

You should wait to have sex until you are ready even if you're ready before you get married but if you feel like you're ready and it's the right person then go for it....it doesn't have to always be about marriage....it is all about you and how you feel

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