I like the way you write.

To me, complete feels like the wrong word.
We are social animals by nature. We thrive in the company of others like us.
To me, complete implies that somehow I am incomplete without someone. In a way I guess it is true, in that social sense.
Anyone that has experienced loss of love knows the feeling of being incomplete. Especially those on a dating site looking for someone special.
There is a big hole in the heart where that love was torn away. The feeling of being incomplete often persists a great deal longer than we think it should. We try to find someone to fill in the void. To feel complete again.

Being alone is different from being lonely because when someone is lonely they have a driving need within themselves to fill the void. Once the void is filled by anything, lonely is a fleeting thing. That is when they start to feel complete again. If feeling complete were all we humans need, there would be no need to try to find someone special.

Its a double-edged sword.
In attempting to fill the void and remove the emptiness of lost love we fill the void with other things. If we fill it too completely we lose the need to find another someone special.
Being social creatures we have a driving need to find that special someone out of our natural social needs. Having made all those changes to fill the last void we are over-picky about who we allow back into our hearts.
Since no one person can fill every expectation and desire, we remain alone.

Imagining a surface as complete, it is smooth and polished to perfection. We attempt to find someone that is also smooth and polished like two machined surfaces perfectly matched to each other.

The reality is that we are more like rough bumpy surfaces with nooks and crannies, hills and valleys. What we should be looking for is a mating surface that has nooks and crannies, hills and valleys that align closer to what we are. Understanding that a perfect match is not really going to happen.

As the relationship grows, over time, the differences are filled in by love from both parties. Love is like a glue that fills in the gaps and bonds the connection. The person doesn't complete you as much as the love bonds you.

Love cannot bond every surface. Sometimes the bumps don't line up at all. The gaps are too big to fill. If we try to bond with those, the bond is weak and breaks. If one surface is too complete and has no bumps there is no connection possible for the surface with bumps and the surfaces slip by one another.

The quest is to find someone with the bumps in all the right places so the match requires less glue. Perhaps one surface in all the world might match perfectly. Many people try to wait for that perfect surface to come along. Never checking the match on any other surface. Unable to understand that it is the glue that comes from both surfaces that fills in the gaps. It mixes and bonds with each surface.

Not all glues are compatible. They don't mix right. The bond breaks. You scrape off your glue and try again. The trick is to keep trying. You gotta try the connection before you can determine if the glue is compatible. If you don't, all you are is a bumpy surface with glue on it...

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hello dear ! how r you ? I am Rony from bangladesh ,

Hai I am fine r u well ,

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