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i never realized how songs can make and break our hearts especially when it has been shared between people that truly cared for each other. those songs will always be "ours" may it be happy or sad. it is part of the yesterday or the tomorrow we could possibly have. whoever said its better to have loved and lost than not love at all is a person full of BS
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i never realized how songs can make and break our hearts especially when it has been shared between people that truly cared for each other. those songs will always be "ours" may it be happy or sad. it is part of the yesterday or the tomorrow we could possibly have. whoever said its better to have loved and lost than not love at all is a person full of BS Tennyson I do believe, I agree with him otherwise I would never had my kids. But you're right in one sense, those 'our songs' can be difficult to listen too. |
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i never realized how songs can make and break our hearts especially when it has been shared between people that truly cared for each other. those songs will always be "ours" may it be happy or sad. it is part of the yesterday or the tomorrow we could possibly have. whoever said its better to have loved and lost than not love at all is a person full of BS Tennyson I do believe, I agree with him otherwise I would never had my kids. But you're right in one sense, those 'our songs' can be difficult to listen too. hello joe... peace  thanks for dropping a line
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Contrary I believe that being able to work through the feelings of pain and loss leads to greater wisdom and understanding and empathy to help facilitate greater appreciation for future love as it helps one learn to appreciate the fragility of our emotions and their needed acceptance. Being able to work through emotions leads to wonderful memories and a sense of gratitude over what was shared and experienced. When folks are grieving over lost love its a matter of unfinished business that counseling can address. Each event in life both positive and negative are to help us learn or to teach a needed awareness if we are wise enough and strong enough to understand their meaning and significance.. To the extent that one is still angry, bitter or frustrated is also a degree to which one is not able to love another as prior unfinished emotions need be resolved...So for me, hearing a song that was special with a significant other has a warm and joyous feeling and not one of pain or sorrow.... Learning how to manage ones emotions is a developmental task that anyone can master but few find the courage t and help to do so...
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Contrary I believe that being able to work through the feelings of pain and loss leads to greater wisdom and understanding and empathy to help facilitate greater appreciation for future love as it helps one learn to appreciate the fragility of our emotions and their needed acceptance. Being able to work through emotions leads to wonderful memories and a sense of gratitude over what was shared and experienced. When folks are grieving over lost love its a matter of unfinished business that counseling can address. Each event in life both positive and negative are to help us learn or to teach a needed awareness if we are wise enough and strong enough to understand their meaning and significance.. To the extent that one is still angry, bitter or frustrated is also a degree to which one is not able to love another as prior unfinished emotions need be resolved...So for me, hearing a song that was special with a significant other has a warm and joyous feeling and not one of pain or sorrow.... Learning how to manage ones emotions is a developmental task that anyone can master but few find the courage t and help to do so... that was beautiful and positive your further thoughts are most welcome
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Music brings us back to many moments in our lives. It is not exclusive to love and love lost. Music connects me to many memories. Perhaps more than anything else.
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Edited by
msharmony
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Mon 04/03/17 10:25 AM
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i never realized how songs can make and break our hearts especially when it has been shared between people that truly cared for each other. those songs will always be "ours" may it be happy or sad. it is part of the yesterday or the tomorrow we could possibly have. whoever said its better to have loved and lost than not love at all is a person full of BS  I have thought that often, it contradicts the belief that 'ignorance is bliss'. I believe many attribute the saying specifically to romantic love, in which case I believe it is BS. I do , however believe the saying to be true of love, IN GENERAL. It would suck to go through life and never LOVE or be loved by anyone. In which case, I would rather have had a father that loved me and passed, than to have a life where I never knew any type of love at all. and yes, music is definitely its own time machine. I have been brought to tears suddenly and unexpectedly when a song from my past came on that took me to a time of losing someone I loved. It is a powerful resource, music, and can also do so much to unite us. |
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Music brings us back to many moments in our lives. It is not exclusive to love and love lost. Music connects me to many memories. Perhaps more than anything else.
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Edited by
RustyKitty
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Mon 04/03/17 05:43 PM
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Music brings us back to many moments in our lives. It is not exclusive to love and love lost. Music connects me to many memories. Perhaps more than anything else. Yes, you took the words right out of my mouth! A certain song will trigger a memory of a situation or era in time, a moment in our life.. Crimson & Clover by Tommy James & the Shondells = grade 7 and getting kicked in the shin with an ice skate..; Maggie May by Rod Stewart= grade 10 and moving to a new town and new school... ahhh, the memories of music 
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Music brings us back to many moments in our lives. It is not exclusive to love and love lost. Music connects me to many memories. Perhaps more than anything else. I could not agree more |
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i never realized how songs can make and break our hearts especially when it has been shared between people that truly cared for each other. those songs will always be "ours" may it be happy or sad. it is part of the yesterday or the tomorrow we could possibly have. whoever said its better to have loved and lost than not love at all is a person full of BS I have thought that often, it contradicts the belief that 'ignorance is bliss'. I believe many attribute the saying specifically to romantic love, in which case I believe it is BS. I do , however believe the saying to be true of love, IN GENERAL. It would suck to go through life and never LOVE or be loved by anyone. In which case, I would rather have had a father that loved me and passed, than to have a life where I never knew any type of love at all. and yes, music is definitely its own time machine. I have been brought to tears suddenly and unexpectedly when a song from my past came on that took me to a time of losing someone I loved. It is a powerful resource, music, and can also do so much to unite us. couldnt have said it any better 
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I don't read much poetry. I don't pay much attention to the meanings of words that are sung in a song. The poetry that I do read is usually lyrics to a song I like. So when I sing along in my head I make the right sounds.
I get more enjoyment from the sounds in a song than the words that are sung. Every time someone has told me this is "our song" I'm like...okay? Then it gets played over and over again till it becomes associated with us in my mind. Sometimes I don't even know the singer or even the title. What I do know is the fist opening sounds of the song. Sometimes I know the sounds of a song so well that when I hear a midi version of it I can sing along in my head with the same sounds as the actual song. Sometimes I post the lyrics to a song. That is because the sounds being made by the singer are sometimes not the enunciated words of the song and I like the lyrics for clarity. Sometimes after learning to like the sounds of a song I use the lyrics to get some meaning. The meaning of songs is far less important to me than the sound of a song. Music moves me. Literally, makes me move. I sense the words being sung as another instrument. I can dance to just the words or any instrument but mostly I move different parts of my body to different instruments I hear. I synchronize with the sounds. One of the "Our Song" that a young woman told me was a song that was playing the first time we made love. It wasn't the words that she made our song it was the intensity of our love making while that song was playing. Foghat ~ Slow Ride http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcCNcgoyG_0 If you look at the words in the lyrics, there is nothing really romantic about them. "Slow Ride" Woo! Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy I'm in the mood The rhythm is right Move to the music We can roll all night Oooh slow ride Oooh Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Woo! I'm in the mood The rhythm is right Move to the music We can roll all night Oooh Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Slow ride, easy, slow ride, sleazy Slow ride, easy, slow ride, sleazy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down Go down Slow down Go down Come on, baby Take a slow ride with me Come on, baby Take a slow ride Oh, feel good Mmmm, feels so good I like it, yeah I feel good Oh, I feel all right You know the rhythm is right You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right Woah, come all night Slow ride! It was our song. Listening to it now has no impact on me except I still love the sounds. |
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I don't read much poetry. I don't pay much attention to the meanings of words that are sung in a song. The poetry that I do read is usually lyrics to a song I like. So when I sing along in my head I make the right sounds. I get more enjoyment from the sounds in a song than the words that are sung. Every time someone has told me this is "our song" I'm like...okay? Then it gets played over and over again till it becomes associated with us in my mind. Sometimes I don't even know the singer or even the title. What I do know is the fist opening sounds of the song. Sometimes I know the sounds of a song so well that when I hear a midi version of it I can sing along in my head with the same sounds as the actual song. Sometimes I post the lyrics to a song. That is because the sounds being made by the singer are sometimes not the enunciated words of the song and I like the lyrics for clarity. Sometimes after learning to like the sounds of a song I use the lyrics to get some meaning. The meaning of songs is far less important to me than the sound of a song. Music moves me. Literally, makes me move. I sense the words being sung as another instrument. I can dance to just the words or any instrument but mostly I move different parts of my body to different instruments I hear. I synchronize with the sounds. One of the "Our Song" that a young woman told me was a song that was playing the first time we made love. It wasn't the words that she made our song it was the intensity of our love making while that song was playing. Foghat ~ Slow Ride http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcCNcgoyG_0 If you look at the words in the lyrics, there is nothing really romantic about them. "Slow Ride" Woo! Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy I'm in the mood The rhythm is right Move to the music We can roll all night Oooh slow ride Oooh Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Woo! I'm in the mood The rhythm is right Move to the music We can roll all night Oooh Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Slow ride, easy, slow ride, sleazy Slow ride, easy, slow ride, sleazy Slow down, go down, got to get your lovin' one more time Hold me, roll me, slow ridin' woman you're so fine Slow ride, take it easy Slow ride, take it easy Slow down Go down Slow down Go down Come on, baby Take a slow ride with me Come on, baby Take a slow ride Oh, feel good Mmmm, feels so good I like it, yeah I feel good Oh, I feel all right You know the rhythm is right You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right We've got to rock all night You know the rhythm is right Woah, come all night Slow ride! It was our song. Listening to it now has no impact on me except I still love the sounds. this is one unique way of seeing music...i will give it a try 
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I love Slow Ride. I spun it in my younger days and I have the memory of seeing them do it live.
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I love Slow Ride. I spun it in my younger days and I have the memory of seeing them do it live. I will listen to it asap
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for whatever reason, none of the songs I shared with my exex ever brought me pain in the after math, which confuses me. Im that lame girl who cries during commercials
 But I can understand why music can have that effect on people. As for the saying it is "better to have loved," I find it to be true. Maybe your wound is too raw at the moment skeptical, but after you get some distance from the situation you might feel differently . Love for me isnt just about the butterfly feelings and smiles that infatuation evokes. For me its about the lessons I learned about myself and others For eg, I discovered the lengths I was willing to go for love, as well as the things I would never do or give up for love and reinforced what my values and prioroties were, explored my vulnerability and insecurities. I feel like I have a better relationship with myself and others because of it. But I agree,before getting to that point, the pain is freakin TORTURE! |
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for whatever reason, none of the songs I shared with my exex ever brought me pain in the after math, which confuses me. Im that lame girl who cries during commercials
But I can understand why music can have that effect on people. As for the saying it is "better to have loved," I find it to be true. Maybe your wound is too raw at the moment skeptical, but after you get some distance from the situation you might feel differently . Love for me isnt just about the butterfly feelings and smiles that infatuation evokes. For me its about the lessons I learned about myself and others For eg, I discovered the lengths I was willing to go for love, as well as the things I would never do or give up for love and reinforced what my values and prioroties were, explored my vulnerability and insecurities. I feel like I have a better relationship with myself and others because of it. But I agree,before getting to that point, the pain is freakin TORTURE! [/quote Peggy   |
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Losing the ability to enjoy certain music because of a heartbreak can be as resentment-creating as the actual mess that the other person put me through.
As for that old chestnut about "loved and lost," it's something that requires perspective, to appreciate. I find that the vast majority of the people who quote it, actually have no clue what they are talking about. They often still have that childhood idea of love, as some sort of desert treat. But the saying really is obviously true, in the sense that if you've never loved and lost, you are unlikely to actually comprehend how rich your life WAS because of it. The "ignorance is bliss" thing is the more incorrect one. Especially as regards love. I've had all manner of "knowings" and "not knowings" related to love, and for certain, the most dramatically painful ones were all due to the "not knowings." Watch out especially for the "finding out too lates," though. Those are the true killers of the soul. |
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Losing the ability to enjoy certain music because of a heartbreak can be as resentment-creating as the actual mess that the other person put me through.
As for that old chestnut about "loved and lost," it's something that requires perspective, to appreciate. I find that the vast majority of the people who quote it, actually have no clue what they are talking about. They often still have that childhood idea of love, as some sort of desert treat. But the saying really is obviously true, in the sense that if you've never loved and lost, you are unlikely to actually comprehend how rich your life WAS because of it. The "ignorance is bliss" thing is the more incorrect one. Especially as regards love. I've had all manner of "knowings" and "not knowings" related to love, and for certain, the most dramatically painful ones were all due to the "not knowings." Watch out especially for the "finding out too lates," though. Those are the true killers of the soul  quite profound and something to think about Igor... thanks |
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OK I therefore conclude that love that lasts is just good while it lasts
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