Topic: PTSD from mental abuse
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Thu 09/22/16 03:26 PM
I am a 52 yr old man who has just stared therapy for Ptsd from mental abuse i suffered from my ex wife almost 20 years ago. i have been suffering from this for almost 20 years yet just within the last couple weeks have figured out what it is and am seeking help my now wife does not understand it and it is straining our marriage anyone else dealing with this nd if so can we talk about how you are dealing with it

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Thu 09/22/16 04:38 PM

I am a 52 yr old man who has just stared therapy for Ptsd from mental abuse i suffered from my ex wife almost 20 years ago. i have been suffering from this for almost 20 years yet just within the last couple weeks have figured out what it is and am seeking help my now wife does not understand it and it is straining our marriage anyone else dealing with this nd if so can we talk about how you are dealing with it


SHE NEEDS TO GO WITH YOU AT LEAST THE FIRST TIME TO FULLY UNDERSTAND HOW BAD IT

CAN BE FOR A MAN ALSO.....LACK OF EMPATHY FROM A MATE IS NOT A SIGN OF

LOVE....MATES NEED TO BE ABLE TO EMPATHIZE WITH EACH OTHER TO HAVE A GOOD

HEALTHY EMOTIONAL BOND WITH EACH OTHER......GOOD LUCK, I HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR

YOU AND YOUR NEW MATE.....:heart:

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Thu 09/22/16 04:44 PM
I suggest giving your current wife literature on it.

And getting in a support group with ALL MEN.

This is very odd , coming on a date site sharing this & talking about your TWO exs... Looking for other PTSD women is VERY suspicious. spock

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Thu 09/22/16 05:58 PM
I suggest you go to therapy instead of looking on a dating site for someone to talk to

Mike6615's photo
Mon 10/10/16 07:24 PM

I suggest you go to therapy instead of looking on a dating site for someone to talk to

Very good advice. And I want to say you look SO much like a young Susan Sarandon!

TMommy's photo
Mon 10/10/16 07:34 PM


I suggest you go to therapy instead of looking on a dating site for someone to talk to

Very good advice. And I want to say you look SO much like a young Susan Sarandon!
hahahaa..ya know that woman reminds me so much of my mom it's not even funny grumble

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Tue 12/06/16 11:27 PM

I am a 52 yr old man who has just stared therapy for Ptsd from mental abuse i suffered from my ex wife almost 20 years ago. i have been suffering from this for almost 20 years yet just within the last couple weeks have figured out what it is and am seeking help my now wife does not understand it and it is straining our marriage anyone else dealing with this nd if so can we talk about how you are dealing with it
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Hello Friend:

The PTSD like it is in everyone is locked into the muscle memory and the Autonomic Nervous System. The problem is not in your head it is in your body.

Consequently 'talk' therapy and 'drug' therapy will not be of any help what so ever.

As an example for Combat veterans they do to combat school and with their sparring partner do 1000s of the same combat move .. until exhaustion. They sleep it off and then that combat move is in their muscle memory.

They go into combat, the adrenaline is running, an incident happens .. the sparring move comes out .. they live and then come home to having nightmares.

They have a dream one night and wake up with their dead wife in their hands.

As I said .. drugs and talk will not fix this stuff up.

What does fix it up .. is hot yoga, classical old school Chinese Acupuncture and Integrative Body Psychotherapy such as practiced by the Rosenberg and Rand system of intervention. Biofeedback is a big help as well in resetting the Autonomic Nervous System.

This is hard work to do ... like going to combat school with all those weeks and month dedicated .. that whole tree has to be turned upside down.

You have to dedicate your self .. to your recovery.

So ... get clean and sober .. no daily mood altering substance.

No coffee, no smoke, no alcohol .. no drugs ... for the next 8 years.

The disease has to come out of the body.

This means you have cry out the bitter salty tears .. they are toxic.

Tears of happiness and joy are light and sweet - biochemically different.

The bitter salty tears are what makes the PTSD up and the toxic behaviours.

Getting well .. is easy to do .. just a corker to get done.

You have to WANT TO DO THIS .. if you don't then it will haunt you and screw up your life way past death.

So get to work ...

it will be the hardest thing you have every done in your life.

I had to do it for my children ... for me to deal with the pain that had to come out of my body.

My very warmest regards.

sumbuddie wear blind sea

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Tue 04/18/17 08:04 PM
It can be hard for people who are not wired to be abusers to even comprehend how people can be systematically abusive. It is very difficult for layer spouses to comprehend. Especiallybif they have not been abused themselves.

What is rarely acknowledged by the powers that be that women can be victimizers against their spouses or children and it goes on for years making g the victim feel hopeless that society will ever "get up to speed and actively protect or provide aftercare.

Because men are rarely seen as victims no matter how well documented. I have seen cases where fathers were sent to jail for the abuse of Mothers but rarely the other way around.

Making male victims shame and submission so deeply ingrain that they have a hard time not submitting even when they are no longer a direct victim of the original abuser but later are abused by the "system".



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Tue 04/18/17 08:04 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Tue 04/18/17 08:05 PM
Sorry double post