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Topic: the line between liking or loving
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Wed 11/23/16 04:22 AM
you more than like the person but you dont love him so you cannot commit...what would be the best description then ? more than liking but definitely not love could there be a word for it?

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Wed 11/23/16 04:28 AM
It's called growing the relationship. Women are to eager to hit the gas to get their guy to say I love you. Be patient and wait. You rush and you get passion, but no fire. Hope this helps.

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Wed 11/23/16 04:35 AM

It's called growing the relationship. Women are to eager to hit the gas to get their guy to say I love you. Be patient and wait. You rush and you get passion, but no fire. Hope this helps.

what if its the other way around and the person wants you to admit you love him too but its more than liking but definitely not love yet slaphead

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Wed 11/23/16 04:59 AM


It's called growing the relationship. Women are to eager to hit the gas to get their guy to say I love you. Be patient and wait. You rush and you get passion, but no fire. Hope this helps.

what if its the other way around and the person wants you to admit you love him too but its more than liking but definitely not love yet slaphead


Best to ask the person to explain themselves a bit more. Ask them why it's so important to them for you to declare yourself. Ask them what it means to them, if you say yes.

Some who are eager to hear the "L" word, are just over-romantic, some are anxious, and need some sort of calming down.

Some are hoping to get the other person to sort of sign a contract, sight unseen, where if you say it is love, they will add in a host of assumptions about how the two of you deal with each other, which they think EVERYONE knows and agrees to about love. That is often the trickiest thing: the unspoken assumptions about what the spoken words really mean.

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Wed 11/23/16 05:20 AM



It's called growing the relationship. Women are to eager to hit the gas to get their guy to say I love you. Be patient and wait. You rush and you get passion, but no fire. Hope this helps.

what if its the other way around and the person wants you to admit you love him too but its more than liking but definitely not love yet slaphead


Best to ask the person to explain themselves a bit more. Ask them why it's so important to them for you to declare yourself. Ask them what it means to them, if you say yes.

Some who are eager to hear the "L" word, are just over-romantic, some are anxious, and need some sort of calming down.

Some are hoping to get the other person to sort of sign a contract, sight unseen, where if you say it is love, they will add in a host of assumptions about how the two of you deal with each other, which they think EVERYONE knows and agrees to about love. That is often the trickiest thing: the unspoken assumptions about what the spoken words really mean.

thanks for this:thumbsup:

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Wed 11/23/16 05:29 AM
It's like a pizza that's pulled out of the oven too fast. Gooey and quite a mess.. ;^)

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Wed 11/23/16 05:33 AM

It's like a pizza that's pulled out of the oven too fast. Gooey and quite a mess.. ;^)

undercooked lol chewy winking

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Wed 11/23/16 08:42 AM
Between Like and Love? Loke or Live tongue2

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Wed 11/23/16 09:28 AM

Between Like and Love? Loke or Live tongue2


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Wed 11/23/16 09:38 AM
op I would tell them to slow down ... and if they wait for your feelings to change from like to love ...then this helps the both of you ... sometimes if they say they love you to soon ... they just want a intimate relationship... and them might move on after ...

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Wed 11/23/16 06:15 PM

op I would tell them to slow down ... and if they wait for your feelings to change from like to love ...then this helps the both of you ... sometimes if they say they love you to soon ... they just want a intimate relationship... and them might move on after ...

flowers taking it slow

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Wed 11/23/16 06:26 PM

you more than like the person but you dont love him so you cannot commit...what would be the best description then ? more than liking but definitely not love could there be a word for it?


How about admiration

Best when mutual

Better when it serves a mutual purpose

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Wed 11/23/16 06:28 PM

you more than like the person but you dont love him so you cannot commit...what would be the best description then ?

Uh ... friend zone?

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Wed 11/23/16 07:44 PM
I wouldn't call it friend zone yet - unless the person is sure they will never have "those" feelings for the other person.

After really like before love ... it's just like a lot laugh

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Wed 11/23/16 08:01 PM

I wouldn't call it friend zone yet - unless the person is sure they will never have "those" feelings for the other person.

After really like before love ... it's just like a lot laugh

yes dear very confusing really whoa

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Thu 11/24/16 06:28 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Thu 11/24/16 06:31 AM
I think it also depends on how long that has been going on. And not just the duration of dating, but also the frequency you met counts.
And what you do during those dates of course. For instance, if you only ever meet at a restaurant, sipping coffees and talking over a table, you cannot expect to really go anywhere. You won't really get to know each other.
If you did however spent quality time together, done all sorts of activities and have shared emotional -normally bonding- moments, you should naturally get closer.
I think that if you see each other regularly, and have done so for quite some time, and still don't feel "it", they're just not the right match.
The fact that they feel it is meaningless in a way. You don't know their reasons for feeling that way (if they really do to begin with), nor their reasons for voicing it. The fact a guy is pushing to hear you say "I love you" makes me feel he is needy, dependent or insecure. BUt that's not the right reason to say "I love you" nor for you to say it to him. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there.

Oh, and like some said here before in other topics, and like Cher sang: It's in the kiss.
What do you feel when you kiss? If it's just nice... end it.
Kissing is the first chemistry test between partners. Not making that up myself, it really is. Pheromones, hormones mixing from saliva etc is some sort of 'test' to see if you are a match to create healthy offspring.
Of course you don't think about creating offspring when you kiss, lol, but the test works just the same. Primal instincts are still alive and kicking.
So if kissing doesn't compute, the relationship won't either. I have learnt the truth of this the hard way.

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Thu 11/24/16 06:45 AM

I think it also depends on how long that has been going on. And not just the duration of dating, but also the frequency you met counts.
And what you do during those dates of course. For instance, if you only ever meet at a restaurant, sipping coffees and talking over a table, you cannot expect to really go anywhere. You won't really get to know each other.
If you did however spent quality time together, done all sorts of activities and have shared emotional -normally bonding- moments, you should naturally get closer.
I think that if you see each other regularly, and have done so for quite some time, and still don't feel "it", they're just not the right match.
The fact that they feel it is meaningless in a way. You don't know their reasons for feeling that way (if they really do to begin with), nor their reasons for voicing it. The fact a guy is pushing to hear you say "I love you" makes me feel he is needy, dependent or insecure. BUt that's not the right reason to say "I love you" nor for you to say it to him. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there.

Oh, and like some said here before in other topics, and like Cher sang: It's in the kiss.
What do you feel when you kiss? If it's just nice... end it.
Kissing is the first chemistry test between partners. Not making that up myself, it really is. Pheromones, hormones mixing from saliva etc is some sort of 'test' to see if you are a match to create healthy offspring.
Of course you don't think about creating offspring when you kiss, lol, but the test works just the same. Primal instincts are still alive and kicking.
So if kissing doesn't compute, the relationship won't either. I have learnt the truth of this the hard way.

hello crystal :heart: you really should've had a brother i could meet (sigh) i admire the things you say about the topics posted here and more. not only are they informative but very enlightening heres to reading more of your thoughts soon dear :heart:wavingflowers

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 11/24/16 06:50 AM


I think it also depends on how long that has been going on. And not just the duration of dating, but also the frequency you met counts.
And what you do during those dates of course. For instance, if you only ever meet at a restaurant, sipping coffees and talking over a table, you cannot expect to really go anywhere. You won't really get to know each other.
If you did however spent quality time together, done all sorts of activities and have shared emotional -normally bonding- moments, you should naturally get closer.
I think that if you see each other regularly, and have done so for quite some time, and still don't feel "it", they're just not the right match.
The fact that they feel it is meaningless in a way. You don't know their reasons for feeling that way (if they really do to begin with), nor their reasons for voicing it. The fact a guy is pushing to hear you say "I love you" makes me feel he is needy, dependent or insecure. BUt that's not the right reason to say "I love you" nor for you to say it to him. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there.

Oh, and like some said here before in other topics, and like Cher sang: It's in the kiss.
What do you feel when you kiss? If it's just nice... end it.
Kissing is the first chemistry test between partners. Not making that up myself, it really is. Pheromones, hormones mixing from saliva etc is some sort of 'test' to see if you are a match to create healthy offspring.
Of course you don't think about creating offspring when you kiss, lol, but the test works just the same. Primal instincts are still alive and kicking.
So if kissing doesn't compute, the relationship won't either. I have learnt the truth of this the hard way.

hello crystal :heart: you really should've had a brother i could meet (sigh) i admire the things you say about the topics posted here and more. not only are they informative but very enlightening heres to reading more of your thoughts soon dear :heart:wavingflowers

Oww.. thank you Scepticalsoulmate, that's really sweet to say and nice to hear! :heart: flowerforyou
Sorry about the brother ... tongue2

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Thu 11/24/16 10:27 AM
Omg everybody is there like an philosopher ....relation is feeling with trust simple

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Thu 11/24/16 07:46 PM
you more than like the person but you dont love him so you cannot commit...what would be the best description then ?

Depends on too many things.
For all I know the person in this hypothetical is keeping themselves from admitting feelings and just can't make adult decisions.

Can they not commit because of excessive fear? Not enough expected emotions? Too many other emotions or input from other sources? Just not understanding their own emotions?

Other than that the best description would be "get away from them and find someone that isn't going to be playing these non committal 'i like you, just not that much, could be more someday maybe, but maybe not...I don't know...' games."

more than liking but definitely not love could there be a word for it?

Childish.
Make a decision.
Try for more and be honest about how you are feeling communicate about it, sit around and wait for some kind of magic love monster to bite you, or move on and find someone who will make you feel how you want to feel.

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