i want to see how a MAN responds vs a boy trying to fit in a mans shoes....

That Depends upon who thy Father is?? John 8:42-47 tells us that there are two Fathers that we can choose from and the Father we choose will determine what Type of Woman he seeks!!

Take Eve!! Now Eve encouraged Adam to Eat of the Forbidden Fruit, which brought Sin into this World!!
Now look at Sarah, she encouraged Abraham to have Sex with her Maid Servant, which brought Islam into this World!!

Take Ruth, she showed Boaz that she would make a good Wife for him and they were Blessed!!
Take Mary, she was Obedient to God and brought Salvation into this World through Christ Jesus!!

Why is there so much Divorce in this World of today??
Deuteronomy 24:1-5 tells us to give a Certificate of Divorce!!
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 tells us that a woman must not leave her Husband and a Husband must not Divorce his Wife!!

Hmmm Interesting!! Hebrews 10:29 tells us what will happen, if we place Jesus under our feet, we lose our Salvation that was given to us by Grace!!

This tells me that it is through our own actions we either bring upon ourselves a Curse or a Blessing!!

a man whos heart is after GOD's can better gain the love of a women, but one whos heart is after this world will never find happiness, GOD is our foundation without him everything will crumble....

What a man looks for in a woman is different for each man. Their past experiences and current desires are different and unique as each single one of us are.

true but before u can really find what it is u want in another person u have to fully examine ur self, for instance if ur weakness is not being able to keep urself lifted in bad times and even good you will need that strength in ur partner.... but there really isnt any greater strength than 2 people having the same strength in GOD because he gives each person just enough strength for both of them to use off each other.... its a great balance in my eyes

It will be changed with time.

that is all well and good and that is the kind of man you should seek... where you both live by the lord almighty ... then this will bring the balance you believe works ...

Well, I'm not a man, but still... I think it mostly depends on how (emotionally) mature the man in question is.
For instance, a guy who's dependent, would prolly fall for strong, bossy women. The mother type even maybe, someone he can lean on and cling to.

A man who is insecure and hides it by being dominant, demanding etc will likely go for a meek woman. But often she IS the one who carries the load, and his insecure little ego, she just doesn't object to his dominance and controlling power.

A narcissist will go for a vulnerable weak woman he can manipulate after he's reeled her in by putting her on a pedestal.

A balanced, empowered man will look for a balanced empowered woman. A woman who's confident, independent (as in not needy and clingy), can deal with her feelings and emotions herself without being a drama queen, doesn't have walls up around her heart so he can connect with her. A woman that will complement him like he will complement her, not needing to feel in gaps and voids.
Such a woman is strong on the inside and soft and approachable on the outside.

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A balanced, empowered man will look for a balanced empowered woman. A woman who's confident, independent (as in not needy and clingy), can deal with her feelings and emotions herself without being a drama queen, doesn't have walls up around her heart so he can connect with her. A woman that will complement him like he will complement her, not needing to feel in gaps and voids.
Such a woman is strong on the inside and soft and approachable on the outside.

I stole this Crystal. Very well worded and what I look for. Thanks you amaze me.

Hihi, be my guest, and thank you for your kind words!

I agree. Well said, Crystal.

Pretty bad when the best answer, to a question directed towards guys, is from a woman. lol Just kidding, men of mingle.

On the other hand, you pointed out some definite flaws that are found in a LOT of women (needy, clingy, drama queens) that maybe a guy on here wouldn't feel comfortable pointing out.

That being said, it works both ways. If you are a woman looking for a man, you will find those same types (insecure, etc.), and have to go through the painful process of sniffing them out, then avoiding them or getting rid of them, posthaste.

I think we are all (men and women) looking for a SECURE, well-rounded, confident, person, that is still willing to be vulnerable enough to let someone in, to form a connection. They don't grow on trees.

Body ratios, facial feature ratios, ease of communication, the rest is negotiable and depends on experience and social training.


Then you'll never find an answer as you can label anyone that doesn't respond how you like not a "MAN" and ignore what you don't want to read.


Then you're kinda in a pickle, because theoretically only god can know what's "truly" in a man's heart.

Which means all women can be fooled, making the question pointless.


That's not really possible.
Not "fully."
As you lie to yourself, you build false memories, you romanticize your past, you see yourself and everyone else in a biased way. Everyone does. It's a basic defense mechanism of the human brain. You actively work against yourself "fully" examining yourself.
And every moment you sit around self examining, that's a moment not out living (and I'm assuming you don't live in your psychotherapists office, that would be expensive!).

Plus, you are constantly changing. I mean when you were 15 you found 15 year old boys kinda attractive. How about now? Still the same?
You drive the same car? Wear the same shoes as always?
Still believe in Santa Claus like you might have when as a kid?
How long did you "examine ur self" before you rationally determined your belief had to change?

You do have a shelf life. The longer you "examine ur self" the more the clock tick tick ticks away, and the more you're ultimately going to realize you will never have your ducks in a row where you can be completely proactive in interacting with the world and have it not change you...creating more need to "examine ur self."


Good luck finding a guy without flaws, which is basically what you are describing while trying to avoid saying it a certain way.
Other than that, not necessarily.
It's more likely that a "balanced, empowered man" won't
look for a woman in the first place.
Why rock the boat.
First dates and relationship development is a lot of rebalancing, a lot of sharing power, giving up power, and unempowering in certain aspects to adapt to someone else.
A new relationship is change. A new relationship requires new communication skills.

Not to mention, you are completely discounting hormones and how they make fools of all of us.
As well as the social environment in which people exist.
People don't live on islands, nor as super ninja monks with complete control of their central nervous system.

The only "balanced, empowered man," (or woman) who is balanced, and empowered at all times, in all ways, you'll find is a sociopath.

Other than that:

Dissonant internal and external means they aren't balanced or empowered.
The external is a facade if it doesn't match the internal.
People build facades simply because they aren't balanced, don't feel empowered, don't feel safe and secure without it. Insecure.

At best if you ever truly encounter someone "balanced and empowered," you are going to think they aren't interested and don't really give a crap about anything other than themselves and whatever makes them feel good.